Dating can sometimes be a challenge for big beautiful women (or BBW). That is because we are surrounded by fashion statements, which repeatedly assert that slim is beautiful. We always see slim ladies in fashion shows, fashion magazines, beauty contests, and more. Conditioning has thus made everyone more sensitive to the size issue. Often, bigger sized women are made to suffer because of their size. They may have difficulty getting dates, or simply getting out to have fun.
But most dating events are nothing but social experiences. And it is unfortunate that so many doors are closed in the face of big beautiful women. The truth is, many big beautiful women are in fact fun loving, kind, and their personality often shines through. These are all the qualities that any relationship needs to last long term. Although it is unfortunate that many men are indeed short sighted and refuse to date big beautiful women. But all that is about to change with the evolution of the internet.
The internet is an amazing technology that allows people to communicate from half way across the globe. Web applications have been springing up left, right, center to allow people to stay in touch with one another on the internet. Community members are able to interact in ways that are never before possible. For example, they can share photos, write blogs, join discussions, listen to podcasts, watch videos, and do lots of stuff that they haven't been able to do with other communication mediums.
From these activities, one can observe that the internet allows voices to be heard - any voices. The same goes for big beautiful women. They can now join dating websites and create interesting profiles about themselves, share with others what they like to do, and simply allow others into their world.
This is an open approach that is made possible by dating websites on the internet. Often, there are niche dating websites that cater to the specific groups of people, like big beautiful women. This means that the website will affect the right target audience - i.e. only people who can transcend physical appearance and love big beautiful women with all their heart will find their way to these sites. This will greatly increase the chances of BBW finding their true love from this websites. In fact, many found and married their soul mates, and to think that it all started from a simple email.
So you see, dating is not all about physical appearances. While it's true that slimmer women may get a better chance at getting dates, big and beautiful women have a better chance of finding someone with a truly loving heart who is willing to look beyond physical appearances.
Besides, it is only general conception that slimmer women are more beautiful. Many men do in fact find bigger sized women more adorable and attractive. These are also the men who are more likely to love a woman for who they are, and not just for how they look. Perhaps they are also the ones who deserve the love of big beautiful women.
But statistics tell us that the average woman in the US is a size 14 or bigger. So if a size 14 is the norm, why are we being shunted into a “special" plus size category?
We’re normal but the fashion designers don’t seem to have clued in.
Who decides these things anyway? Is there a secret annual conference of magazine editors, fashion gurus, and department store buyers where they all get blitzed on appletinis (no food passes their lips, of course) and decide that the rest of the world is just too porky to fit into a regular size?
Righteous indignation aside, this arbitrary labelling makes the pursuit of online romance more complicated than it needs to be. Dating site owners are narrowing their marketing focus in an effort to attract customers. The dating business is intensely competitive, so it’s in their interest to slot us into targeted niches, wherever they can.
If you’re an animal lover, there’s a dating site for you. If you want to date fellow Christians, Jews, or Muslims, there’s a dating site for you. If you’re a self-confessed nerd, there’s an online venue where you can meet other nerds (or people who love nerds). There’s even a site where millionaires can meet and fall in love.
And if you’re a larger sized woman or man, there’s plus size personals, a dating niche that’s been invented especially for you.
Plus size dating sites aim to attract BBW (big beautiful women) and BHM (big handsome men) and their admirers. This is, on the surface, a good idea. If you’re not a stick-thin super model, you can join these sites and be assured that the people you meet will appreciate a figure that’s more Rubens than Twiggy.
But what makes these plus size dating sites interesting, from a sociological (or purely nosy) perspective, is the presence of people who don’t obviously belong in the BBW category. After looking through the profiles on half-a-dozen plus size personals sites, it soon became clear that the clientele on each site ranged from the very slightly plump (ie. the average) to really large SSBBW (super sized big beautiful women).
Perhaps this is a comment on modern society, that such a wide spectrum of people self-select into the plus size category. Maybe we’re so brainwashed by skinny models in fashion magazines, and air-brushed, bone-thin Hollywood actors, that we think “well, I don’t look like them, so I must be bigger than most people."
Maybe it’s about time we, “most people", the size 14 + majority, rebel and start insisting that clothing retailers get rid of the plus size category and just stick us all under “normal", whether we’re a size 2 or a size 22.
And when it comes to selecting a body type on dating sites, whether they’re plus size dating sites, or not, we should all start selecting “Average". Because that’s what we most of us are.
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