[D58]Dating Tips For Shy Guys

A common question that is asked by men who want to get to the point where they are 'naturally' good with women is, "What areas do I need to focus on?"

To become a natural with women, you will need to focus on:

a) Developing the behaviors and personality traits that are naturally attractive to women.
b) Going out and socializing with women, rather than going out to 'pick up.'
c) Being a masculine man.
d) Becoming great at conversation and flirting.
e) Learning how to follow the flow of a natural sexual courtship, so you can approach women and get dates with ease.
f) Developing true confidence.

The next common question is, "What if I don't succeed with this?"

If you learn the abovementioned in real life until you master it, you are guaranteed to achieve the areas of focus. From there, the dating lifestyle you've always dreamed of will align with who you've become as a person.

Next, I want to talk about a couple of concepts that I've learnt along the way. First off, I'm going to point out that - when it comes to women & dating - What seems logical isn't always correct.

For example: A guy tells a woman outright that he drives a new sports car, earns lots of money and lives in a rich suburb. Logically, you might think that she'd be impressed and want to be with him because he has his life together.

Yet, the irony is that most women are often put off by men who attempt to impress them paradeby flaunting their possessions and social status. Why?

Because it can be perceived as though you are trying to impress her and win her approval, which is a huge turn off for most women. Note: Boasting about material wealth and possession can work on women who are looking to use you for money and supplicating attention (i.e. gold-diggers).

But is that the kind of woman you want anyway? For your sake, I hope not. So, how do you impress a woman then? By not trying to impress her.

The next concept I want to talk about is actually 'listening' to what women sing about in their songs. I'll call it 'What's in a Song?'

Have you ever stopped and actually listened to what most women sing about in popular music? Have you ever noticed the heart-felt, passionate lyrics about the guy who is making the woman feel intense and desirable emotions?

Think about the plot-lines some of the the most common song themes:

- He left her for another woman.
- He cheats on her, but she still wants him.
- He only uses her for sex and doesn't 'treat her right.'
- She is jealous of another girl hanging around him.
- He doesn't buy her hundreds of gifts like a 'nice guy' would.
- He doesn't call her anymore.

Men are likely to hear such lyrics and logically conclude think "Oh, I'd better be nice then because that women obviously hate guys who treat them that way."

It's a reasonable assumption, wouldn't you agree? I mean, there are so many songs written by women who are apparently 'upset' at the treatment they have been receiving by those menfrom their man.

The logical solution to attracting such a woman then, is surely all about being be to be 'super nice' and doing everything a woman wants, right?

Wrong. Those women are not necessarily 'complaining'. They are simply living out the drama and emotions of being with a man who is a challenge.

On the surface many women may say, "I want a guy who is nice and who's there for me when I need him. I also want him to be faithful and care for me."

But the very same women will often end up dating men who are exactly the opposite. Why? Because guys like the ones being written about in songs, make women feel a variety of intense and desirable emotions.

I'm not suggesting that you treat women badly. Not at all. What I am suggesting is that you become a good guy with edge. Most likely, you already have the 'good guy' bit sorted.

Next, you need to add the edge, which is demonstrated by flirting, using humor, being an alpha male, being confident and taking the lead with women.