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I would usually refuse whenever a friend would offer to fix me up on a blind date. However, there was one occasion when I decided to give in when a friend of mine told me that she had the perfect guy for me and wanted to fix me up on a blind date. It would be a double date, with my friend and her boyfriend.
I contemplated backing out several times, but I finally agreed to meet the three of them at a local restaurant. However, I was incredibly nervous and convinced that this guy would not be my prince charming. I saw- that my friend was waiting for me as I entered the lobby. She told me that the guys were already sitting down at the bar having a drink while waiting for a table.
My friend also told me that my blind date was absolutely perfect for me and is looking forward to meeting me. I was unconvinced that he was perfect for me considering that every guy that I date is always different from the previous one.
I didn't even know that I had a particular type. My friend informed me that we share the same interests and hobbies and that he was tall, dark and handsome. I just rolled my eyes and let her lead me over to the bar where my blind date was waiting for me.
I was totally captivated from the moment my date stood up to greet me. He was definitely pleasant to look at and he kissed my hand softly when he said hello. We engaged in some small talk after he bought me a drink. I could not believe that my date was so handsome and that I was on a blind date.
My date spoke intelligently and seemed very passionate about life. We barely remembered that our friends were there after talking for a few minutes. He kept my attention for the entire meal and made me laugh.
I was impressed that he had a sense of humor to go along with his brains and good looks. I could tell that he had the type of personality that would challenge me. I knew that my blind date had turned out perfectly by the end of the evening.
That perfect date took place about five years ago. I can't help but smile when I remember that date and look over at my husband sitting next to me on the couch. My blind date was definitely turned out to be perfect for me.
10. Plan for a night far away…
While you may plan to go on a date to the movies and have a quiet date, the blind date you are hooked up with may end up being a partier and want to go dancing or something else so planning ahead is necessary.
9. Be cautious of the wordplay you use
Men should be listening to the women more then having the women listen to the men. However, what you say will lay a first impression on her and to quote a famous comedian, Chris Rock, “A girl will decide within the first 30 seconds whether or not she will sleep with you.”
8. Put your attention on her
Men really do need to stop talking, shut their pie-hole and listen to what the women have to say on the date. “Ohh, I got a luxurious boat out in California and I make $200,000 a year working for …” really doesn't flatter the ladies. To get a girl interested in you, you have to listen to what she is saying. Also discuss issues like work, family, friends, and various other more personal topics. Regardless, you should never make her feel uncomfortable about anything because this is a friendly occasion.
7. No Interrogations
If you wish to do well on your date then you have to have great conversations with her. Never ask her questions that will have one of the following three responses: yes, no, I don't know. Ask her questions which will start a good conversation and get a nice answer that interests you, and show your interest.
6. Make her your spotlight
Never let your eyes leave her (and I don't mean her double decker, I'm talking about eye contact). You want to make sure you don't “check out” other women while with her or spend time with other friends that may be there or on your phone.
5. Don't try to show off
Whatever you do, don't go out of your way to flash your gold chains or brag about your luxurious items. While living the life may be a turn on, it can make the date go downhill very fast as she may be thinking, “What a selfish jerk”. Also, do not show off all your money (unless your date is with a gold digger or a prostitute). If you're so rich then either use debit or bills under 100. Don't purposely go out of your way for her to see something valuable that you own.
4. Be Aware of What You May Get
When going on a blind date, you never know what you will get. While you may be wishing to get a real hot piece of tail at the end of the night, or a great relationship started, you may end up with a huge girl who honks and snorts the night away. Never expect the best, just cope with what you get. The date is for only one night, not a lifetime.
3. Watch out for a Controlling or Crazy Girl/Guy
If either party is rather psychotic, demanding, or aggressive then leaving may be the right thing to do, and do so immediately. It is not worth risking being taking advantage of or left in a dead end relationship. Also try to fend away from those in a questionable relationship at the time.
2. Plan Your Escape
Make sure you have a plan on how to get out of the date if it either goes downhill, you don't like the person or you really regret doing it.
1. Be The Leader
The final tip is for you to be the leader. Men should always take the leadership role so they are proven to be more masculine. Whether it's asking for a dance, being the first to start a conversation, or initiating a kiss, it is all stuff that shows your manly side by the end of the night.