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[W532]What Is The Best Dating Site

by David Kamau, Dav

Side bar: This article is not about touting certain websites. It is about helping make your search easier by letting you know what to look for, and narrowing the field down to one or two good sites.

There are two common ways to select a dating site. One is to follow the advice of a friend or family member. Not a bad way, but also error-prone. Remember we are talking about the best dating site for you.

The second, and recommended, option is to do some good old fact-finding through research. Don't panic, this article is about making it easier on you.

What Is the Best Dating Site?

The best dating site is not the biggest, nor the most features-laden. The best dating site is the one that best fits who you are or matches your personality/need(s).

Types of Dating Sites

There are, basically, three types of dating sites:

1. Popular or General

2. Specialty or Niche

3. Community or Special Interest

Now let's now briefly describe each for a better understanding:

1. Popular or general dating sites: These Cater to the general public and all ages, ethnic groups, religions, sexual orientations etc. Usually they will have huge databases, often running to the tens of millions of members.

2. Specialty or niche dating sites: These cater to specific interests such as religion, ethnicity, age groups etc. Their members have something in common.

3. Community or special interest dating sites: These are similar to specialty or niche sites (#2 above), but cater to even narrower interests. Examples; Catholic (not "Christian"), swingers (not "adult"), Filipino (not "Asian")… you get the picture.

So, which way to go? The first step towards success in finding the best dating site is to be clear on what you are looking for. You do know yourself, don't you?

If you have some online dating experience, consider specialty or community sites. But if just starting out, your best bet is to go with popular/general dating sites. Why?

Because popular dating sites serve most interests and you'll get faster results. This will give you some experience as well as a feel of the features. Subsequently, this helps build your confidence while also learning online dating "lingo" and sub-culture.

What to Look For In a Dating Site

The top ten things to consider when selecting a dating site are:

1. The number of profiles: Online dating is a numbers game. The larger the database the better your chance of meeting the right person.

2. Features: These include search and safety.

3. You should be able to search by age and gender as well as height, hair color, vocation etc. if this is important to you.

4. Privacy: Most high-popularity dating sites provide you with an email address specifically for online dating.

5. Availability of chat rooms and private chat rooms so you may talk with your prospect(s) once a contact has been initiated. Web video would be an additional benefit.

6. Some top-rated dating sites will alert you when someone has responded to your email or expressed interest in contacting you. Not the most important feature but nice to have all the same.

7. Relationship intentions: The site should cater to the kind of relationship you seek.

8. Location: The site should have a sufficient number of members in your geographical area, especially if you are not for long distance relationships.

9. Detailed profiles: If a site allows members to skimp on details about themselves, chances are they are doing it. This makes it a mere photo contest.

10. Cost: Don't just go for the cheapest or free sites (there's a price to pay for that), but if they are way above average they should give a very good for this.

Signing Up for a Free Trial

Having narrowed your search to one or two dating sites using the above guidelines, it is not time to commit yet. It is time to sign up for a trial run, which most highly popular dating sites offer. Make sure it is a real trial run and not just a tour. What's the difference?

A tour is just that, a tour. You get to browse pictures of seemingly (may I add unrealistic) happy couples who have "found" happiness using that particular dating site. Don't buy into this. It is crap and a complete waste of time.

A trial run lets you enjoy most of the site's features without paying, for a period of time. But note that the trial is geared towards getting you to become a paid member; therefore you'll get a teaser here and there. Just stick to the trial till it's over.

Take full advantage of the trial run. This means initiating as many contacts as you possibly can. And post your photo immediately on sign-up. The point is to find out if the dating site is a good fit for your personality.

When the trial period ends, be ready to sign up for full membership or opt out. If you opt out, take heart that at least you didn't waste your money or time. And you now have some experience. Find another site and do another test. The best dating site for you is out there waiting to be discovered.

A relationship is going to change when a person, man or woman is spending time in a dating site online. The man who is visiting a dating site online is searching for someone, or something, even if it is not consciously. You need to be able to trust your man, and with him being on a dating site to start with you have no idea what he is telling women, what he wants from those women, and who he is going to hook up with.

A man in a relationship should not be on the online dating sties. If he is telling you, he is only messing around and that he is not going to make a date, he is lying. There are plenty of things to do online without going to a site where dates are made and started. A man who is happy with where he is in life, and with what he has in life is not going to seek problems and relationships online in a dating site.

First, you need to face the facts. He is leaning towards cheating on you. Words and relationships, even if it is only taking place online is cheating. He is cheating you out of time with him, he is cheating on you by not sharing his life and needs with you, and these steps are going to lead a man to cheating on a woman by making a date and visiting with the woman. Now that you realize what is happening, and what is most likely going to happen if your man continues with the obsessive behavior you can do something about it right now.

Can I Get Him To Stop?

The only way you are going to get him to stop is by unplugging the computer and demanding that he stop. Even if you are married and he is getting online, you don't know he is not going to do any thing more. Why is he online at a dating site? No one is going to be able to answer that but him, but you know you are going to have to speak up, and put it all out on the table for him.

Tell him you are leaving if you find he is on there again. If he has the opportunity to do it when he is at work, you will have to trust him. If you find him on the online dating site, again you are going to have to leave until he comes to his senses. If you leave, you can't go back thinking he is going to change his ways until you know for sure.

A man that is searching for more in life, such as sex talk, or a new fling, or a woman who is going to be dependent on him for nothing more than an exciting page of filth doesn't belong in your marriage or in your relationship. What would happen if your husband walked in and found you online in a dating site? Ask him that question so he feels just what you do. If he doesn't care, then get online, and get on the dating site and learn to talk to someone else just as he does. Your relationship is not going anywhere anyway so you might want to find a new man now.

Will He Ever Change?

Do you think he is ever going to change? If you are reading this article, you most likely already are realizing he is not gong to change. There is something lacking in his ability to commit to you or to himself as he continues to seek the company of others who are online and in a dating room. The online dating sites are for people who are seeking something, and that something is what is wants even if he is not able to tell you exactly what it is. Every relationship is built upon trust. If he is online in a dating site, or online in a dating chatroom you know things in the relationship are just wrong. If he is not willing to turn it off, and come talk with you, you need to put that relationship behind you and move on in life searching for someone who is going to appreciate who you are and what you have to give in life.

How Do I Get Him To Change?

The only real way to get him to change is to tell him you are leaving, and do it ? if he continues to get online on the dating sites. There is no reason why a married man, or any man in a committed relationship should have to be on a site, where singles are. Think about it this way, if your man where in a singles bar, wouldn't you question him? Wouldn't you think he is going to be susceptible to doing something wrong, something that is really wrong for your relationship? If he doesn't change, and if he doesn't prevent you from leaving there is more going on than you already know. Stick to your guns, no matter how much it hurts and how much pain, because in the long run you are better off without him.

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