Guys, how many of you have wanted a car just because that particular car has the image of being a "Babe Magnet"? Be honest with yourself now ? 99% of you, right? This is how the professionals on Madison Avenue make their living.
Ladies, how much make-up do you have in your make-up bag that you bought because the model looked good, the guy in the ad looked good?..only to get the cosmetic home and find it make you feel like a clown?
Those folks on Madison Avenue are good'I personally keep buying lipsticks that when I buy them I just know this is the magic one that will change my looks and hence my life forever - only to find I look the same with different colored lips. Ah well.
After many years helping fitness clients, I feel that some clients also begin a fitness program with a "Cinderella" mentality. If I had a dollar for every time I heard someone say "If only I could lose 10 pounds, I would be so much happier", I would be pretty rich by now.
Just imagine how much money is made appealing to this thinking with quick fixes such as diet pills, weight loss suits, diet foods, etc. The list is exhausting.
It really doesn't matter with respect to fitness how or why a person decides to get fit and change their body composition ? the end result is the same. What gets them to the decision, be it vanity, peer pressure, health or Madison Avenue doesn't make any difference?.so long as the commitment is made.
The equation is the same: commit the time, do the work and you will lose fat, gain muscle and get fit.
But, here's where the fairy tale ends. A great many people will commit and follow through only long enough to reach a goal. I feel that this is the Cinderella theme aspect of all this. Many clients I have seen see "weight loss", or "getting into a size 7" as a goal and use fitness programs and/or diets as a means to get there. Again, a good reason to start; but just losing a few pounds does not make a fit, strong body and heart nor does the weight stay off permanently.
Slim people are not necessarily fit?.fit people are not necessarily slim. I recently read some scary statistics somewhere that concluded that many women were smoking cigarettes because they believed this would keep them slim. Since smoking is counterproductive to fitness, I would guess that these slim people are not as fit as they could be! But, I digress.
Fitness takes time, is hard work and needs to continue for some time for a person to really transform into "the princess" or "prince". I generally tell clients that, although it takes about 6 months to start to feel "the magic" of getting fit by following a good fitness and nutrition plan, it takes much more time to get real, lasting changes in both body composition and health profile.
It is true that the practicalities of getting fit, staying fit and making healthy lifestyle choices don't seem romantic. They involve sweat, tears and just plain old time - a lifetime in fact.
It's about the process, small increments over a long time period. Through the process, a self romance can grow: a sense of pride of accomplishment and a strong beautiful body. THE PROCESS is the "happily ever after"?
Copyright (c) 2006 Ainsley Laing
My girlfriend and I recently split up. I called her a few days ago and she said that it was over and that she did not want to discuss it with me anymore, that I had gotten on her nerves to the point where she didn't see any point in communicating with me, ever. I told her I was completely devastated and depressed. She said, "I know, but that happens to people everyday and you need to act like an adult for once."
I just don't understand what happened. I am so hurt and confused and lonely. I bought her flowers almost every week we dated and treated her like a princess. I cry and pray every day for her to return. How can I get my fairy tale back? Jeff
Greetings and blessings to you, precious one. What is attractive about a person is their character, their strengths, their goals, their beliefs. In some cases, it may be external things, and yet, for the most part, it is who they are and all of the richness they bring into the world and share with another. That is what you brought to this relationship in the first place. Who you became over time was a person who is in love with this other person, rather than a man of character, virtue, ideas, and goals. You lost who you were in the process of this relationship, and you lost what made you desirable to her in the first place.
You have not done anything wrong or bad. This happens naturally for people in relationships when they are not strong and certain about who they are and about their character and strengths. Those become lost in the course of a relationship. For you, it would be best to allow your fairy tale to read onto the next page where it says, "And they lived happily ever after. The End." You close the book and say, "That was a nice story. God bless those characters." And you move on.
Give thanks in your heart for having known this person and for having learned that in the course of falling deeply and wonderfully in love, you lose yourself. Then go about your life, without this person, rediscovering your strengths, your character, your virtues and goals. Focus on these and strengthen these. They are already instilled within you in a very deep way. Make contact with those things on the deepest level that you can, so that you bring them into the world and into your relationships, rather than bringing your neediness, your dependence, or your suffering, which came as a result of losing yourself in this relationship.
Rediscover within you all of these things. You are the person that you want to get to know. When you feel strong and confident in who you are, bring that into the world and allow another relationship to unfold in your life, being mindful not to lose yourself in the process. It is not to be self-centered when you step into a relationship, but to continue to make yourself, your relationship with God, your family, your work, your goals, and your priorities as important as they truly are.
You have everything within you that you need to accomplish this. It is only for you to make the decision and take the time to do this. Allow yourself to be motivated to maintain who you are and to allow your partner to maintain who they are so that the relationship becomes the blessing of the gifts that you each bring, knowing that you are stronger as a couple than the sum of your parts.
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