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by Cucan Pemo, Cuc

Making sure that the situation is dealt with is one thing that most women, not all, will want to do.

1) Listening and not talking

Listening is the solution. You need to be able to talk to people and hear what is going on. It is important to make sure that two people sit down and talk about things that are going on in their life. Make sure that you are doing all that you can to keep the lines of communication open. Having good communication is going to be a good source to rely on for any problem that will come up.

When a woman wants to talk things out this generally means that she wants to do all the chatting. She will probably take control of the situation and the best thing that you can do is listen. You should sit there and pay close attention to all that she is saying, taking in every word so that you are hearing it as she wants you to.

You may not have the opportunity to speak but if you are asked a question or she wants you to join in on the discussion, chances are you better do it. If you do not talk to her and keep the conversation going, you will probably find that she gets irritated and this will only add to the problem.

2) Do not feel like it

There will be times when a man does not feel like talking about the things that are going on in life. Some men do not want to sit down and talk things out. This is just the way that some men are. However it is true that if a woman wants to talk to a man about something that is going on in their relationship most of the time they will not take it seriously. They will think that it is just her mood and nothing to get all worked up about.

The first thing that a man should realize is that you cannot blow off anything that a woman wants to talk about. You have to take it serious and sit down and work it all out.

She will feel better knowing that you want to take the time to listen to what she has to say and that she is important to you. Having time to discus the problems that are going on or anything that is making her unhappy is what she will probably want to talk out. This is going to be something that is important for both people to work out.

You have to be willing to sit down and talk to each other. It is going to be a big part of what is going on. You need to make sure that you doing all that you can to make things better within the family. You have to take the steps forward in order to improve the situation that you are in.

This maybe difficult at first but it is something that can be done when you put your mind to it.

3) A big ordeal

It is true that women sometimes like to make more out of something than what they should. This is part of life and something that is going to happen repeatedly.

It does not matter what the topic is, if a woman wants to sit and talk things out it is going to be best that you do it. You will never hear the end of it if you do not. Taking a few minutes out of your day to talk to and listen to your partner is going to make all the difference especially when it comes to making her happy.

Many times, the KEY is really just sitting down besides her and listening to her stories. Most women need to share to sort out their thoughts. You will even notice that they feel and get better with their moods if there is just someone who would be patient enough to sit down and listen to her for a while.

When you are not sure what she wants to hear or what you should say, the one thing to remember is that, you are usually always safe with an apology. This is going to be true for just about any situation.

Make sure that they understand and know that you are going to make an effort to fix the problem. If you are still not sure what the big ordeal is about, you may want to try to notice some of the things that she says or yells about.

Once you have the basics, you can then begin trying to figure out what she wants and how you should go about doing it. For men reading this, you might feel like it is really a chore to sit down and listen when you don't really wish to (depending on your own mood during that particular moment and timing), but really think about this.

At least, she is looking out for you and hoping that you are the one who would listen to her! Do not wait until some other guys come along and snatch her away from you, just because they can listen to her better than you can!

I walked into a Hutch shop to pay an overdue bill and had to do some waiting. As I waited I indulged in my favourite pastime. People Watching. My eye was caught by a rather distinguished looking man sitting at a table, sorting out his billing problems on the phone. Pleasant looking. Nice man. I wondered, he sure looked it.

Then my turn came and I approached the counter to speak to the counter staff about my bill. Before I could actually sit in the chair that was indicated, Mr.Nice Guy hurried over, charged ahead of me and quickly lowered himself into the chair. He studiously avoided looking my way, as if pretending he hadn't noticed me. I fought down my very real irritation, bit my tongue before it found something characteristically acid to say, and retreated.

The man at the counter smiled apologetically at me and said and 'So sorry Madam, I will be with you in a minute'. That really set me thinking. My beat-you-to-the-counter friend had fallen on his keister as far as his image in MY eyes went! And the simple sales guy had taken on a distinct hint of polish.

I was suddenly reminded of an even more revealing encounter a few years ago. My mother and I were walking into the Taj lobby, and as I held open the glass doors for her, I was shocked to find we had got entangled with a long procession of suits and imposing looking posse of executives who had quite obviously come out of an important conference.

To this day I still can't quite believe what happened next. take a guess. Did one of those gorgeous CEOs, CFOs, COOs, CMOs or CTOs step aside gallantly and hold the door open for us two ladies? Think again. As I held open the door for my mother, picture our shock as one of them walked through. My mother's eyebrows started climbing. Another suit walked through. (Let me reassure you that we were not dressed like hotel staff! In fact we were both looking very casual, breezy and rather nice that day!). And before our dazed, horrified and disbelieving eyes, the entire procession of suits walked through that door, being held open by a young woman, with an old lady waiting to go through.

In retrospect I wish I had had the guts to slam the door in their faces, but I am too well brought up. I think my mother gasped. Well really! but skins that thick are unlikely to prickle at something like that!

To those of you haven't figured it out, if chivalry is dead, it isn't women who killed it. In fact, even the good old caveman is rather sighed and longed for. okay maybe we'are all a bit too hair-conscious to acquiesce with the dragging- the-little woman- by -the -hair-routine when he is feeling like a spot of rough-and-tumble. But there are no escaping the fact that the caveman type is protective, he makes you feel small and helpless and stuff like that, which is okay now and then (and all women know that when they want to be taken more seriously, they know how to do it).

What people tend to forget, is that women's lib was about getting freedom from the suppression and oppression, not from the good stuff!! Men who make those little gestures, hold open doors, offer you a seat, and show that they respect you, will always be winners wherever they go, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. And as irritating as it may be, the 'You relax while I take care of things' attitude is a lot more welcome than the 'I'll relax while YOU take care of things' attitude from a man! All you have to do is try the latter for a while and your teeth will soon be on edge.

So ladies, SOMETIMES, it's okay to bat your lashes, cook an old fashioned meal and make the men feel like tigers.I'd rather have a tiger than a skunk!

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