Dating conversation can be the most awkward situation a person can ever find themselves in. Stating a dating conversation is frustrating. For many people just the anticipation is enough to make them not even try to find conversation starters.
In starting a conversation while dating you are actually at an advantage because you both already have something in common - you are on a date together, at the same place, with, hopefully, the same intentions. The only thing left to do is pick one of those three things to talk about and get started.
The following section explains what types of conversation starters work best in a dating situation. These tips can help you to understand why certain topics result in better conversation.
You can then use this knowledge to help yourself start some good dating conversations.
1. Observant comments.
Starting a conversation by commenting on something around you allows your date to participate in the conversation. You could make a comment about something interesting your date is wearing or about the place you are at.
Observant comments focus the conversation on something both of you can talk about and shows your date that you are at ease enough to be looking at things around you, not just focusing on yourself.
2. Adding humor.
Almost everyone can appreciate a good joke. People love to laugh. It releases tension and will generally put someone at ease. Adding in a little humor to your conversation will liven things up.
It will show your date you are not afraid to laugh and you are fun to be around. Be careful of focusing too much on being funny, though. Let it come naturally.
3. Be unique.
Say something interesting or unusual. Avoid being weird, though. Catch your date off guard with something that is not a clich?. Try to go outside the box and be creative.
These three conversation starter tips will help you to start out the conversation on a good note. Plus you can avoid common problems that lead to boring conversation.
The following section gives some examples of what to say to start a dating conversation.
1. Ask if his or her day was as boring as yours. 2. Ask how he or she got their current job. 3. Ask your date if he or she has ever dreamed of living somewhere else and where and why he or she would live there. 4. Comment on the unusual d'cor of the restaurant. 5. Comment on a current event. 6. Ask your date if he or she has a special hobby.
These are some simple conversation starters that can really take off into a better conversation. You can share back and forth and really get to know more about your date through these conversations.
Always listen attentively and do not take over the conversation. Let it flow and follow the tips and suggestions here to get your dating conversations going.
Humor is personal, though, so if you can, get an idea of the sense of humor of the person you are talking to first. Does he or she tell jokes? Do they add a funny angle to their stories?
Adding humor to your conversations is easier if you understand what makes something funny. The two main aspects to this are:
1. Surprise 2. Relationships
Basically, that means keeping a punchline hidden until the very end of the joke, or bringing some unexpected element into your story, and building a relationship with your listener. To make other people laugh, you need to be relaxed or else your audience will not feel relaxed enough to laugh. They will feel uptight. So, stay true to your own sense of humor. Plenty of people will like it.
1. "Excuse me, but I do think it is time we met" will put a smile on most peoples faces without sounding too intimidating.
2. Share something funny that happened to you, especially if it was the same day. You will sound modest and that is quite an attractive quality.
3. "What kind of old person do you want to be?" intrigues people. Everyone hopes to get old and so they will have an opinion. Also, though, it will make people smile because you are taking old age as something positive - an unusual twist on any everyday topic will make people interested.
4. You could share a fun story about your children. They are a rich harvest for fun stories - and cute too! You could then ask something like 'what is the weirdest thing you brought home when you were a child?" Take a little trip down memory lane with the person you are talking to.
5. How about asking - 'what is the best question in the world?' You are going for the element of surprise and this one has the added benefit that it sounds like you are interested in getting to know the other person.
6. If you are at a party, try bringing a funny card for the host and get everyone to sign it. What to write and what others have written will give you a wealth of funny conversation openers.
7. Ask someone about their worst holiday to introduce talking about one of your recent vacation mishaps. These can be really funny conversation starters, get people laughing and will not cause tension. In addition to this, everyone will start providing their worst vacation stories and everyone will be laughing over the unfortunate events.
8. This one might work best for the younger generation - to whom all things gross seem hilarious - but try asking about the worst meal the person has ever eaten or seen someone eat. It always seems to get people talking and makes them laugh. You will also bring in most women who are pregnant or who have ever been pregnant and had cravings. Perhaps skip this one over dinner, though!
9. Ask people about their pet peeves. People are always happy to talk about these. Done in the right way with a touch of humor, you will not come across as a moaner, but as someone with a keen sense of humor.
10. The tenth? ...The tenth is up to you! I told you the element of surprise was important in humor. Seriously, you have learned a few things here about how to use humor in your conversations.
You do not have to be the funniest person on the planet to open a conversation with humor. Just keep in mind your aim, which it to make people relax and get them talking. Funny conversation starters are really about giving the other person a relaxed way in to the conversation.
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