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[D47]Dating Dos And Donts

by Sushil Raghav, Sus

Virtual reality and artificial intelligence nowadays solve problems that we find almost impossible to solve in real life. One of the problems that is being solved expertly on the great world wide web is that of creating well matched couples and finding people perfect partners. In case you are also looking for a relationship, but cannot seem to find someone who suits your taste, then joining and searching through internet dating sites might turn out to be a good option for you.

A few dos and don'ts that should help you in getting the optimum results out of your forays on internet dating sites are given below.

?First and foremost, find dating sites that cater to ?your? kind of people. Different people have different tastes, hobbies, interests and sexual inclinations. So, if you cannot think of a partner or date who does not share your interest in dancing, then make sure that you log on to a dating site that specially caters to people who love dance. Similarly, if you are gay or lesbian, then a dating site catering specially towards homosexual dating may carry more profiles of interest to you than a regular dating site. However, most good dating websites carry loads and loads of profiles which you can sort through on the basis of a number of criteria in order to find your perfect matches.

?Once you have decided which dating sites you want to be a member of, then create a nice, informative and friendly profile. Your name, age and geographical location does matter, but most people would dither from going on a blind date with just ?Tom,29,Washington?. Therefore it is important that you fill in as many details about your profession, education, interests, activities and hobbies as possible, so that people with similar interests can find you easily.

?A picture speaks more than a thousand words! If this fact was not true, then this statement would not have made it through centuries and centuries of linguistic evolution. So make sure that you put in a good picture of yours on your profile. If you are really shy and do not want everybody in the world to know what you look like, then you can also put in a movie star or cartoon character that you think resembles you the most. You can also put in an Avatar, but try to make sure that that the people who date you do not think you are someone else unless you are on the dating site for the sole purpose of fooling people.

?Your profile is your one and only introduction to a large number of strangers who could become close friends given the right kind of encouragement. So make sure that your profile is written in correct language, is easy to read and is not full of grammatical and spelling mistakes. Putting profanities and peculiar slang on your profile is also a big no no, unless you are posting it on an adults only site. Similarly ,refrain from putting vulgar pictures or snaps of your privates unless you are on a site where everybody else has done the same thing.

Just as being honest with your resume and cover letter is important when applying for a job through an online job bank, so it is with online dating websites and the profile you post. You want to market yourself to help make your profile stand out from the others.

Below are some tips for helping you build an effective profile on the Internet and successful internet dating experiences:

1. About your picture on the online dating website
? Do look friendly and approachable.
? Do put the best picture possible on your profile.
? Don't put just any mug shot of you on your site.
? Don't be with other people. Dog, cat and kids are okay!

2. About your profile on the site
? Do include what's unique about you and why someone may want to go out with you.
? Do describe your values in the body of the profile. What's fulfilling for you? What do you treasure?
? Do try to be a descriptive as possible so the reader will experience what you do. (Help them see, smell and hear the beach) Put in a come play with me quality!
? Don't put stuff in your profile that is not putting your best foot forward.
? Don't lie! Be honest and upbeat. That doesn't mean you have to tell all your faults!

3. Contacting each other
? Do go after quality and not quantity!
? Do find something that you connect to. A cause or a passion.
? Do email back and forth a couple of times to get a sense of a person: their way of thinking and how they express themselves.
? Don't be a pen pal! If the person is unwilling to talk on the phone, stop the interchange.
? Do talk on the phone to gain further rapport.
? Do trust your intuition. If something doesn't feel right, don't pursue any further.
? Don't talk on the phone for weeks without making plans to get together.

4. Meeting each other
? Do give each other cell phone numbers in case something happens on your way to the meeting.
? Do meet in a public place for coffee during the day, if possible
? Do "be yourself".
? Don't run away if the person doesn't look like what you thought.
? Don't give out too much information about yourself before you know the person better.
? Some important dating advice for women: Don't expect the man to pay. Be prepared to pay your share. It will be a nice surprise if he does offer to pay the tab.
? Do give a nice person a second chance. Chemistry can develop over time.

5. Following up
? Do be honest about your level of interest in the person. They may know someone else you'd like to meet.
? Do thank the person for a nice time and if someone paid.
? Don't say you'll call and not call!
? Don't wait a month to call the woman if you liked her. She may have moved onto her next prospect.

Whether you've just recently started dating or you're an experienced single, the above dating tips can benefit you as you refine your online dating profile. When in doubt, remember to consult with a close friend or a relationship coach with any relationship questions you may have.

Good luck in your search!

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