Yes, many people who emigrate find a better place for themselves in America. Many of them came from very dire circumstances in the country that they emigrated from.
Unless they were political or religious refugees, the majority of the people who emigrated to America were not rich or well to do.
The people who emigrated were generally those at the bottom of the society that they left. There were some exceptions. But no matter under what circumstances they left, most have a fondness or nostalgia for the place that they left.
Most people aren't leaving their country because they are tired of the language, culture, and lifestyle of their country. They usually emigrate for economic, political, or religious freedom and opportunity.
They bring their language and their culture with them and congregate with others that share the same language and culture in their new country.
Russians are no different. From their standpoint, they have a rich, thousand year old culture with a language, history and literature that have lasted longer and are richer in texture than that which they find in America.
They Will Give Up Everything They Know And Love For the Prospect of a Happy Family Life.
Yet Russian women are willing to give up their culture, their language, their family, their friends -- everything they know and love -- for the opportunity to have a happy family life.
They would give up all the cultural icons that America holds dear -- Barney, Barbie, Disneyland, and Jurassic Park -- for the comfort of Russian friends, family, culture, language and food -- if they could have a husband and a happy home life in Russia.
They would give up all the economic opportunity that America offers for the familiarity of Mother Russia if they could have a happy home life in Russia.
For most of the Russian women you will meet, the major reason they are interested in going to America, or any other country for that matter, is for the prospect of a loving husband and happy family life. They are willing to give up everything they know and value for that chance.
Their home, their family, their language, their culture, their friends, their lifestyle might not seem much to you, but I assure you it is as important to them as yours is to you.
They are as arrogant about the desirability of their country as you are about yours. If you decide to bring a Russian woman home to be a wife you will find this out very well.
Do you believe that it is your job as a parent to have control over your children? Do you find yourself trying to control your children in the ways your parents tried to control you, or in the ways you learned from siblings, friends or relatives? Do you hope that through yelling, threatening, shaming, blaming, judging, demanding, spanking, nagging, lecturing, explaining, arguing, and so on, you will get them to do what you want them to do? Is it working?
Most of us do not like to be controlled, and children are no exception. While they may comply in certain areas to avoid punishment, they will likely resist in other areas.
WHAT ARE THE NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES TO YOUR CHILD OF ATTEMPTING TO CONTROL HIM OR HER?
Your choice to control always has negative consequences for your children. It is important to connect your controlling behavior with the consequences that may result. While controlling might work in the short run, it can create many problems in the long run.
What are the problems you are having?
* My child and I get into power struggles.
* My child does what I want most of the time but becomes resistant in certain areas. My child resists:
Taking a bath or shower
Brushing teeth
Going to bed
Doing homework
Getting ready for school
Learning
Going to school
Reading
Keeping his or room clean
Doing chores
Telling the truth
Dressing appropriately for school
Using appropriate language
Looking nice
Being kind and considerate
Being on time
Talking with me
Having my values
Eating well
Caring about his or her health. Instead, he or she:
Smokes
Drinks alcohol
Smokes pot
Uses drugs
Eats junk
Caring about his or her safety. Instead, he or she:
Rides a motorcycle without a helmet
Drinks or uses drugs and drives
Drives recklessly
Has unprotected sex
Walks in dangerous areas
Calling when he or she is going to be late
Caring about what is important to me
Being loving to me
Listening to me
Getting a job
* My child never does what I ask. He or she is always resistant.
* My child suffers from low self-esteem.
* My child is depressed.
* My child feels unloved.
* My child is bossy with other kids
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* My child is tense, anxious, angry and/or unhappy.
* My child beats up on younger kids.
*My child does not take personal responsibility.
WHAT ARE THE NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES TO YOU OF TRYING TO CONTROL YOUR CHILD?
Your controlling behavior may also have negative consequences for you, especially in the long run.
What are the consequences for you?
* Parenting is not fun. It feels like a burden.
* I feel resentful toward my child.
* I am tired of the power struggles.
* I feel tense, anxious, angry or frustrated.
* I feel like a failure as a parent.
* My child and I do not have fun together.
* I feel rageful and out of control.
* I feel overwhelmed.
Parenting really can become a wonderfully fulfilling experience when you learn to parent as a loving and respectful adult rather than from the fear and insecurity that underlies controlling behavior.
The secret of letting go of controlling parenting is to learn what it means to be kind to yourself. If your focus is on being kind to your children but not to yourself, you will likely become a permissive parent, which has just as many negative consequences as controlling parenting. When you focus on being kind to yourself, you naturally refuse to tolerate unkind behavior from your children. However, instead of trying to control your children, you learn to take care of yourself. By learning to take loving action in your own behalf and setting logical consequences for your children's unacceptable behavior, your children will learn to take personal responsibility far more quickly than when you attempt to force it on them.
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