Good, you are not alone. Knowing what women want and becoming that man will have women flocking to you in no time.
In learning about what women want in a man, one of the most important aspects is the idea of attraction. This is the chemistry that can seem intangible in the dating and relationship game, yet with practice, you can give yourself the greatest chance to attract the woman that you are truly interested in.
To create off the hook chemistry and passion between you and a woman, you have to tap into the primal energy that has been pasted on to you through the generations.
In Maslow's hierarchy of needs, this is the very first driving need and motivator. Sex sells, and the advertising agencies know it, because it is the most primal force that has kept our species alive through the generations.
Regardless of how many bizarre, fear based, and guilt inducing religious and human constructs that have been put on sexuality, the primal forces of attraction have continued to pull men and women together.
If a belief system successfully convinced the human race to abstain from sex, then that belief would destroy the human species in one generation, faster than any green house effect, deforestation, or pollution.
Artificial taboos to natural, divine created, biological functioning is what creates the blocks, confusion, and mixed message that then manifests as sexual dysfunction such as rape, molestation, and mutilation.
The key is to reclaim the natural primal energy that is our birthright and harness this great reservoir of raw energy and be able to direct this energy with wisdom. Without the proper understanding, application, or mastery over one's primal energy, you cannot easily create the explosive chemistry to attract women easily.
Imagine if you were transported back to the time of cavemen and cavewoman.
If you lived in ancient times, what qualities in a man would you have chosen?
You would probably pick someone who someone who can fight off wild animals and other cavemen, someone who is willing to stick around to provide for and help raise your baby, someone who can procure the resources of food and shelter, and someone who is visually symmetrical which indicates genetic strength and health.
These subconscious attraction strategies reveal what women are still attracted to today. There is primal selection and attraction energy at work today. Women want someone who is an alpha male (fighter/protector), someone who will stick around (emotional connection), someone who has money (resources), and someone who is good looking (health).
Over thousands of years, women have continually refined their ability to choose men with these four main survival characteristics.
Out of all the qualities selected for by women on a primal level, the alpha male characteristic is one of first ones selected for, because on a primal and survival level, an alpha male can kill someone who is better looking, kill a male who is willing to stick around for a long time with the baby, and take resources and territory away from another male.
This is why many women will choose to be with "bad boys" although many of them reap the emotional havoc from the lack of nurturing and commitment. Many women stick around despite of abuse because their primal attraction mechanism for an alpha male has been fired off.
Many women still desire to be "taken" because an alpha male can take her while beta males hesitate, check around, and ask for permission. However, if they could pick, they would choose to have a "bad boy" who is deeply connected to them emotionally.
Developmentally, a women's emotionally sensitivity is especially heightened because she needs to have the almost psychic ability to sense whether a man is connected to her emotionally. Any time she has sex, on a primal and biological level, she can get pregnant.
If the man is not emotionally connected to her, then he will not be there for her and she could die during childbirth, or at the very least be stuck with taking care of and providing for her child by herself for the next 10+ years. All of this pain and suffering can result from one simple decision and one moment of mis-judgement of a man's character.
As a result of these intense evolutionary pressures, most women have super antennae hard wired into their DNA for alpha male qualities and emotional acuity that can judge whether most guys make the cut within the first 15 seconds.
So regardless of whether you are rich or poor, good looking or plain, if you can master the art of becoming an emotionally mature alpha male, solid and confident in knowing that you can handle yourself in any situation and develop emotional depth, connection, and refinement, you can light up a woman's primal attraction circuitry like a Christmas tree!
This is great news for you because amplifying your primal masculine energy and mastering the art of emotional intimacy are both learnable skills that can take you from being a complete failure with women to being a rock star.
I know, because I was way overweight with English as a second language who couldn't get any prom dates throughout high school and couldn't get laid through college. And now, having had to learn from the ground up, I have dated some of the most gorgeous and amazing women in the world from Budweiser models and models with 2 story pictures hanging from trade centers.
