Nothing is much terrifying for online dating singles than thinking about dating. Looking for love and romance can be frightening experience, and those without mates can build up violently creative defenses to get rid of looking for love and romance. Romance Counselor, Kathryn Lord is conducting a contest: '8 More Ways to BLEEP Your Lover' to wiggle online dating singles' fancies and inflame smiles.

To bring a little fun into the searching-love procedure which one can find more like a horror-show than a romantic comedy dating consultant, Kathryn Lord gathers the reasons why not to worry searching for love and romance from ?eMAIL to eMATE?, her online dating e-newsletter readers. '50 Ways to BLEEP Your Lover' now is a list of ninety two, and Lord desires to make it up to one hundred.

Lord tells, ?So often when I tell singles what I do as a Romance Coach, I get responses like, 'Oh that is so interesting, I'd love to hear more about it. I really would like to find a mate, but...' and then come a zillion reasons why they haven't or won't.? Kathryn Lord found how original, creative and colorful some of the excuses could be, and understood that the 'reasons' also revealed genuine panic. And Lord knew that his fear really did get in the way of these online dating singles who wished to search love and romance.

'I thought it would help online dating singles to make their fears more conscious, and perhaps laugh a little at themselves and the stupidity of others at the same time. So I asked my e-newsletter readers to send in their most creative reasons that they had used to put off starting to date. And my readers knew just what I talking about!'

Here are the opening 10 reasons not to search for love and romance that Lord had received, some funny, but all serious and significant at one level or the other:

1. I have to lose a few pounds first.
2. I just started a new job and am too stressed.
3. I just lost my job and am too stressed.
4. I have to pay off a few bills first.
5. I want to wait 'til my kids are out of the house (they are 6 and 10 now).
6. My parents just died and I need to heal for the next 20 years.
7. I have no track record with eligible and appropriate men so why ruin a perfect record?
8. I might get a nibble with the cyberdating thing and then what excuse would I have!
9. Yeah, I may have lost 51 pounds, but I still have 30 to go and I never found the profile that says their ideal date has 5 pounds of extra skin on her belly!
10. I might have to go to funeral in two weeks.

Lord tagged the list '50 Ways to BLEEP Your Lover.' Initially the list was really less than 35 reasons, but the list has been one of the powerful fascinations on Lord's Find-a-Sweetheart.com, one of the leading online dating websites for Internet daters, firmly drawing good number of visitors, month after month. And along with the visitors came more eMAIL to eMATE subscribers and more involvements to the '50 Ways?' list. Now the 50 Ways to BLEEP Your Lover list is up to ninety two reasons.

'Why stop at 92? 100 is such a nice, round number,' Lord smiles. 'And I am willing to bribe to get 8 more.'