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Like it or not, you are ALWAYS talking to people through your body language. Even when you're saying nothing - sometimes you could be telling a story. For example, when you see someone at a coffee shop typing away on a laptop you usually assume they are busy working on a project or something and that hey don't want to be bothered. Perhaps your at a park and you see someone sweaty with some baggy clothes on - you know almost immediately that they are probably working out.
Body language is twice as important when picking up and attracting women. Women LOVE confidence, this is probably the biggest factor when attracting women. However, most guys naturally give off body language that is the exact opposite of confidence. Instead, they give off the body language of a person who is extremely shy, anxious, nervous, or even closed-off socially.
Lucky for you, I have been researching this for years and I have cataloged the most common mistakes that men make.
Here are 4 of the most common body language mistakes most men make when picking up women:
Hands In Your Pockets - This shows that you are insecure and that you are closed off. Yeah the "Fonz" used to do it all the time, but you're not the Fonz so don't do it, ever.
Slouching - This shows that you are insecure and that you aren't confident socially. When you slouch, you are sending off the message that you don't want to be seen and this will make you look shy and probably boring.
Fidgeting - This shows that you are extremely nervous and anxious. A confident man is a man who is controlled in his movements. If you ever look at a rock star, a musician, a millionaire CEO, a celebrity, they are never fidgeting during interviews. They are confident in what they do.
Tonality - Although this is technically talking, how you talk is even more important. If you are talking too fast you show the woman that you are nervous and that you are not a very social person. Also, by talking too fast and by not controlling your tone and voice you open yourself up for stuttering and other mistakes. Slow down!
By removing these three damaging behaviors you will instantly see an improvement in the way women (and people in general) talk to you! You will also usually immediately begin to feel more confident in yourself, naturally. Also, by applying these ideas and getting rid of this bad behavior, your ability to seduce women will greatly increase.
Confidence is the 'magic-bullet' when it comes to women, and if you aren't sending off these signals all the time then you are wasting your time. Without great confident body language, you are swimming upstream with no life jacket
Business as the art of war.
Language such as "We're going to explode your downline" or "explode" or "ignite" your business. But men are the ones who explode things. Women don't. We tend to be the ones to pick up the pieces. We might for example replace those words with "expand" or "grow." Why continue to turn off the 80% majority?
The customer or prospective recruit as "target" to be overcome, somehow.
The constant focus on closing as fast as possible, and if women don't know how, they they are told, "You bring them and we'll close them," as if the recruits are victims about to be done in. The whole idea in general that we "hunt" for targets leads to saying whatever is necessary to "get" the person. That is what leads to the dreadful hype and over-promise and under-deliver syndrome our business is so known for.
Women don't like such high pressure and war-like tactics used on them, are embarassed by it when they bring friends to events. Of course they don't want to do that themselves to their contacts.
Much better to be looking for "someone like me." Think? Someone you can share ideas and have fun with?
"Beyond Hype" - My Experimental Squidoo Site
Here's a bit from the site. Just up. Just ranked in the top 100 of 12,000 sites submitted...
"Beyond Hype is for someone in network marketing who has decided to market a product that's made a difference in her life. It's done something she wanted, and has done it well. Now she's started an enterprise to tell the world...
Kind of like Victor Kiam. Remember him? He walked into millions of living rooms years ago on black and white TV, and holding out a razor announced,
'I liked this razor so much I decided to buy the company.'
And that's where the similarity ends. In network marketing and direct sales, you don't get to hide in a TV studio. If you're in direct sales or network marketing, you must:
'Talk to people. Talk to people. Talk to people.'
'But, what should I say? So they don't glaze over or run away? And, so that someone just like me pauses to hear my story?'
That's what Beyond Hype does - with two language tools that might surprise you..."
Here are those two language tools...click below, read, and opine, ok?
Kim Klaver's experimental Squidoo site:
http://www.squidoo.com/kimklaver