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[C867]Communication Skills For Kids
by Alien, Ali
When many of us think of school we think of education and learning, but for some children, headaches can be a very real and painful barrier to getting through the school day. Just like adults, kids can suffer from headaches and it can have a distressing impact on studying, concentration and social relationships with other children.

There are many reasons why your child may be suffering from headaches. Stress is a common factor and headaches such as migraines tend to show a genetic basis, so you may also suffer from them. There are a number of strategies to prevent and address headaches and a doctor will work with you and your child to find a preventative treatment plan.

Stress and Relaxation

Stress is a known headache trigger and for a child, coping with stress is often a learned skill. Work with your child to find ways to unwind and relax. Spend time together and be open and non-judgemental so that your child feels comfortable sharing worries and fears. You may also wish to try alternative therapies. Music therapy is not only helpful in adults, but can be a great way to soothe your child as well.

Exercise

Active kids will experience similar exercise benefits as active adults. The glare from televisions and computers can trigger headaches so if you're able to encourage more physical playtime, your child can benefit two-fold. The social benefits and interaction that accompany sports and other playful exercises can also help to reduce stress and prevent your child from experiencing headaches.

Food

It's important that kids eat regular meals to prevent headaches from low blood sugar, so make sure that your child has small snacks to frequently consume while at school. Try to identify any sensitivities to food additives and avoid providing these foods whenever possible. Any food or drink triggers should be reduced or avoided and it can be helpful to provide a list to teachers, so that any treats brought into the classroom by other children don't leave your child with a satisfied sweet tooth alongside a painful head.

Your child should also obtain adequate fluids so be sure to include a large bottle of water or diluted juice that he or she can sip during the day. Dehydration can trigger a headache attack and encouraging your child to embrace the habit of consuming fluids regularly can help keep headaches at bay.

Self-Esteem

It can be tough for kids to deal with headaches, especially when they are frequent. Pain can keep them from playing with other children and will often just leave them feeling 'down' and 'in the dumps.' Compliment your child and remind him or her that other children experience headaches as well. It can help if your child doesn't feel isolated and different from other children because of his or her headaches.

Communication

Keep communication open with your child as well as teachers at school. It's important that your child tell teachers if headache pain develops and also important that your child be able to identify the beginnings of a headache, so that any techniques or medication can be facilitated by a nurse or teacher at school. Learning the warning signs can also prevent the headache from becoming more intense and painful. It may even be the case that you provide education about migraines or cluster headaches, for example, to the school nurse or teacher.

Be Positive

Focus on what you can do, rather than what you can't do for your child. If your child sees that you are positive and encouraging, he or she is more likely to experience those same optimistic feelings. Headaches can leave a child feeling depressed and helpless about his or her condition. If you show your child that the headaches can be handled, your child may believe it as well.

Sleep

Ensuring that your child gets enough sleep is important as lack of sleep can contribute to headache onset. Stress and intense pressure or exertion to obtain high grades can leave children fatigued, and it is important that enough sleep is obtained. Try to maintain a regular bedtime and wake-up routine and aim to make bedtime as stress-free as possible.

Try some of the suggestions mentioned and see how your child responds. Consistent communication will ensure that your child's coping skills develop to handle any changes in his or her headache pattern. School shouldn't be a painful and stressful experience for children who suffer from headaches; by taking preventative steps and utilizing current treatments, school can be a place of learning again.

"Conversation isn't just crossfire where you shoot and get shot at! Where you've got to duck for your life and aim to kill! Words aren't only bombs and bullets -- no, they're little gifts, containing meanings!" - Philip Roth

If you have a demanding child, his words may feel like bullets. Let's find out how to change them into little gifts with meanings.

This Social Skill Problem Comes from Bruce:

"My 11 year-old-son need's to ask for what he wants with respect. It is automatic for him to say, "Dad, get me some milk." After such a command, conversations like the following takes place:

Dad - Sorry can't do it.
Son - Why?
Dad - Because you have not asked for it properly.
Son - (begrudgingly) May I please have some milk.
It happens over and over again."

Parenting Advice - An Important Principle:

Use the least amount of discipline to handle the problem. I like Bruce's approach. I can even hear his respectful tone as he corrects his son. Unfortunately, it's not quite enough to handle the problem.

First Social Skill Tip for Handling Bossy Kids:

Pretend you are Bruce. Consider using the "parenting stare" while saying and doing nothing. Make sure it's serious but not mean. Stare at your son for several seconds then turn away without getting what he wants.

Second Social Skill Tip for Handling Bossy Kids:

If you hold family meetings, discuss your son's behavior as a family problem to solve. Role-play with him on how to ask for things. Get him to make a commitment to ask with respect. Have him write his commitment and sign it. Then post it on the refrigerator as a reminder.

Third Social Skill Tip for Handling Bossy Kids:

Think about using the Feedback Formula when your son orders you to do his bidding. It's simple and goes like this:

When you -
I feel -
I would like you to -

Let's fill it in:

When you order me to do something,
I feel disrespected and won't get what you want.
I would like you to say, "Please" with respect or get it yourself.

This formula could help your son realize the tone of his words affect both you and others. If his bossiness doesn't work at home, it won't work at school or with friends either.

Thank you, Bruce, for sharing this social skills problem. May it help other parents who face bossy kids.

Social Skills Summary:

Consider using one or a combination of these social skill tips. The ease of the "parenting stare," the family meeting, and the feedback formula make them valuable parenting tips. The trick is to use them consistently and never accept disrespect.

Why not teach your little general to change his demanding bullets into little gifts of respect. Respect is a basic social skill to learn at home, in school, and with friends. Respect builds character too.

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