[D84]Dealing With Toxic People

You should know that it is not a good thing for a boss to act in such a way, but there are some who just can't help themselves. They think that since they are the boss they can treat a subordinate any way they want.

Since most people are afraid of their boss because they have the ability to fire them, most employees will put up with this situation rather than say anything. However, this may not be the best way to act either.

Dealing with a toxic boss is in no way easy. While sometimes you may be able to grin and bear it, at other times you may want to shout.

If you have found yourself in a situation with a toxic boss, here are 7 tips to deal with the situation:

1.Be brave -- many people are afraid to confront a toxic boss and this is probably the best thing you can do. However, it takes courage to confront someone who has power. The first thing to do is to ask for a meeting with the boss when you know they will be in the office and free of interruptions.

2.Write down issues that you have seen - think about the issues that are upsetting and make a list. Take the list to your boss in a diplomatic way. That is, don't accuse them of being any certain way, but tell them what you have seen and how it seems to effect you and the team.

3.Be worthy of respect and ask for it - when you are talking with your boss, let them know you are worthy of their respect and request that they give you the respect you deserve. Tell them the type of behavior you expect from others.

4. Document problems - besides your list in #2, keep a list of problems you see that are reoccurring. At some point you may need to go to a higher authority and if so, you have a documented list (dates, what happened) to take with you.

5.Stay Calm - don't let the boss see you become emotional about the situation and don't show anger at the boss. These two behaviors can loose respect and change the situation for you on the job.

6.Report the behavior - if all else fails and the behavior continues, don't be afraid to report it. Most companies have a way to report a grievance and you should know this policy and act on it if you need to do so.

7.Know when to leave - as Kenny Rogers once said, "You've got to know when to hold them...when to fold them... and when to walk away." Sometimes leaving a situation is the best thing you can do for yourself and it is better than staying within the toxic situation.