You might be asking yourself, what can I do right now to develop the tribal leader and emotional connection qualities?
One of the best ways to begin to develop yourself into an alpha-male is to begin tapping into your physical power. Work out, get into a competitive sport, learn a martial art.
The sexiest way to channel all this energy is in choosing and claiming of your woman so that you would be willing to die to protect her.
To further develop your ability to create emotional depth with your woman, you have to first follow the ancient axiom, "Cemet Nosce", "Know Thyself". Write down the answers to these questions:
What are you passionate about?
What fulfills you to the core and brings you deep joy?
If you had 60 million dollars what would you create and contribute to the world?
Knowing the answers to these questions and asking these questions of your woman takes you past the façade of daily living into a more core level of vision and living your higher calling that connects the two of you more than just the primal attraction level which is directly related to how good your lovemaking will be later on.
Now that you know what women want in a man, take action.
There's no time like the present, carpe diem, and start developing the essential qualities of an emotionally mature alpha-male today and you will experience the benefits faster than you think.
Copyright (c) 2008 Neo Young
We've all known successful Lotharios who never seem to be without one or two (or more!) women who are crazy about them. Most of the time, they aren't the best looking men around, or the richest, or the most powerful. They just seem to have some mysterious gift that encourages women to give them their hearts. What's their secret?
There is no secret. They just understand women and more importantly - understand what makes women fall in love. You can be one of those men, too. Whether you want to be more successful with a variety of women or just hope to win the heart of one special lady, there are a few basic things to remember that will win women's hearts every time.
1) Make her feel special
Women, like men, are attracted to good-looking people. But very few women will fall for a man just because he's handsome.
Sure, that may get her attention at first, but handsome men often find themselves out of luck when it comes to love. Why? Because they're not focusing their attention where it needs to be - on her.
What you look like is far less important, I've found, than how you look at her. She wants to feel like you're really seeing her, and that you're paying attention to her interests, her needs, and her opinions.
Every woman has gone out with a man who talks about nothing but himself, and there's no bigger turn-off. But if you make her the center of attention and make a sincere effort to listen to what she has to say, she'll be attracted back.
If you find her interesting enough to focus on her completely, she'll want to spend more time with you - because she'll see that you genuinely care about who she is as a person.
While you're focusing on her and making conversation, stay upbeat and happy. On a fundamental level, she's imagining what a relationship with you would be like, and if you do nothing but complain about your co-workers, make snide remarks about other people, or mope about how crummy your life is, she's not going to be imagining a very happy future with you.
If her life isn't going to better with you in it than it is right now, why should she spend time with you? So present yourself as someone who enjoys life, has a sense of humor, and will make her world a happier place if she chooses you as a mate.
2) Money won't buy love
Most men seem to think that they have to have money for a woman to fall in love with them, as if a good job and a nice car is all that women care about. Not only is that insulting to women, it's just a ridiculous notion. Yes, financial security is important to women, but there are other qualities that are more important - compatibility, for example. Honesty. Compassion.
If you don't have a lot of money, think of all the qualities that you bring to the table that would make you an excellent partner - your sense of humor, your kindness, your affectionate nature. Money doesn't guarantee happiness, and most women know this.
Offer her a varied menu of high-caliber personality traits, and you'll win over a boring rich guy every time.
That does mean, however, that you have to actually have those good qualities. For a woman to really fall in love with you, you need to be a well-balanced, responsible person. Yes, there are women who fall in love with flakes, just as there are women who fall in love with men who are flat-out crazy. But is that the sort of woman you want to be with?
To attract the sort of woman worth having, be the kind of man she deserves. Be someone she can depend on - that means showing up when you say you will, and keeping your promises.
If you want her to think of you as a great long-term prospect, you have to be someone that she'd trust with her bank account, and her children, and her heart. So be that guy!
The best way to get someone to fall in love with you is to be someone worth loving. So become the smart, interesting, well-groomed man that you know you can be, and she'll start noticing you.
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