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[W559]What Makes A Successful Marriage

by Meredith Glee, Mer

Everybody who intends to enter into that lifelong commitment called marriage must be aware of the keys to a successful marriage, regardless of whether they are male or female, but it has been usually observed that in most cases a relationship starts to die on the vine because of the nonchalance and indifference of the male partner. In this article I shall share a few tips with you on how to have a successful marriage and how to keep the romance from fizzling out and love from burning out.

Importance of saying good byes and hello and I love you

Did you know that a simple hello after returning home from work or a good bye kiss on the lips or cheeks before going out to work can work miracles for your marriage? Instead of uttering mundane things like you may be late in the evening or sitting down to watch television right after returning home, which will rightly offend your partner, why don't you give your spouse your most special smile and make eye contact with him/her while giving him/her a kiss or a hug?

This is a very simple act, but it will go a long way in cementing the bond between you two and make your partner feel warm, loved and wanted and special. The basic motive behind these demonstrations of love is nothing but to let your spouse know how much he/she means to you.

Sharing a few trivial things might make your marriage

Another key to a successful marriage is the sharing of very trivial and light issues. Remember those golden old days of youth when you used to send countless silly text messages or emails to your spouse or chatted with your spouse for hours over the phone? And then one day, the wedding took place and there were responsibilities and work commitments and soon kids, jobs and other kinds of responsibilities followed and killed all the romance.

Somewhere down the line you grew up and forgot to share. Well, one of the keys to a successful marriage is not letting this happen and keeping the lines of communication open at all times. Be just like friends; share all the trivialities at work or at the grocery store or at the kitty party or office party. Have a good laugh over it. A half an hour solid time spent with your spouse every day or every night can keep you two closes for the rest of your life.

Laughter is still the best medicine

Oh yes. This one is still regarded as one of the foremost and primary keys to a successful marriage. A good sense of humor can help to lighten even the darkest of moods and making fun of your silly mistakes and silly issues or your childish quarrels can help to beat the stress of marriage and everyday life. Both of you should know how to smile and giggle or guffaw or laugh away those tensions and tears.

The two other keys to a successful relationship are the healing power of touch that can convey feelings like intimacy and affection like nothing else and saying a heart felt thank you that will increase your togetherness quotient.

A marriage is never static. The two people, who make up the marital relationship, move on in their journey together through various stages of growth. Both as a couple and as individuals.
This marital growth requires a great deal of commitment, trust, effort and reciprocity. Healthy and well built marriages do not happen by chance, they are created by a lot of hard work.

The basic element of ?being one? in marriage is companionship. Like friends, couples need to be open with each other about their interests, dreams and goals.

It is difficult for a married couple to deal with certain problems when there are no common goals established. Goals enable the couple to realize that they are not competing against each other, and help them to work together and support one another.

Married couples should cooperate and work towards these dreams and goals with all dedication and devotion. Do not give up if you and your spouses goals appear to be too different. Talk and recognize that you both have needs, and try to set goals that will enable both sets of needs to be satisfied. Often, as you share your dreams, you will discover that in fact you both have similar dreams and goals; it was just the direction that you each wanted to take was different. This difference of direction can then be dealt with as you talk.

Often when you take time to communicate with each other regarding your needs and motivations, you will be surprised to learn that you both have identical dreams and goals. This is likely to be what drew you together in the first place.

So what types of goals should you set? Goals can center on your children, the family as a whole, your individual careers, your possessions and your pastimes.

The following are guidelines to better understand and relate with your partner's goals:

1. Know your spouse. Pay close attention to his or her habits and values.

2. Bond and respond. Whatever that goes on within your spouse's life, in his/her career, you know that there are dreams and goals in each aspect. So be sensitive and take part; worry and celebrate in his/her accomplishments.

3. Let your spouse influence you. Be willing to share in his/her decisions. Understand his/her goals and when you do not agree at some point, at least support him or her..

4.Compromise. When your goals do not exactly match, know when to put the brakes if you feel that the conversation is becoming confrontational. Be calm and tolerant.

When you both have strong appreciation and understanding of all your dreams and goals you become closer together as a married couple, it makes married life a lot more pleasant and easier to handle. After all, you are partners in life.

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