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[D263]Diana Baumrind Parenting Styles

by Dana Goldberg, Dan

Every grandmother and grandfather will tell you hilarious stories of their children when they were first born. And for every funny and touching story they have, they will be able to tell you another for every hardship they encountered. Parenting is something that is done in many different ways by each parent. The following are four general styles employed by parents.

Authority: Authoritarian parents rule on just that: authority. Commands are given to children that they must follow regardless of the circumstances. If these commands are not followed, harsh punishment will ensue. These parents do not welcome feedback from their children. In fact, it is met with severe punishment. The children tend to be quiet and unhappy. They have more of a fear than a love for their parents. Male children have trouble dealing with anger and female children have trouble facing adversity due to their heavily structured life where nothing ever changes.

Indulgent: Indulgent parents tend to be described as lenient. They allow immature and childish behavior. These parents expect the children to learn from their mistakes and to fend for themselves in most times of need. These parents tend to be democratic and allow for feedback from there children on issues. They will hear both sides of an argument and usually make a compromise. Indulgent parents usually avoid confrontation with their children by all means, but do tend to be more involved and emotionally closer to their children.

Authoritative: Authoritative parents are a combination of the two styles previously mentioned. They are the happy medium. While expecting proper behavior from their children, they welcome feedback and questioning on certain issues. They're able to demand things of their children but are also able to respond to what they're child says, questions and requests. These children tend to be the happiest, most confident and self assured of all the mentioned parenting styles. It is very difficult to be a purely authoritative parent.

Passive: Passive parenting is being completely uninvolved. These parents may never be home due to immaturity, work or the like. These children are usually raised by grandparents, older siblings, babysitters or themselves. There is no parental involvement at all.

We wish you many happy stories!

At an early age, your child learns by imitating the things that he or she sees, hears or feels. According to studies, a child can not distinguish what is right from wrong until he or she reaches the age of seven years old. Until he or she reaches the age of reason, the child simply imitates everything that he or she sees or hears around. If you set bad examples to your child, he or she is most likely to imitate you. For instance, if you have bad parenting habits and you shout at your child, you child will believe that shouting is ok and would tend to follow your examples.

Helping Yourself Out of Bad Parenting Habits

According to studies, bad parenting habits are not only detrimental to the child but also to the parent. You may not be aware of it but bad parenting habits such as spanking or shouting at the child is very stressful on the part of the parent and the child. Studies show that when a parent is very angry, he or she becomes stressed. Since stress could often lead to many types of diseases such as hypertension, depression, insomnia among others, parents who can not control themselves when dealing with their children often suffer both physically and emotionally.

To help yourself get rid of bad parenting habits, you should learn to relax and be more tolerant towards your child. You must understand that children can be really a handful and it would not do you any good if you take everything so seriously. As long as your child is not harming himself or herself, you can at times just let him or her be. Give your child some room to enjoy what he or she is doing.

Another way to help you keep you temper in check and overcome your bad parenting habits is to plan out your day well. People are usually ill tempered when they feel harassed and out of control. In most cases, even people who do not have bad parenting habits would tend to snap at their kids when they are stressed out. By planning your day well you can avoid a lot of stress. Also, when you are planning your day, you should make sure that you organize some activities to keep your child occupied while you go about your daily routine.

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