We suggest that you also read the parts previous and following to this.
The next step in healing the Inner Child is to free it from its mistaken perceptions of itself, others and life.
This will require first that we are able to some degree erase our old programming so that the new beliefs can be recorded. Otherwise, it is like recording new music on an old cassette, which we have not erased. We will hear two pieces if music at the same time.
Programming our minds with positive affirmations is useful and important but it does necessarily remove what is previously recorded.
Getting Free from the old Mistaken Beliefs
These old emotionally charged beliefs can be most effectively be removed by the following, all of which require experienced and dependable guides.
1. Regressions to our childhood years where we first release (perhaps through some sort of catharsis) and then transform our conclusions based on what happened. We do not change what happened, but rather the conclusions we made. So when we remember an angry or violent parent, for example, but realize that our self-worth and inner security are not in danger.
2. EMDR, which has, pretty much the same effect, but usually is quicker and more effective.
3. TFT or EFT heal the energy fields associated with these memories and often allow us to quickly and painlessly get free from the old emotions and perceptions.
Programming the Mind with We can then move on to strengthen our belief in logical or spiritual truth.
This can be done in many ways. Some are:
1. Make signs of these or similar phrases and place them where you will see them often.
2. Write these phrases many times, or repeat them verbally often, so as to reprogram the subconscious mind.
3. Make deep relaxation or mind control and repeat these phrases into the relaxed and receptive mind. We will give more details about that in future parts of this series.
4. Think deeply about them and attempt to discover in which situations you forget these truths and act without clarity and responsibility. Practice remembering these truths even in those moments of despair or emotional upset.
They are much more effective and lasting in their results than any type of tranquilizer or other chemical substances.
These attitudinal changes compliment and make more effective any other efforts toward self-healing, such as physical exercises, breathing techniques, cleansing techniques, proper diet, fasting, relaxation, mind control and meditation.
Possible Messages from us to our Inner Child
1. I love you and accept you exactly as you are.
2. I appreciate you and respect you.
3. I feel affection and tenderness for you.
4. You are free to do what you like, provided you are not hurting anybody.
5. You are capable and strong.
6. There is an infinite spiritual power within you, which protects you from illness, events and dangers.
7. Your body is healthy and strong and resistant to illness.
8. You live in a wise divine plan which brings to you only what is useful for your development.
9. You selected your parents and the events of your childhood and thus you created the perfect conditions for your development.
10. There is a Divine Power, which guides you from within.
11. There is within you an all-wise voice that leads you correctly in your life. Follow it.
12. You have the right and the responsibility to express your inner strength and beauty creatively.
13. You deserve love and respect from everyone, regardless of your appearance, social position, profession, knowledge, achievements and what others think of you.
14. Your self-worth is the same as that of every other soul, no more no less.
15. No one else can create or have the responsibility for your happiness, health or success.
16. You can help others but cannot create or assume responsibility for their happiness, health or success.
17. You are an eternal, divine consciousness in the process of developing the ability to express the beauty that exists within you.
18. Everything is Divine. There is no one or thing that is not the expression of the one universal consciousness - you are no exception.
19. It is not necessary to live your life according to the convictions or expectations of your parents or others. Love, respect and help them, but live according to your principles, needs and convictions.
20. Your parents are two eternal souls in a process of evolution whom you selected to play these roles in this incarnation. Your only real parent is God.
21. You have the same worth, wisdom, strength, and rights as the two eternal souls who played the role of your parents.
22. Whatever they did to harm you was out of ignorance or fear.
23. Your parents were once children who were programmed by their parents.
Important Note:
Some of us may have stored emotionally charged memories in our subconscious. We need to release these from our energy system in order to create health, happiness, peace, clarity, evolution and harmonious relationships.
Working with them, however, in some cases, may temporarily bring to the surface some unpleasant or disturbing feelings. We are of course experiencing these negative energies subconsciously and psychosomatically anyway.
Some guidelines for proceeding would be:
1. If you are going to work with your childhood experiences or any other intense emotions and especially depression, you should have an experienced guide for this work. Someone whom you trust and have access to if you need help.
2. Do not do such work immediately before sleeping, driving or important meetings.
We suggest that you also read the parts previous and following to this.
The next step in healing the Inner Child is to strengthen even more our positive beliefs about ourselves others and life.
Some of the positive beliefs we may want to strengthen are:
Stress Eliminating Affirmations
Our thoughts create our reality. We attract to ourselves that which we believe about our selves, others an life. The more positive our thoughts, the more positive our reality. Here are some Affirmations which create a more positive, happier more fulfilling reality.
A. About Ability and Security
1. Anxiety solves no problems ? actions do.
2. Some problems are problems only because I believe them to be.
3. I have the inner power and strength to deal with whatever life brings me.
4. I am capable of handling any possible events or situations.
5. I feel safe and secure in every situation.
6. While making my own sincere effort, I entrust my life, my family and the results of all my efforts into God's (the Universe's) wise and just judgment.
7. Life gives me in each moment exactly what I need in every situation in order to be happy, perform my life and purpose and grow spiritually.
8. I am intelligent and capable enough to succeed in any endeavor which is important to me.
B. About Self-Worth
1. My self-worth is a function of my inner being (of who I am) and not what others think of me or how much I accomplish.
2. The results of my efforts depend on many different factors; one of which is my efforts.
3. My self worth is totally independent of any external factors such as: intelligence, wealth, my home, appearance, talents, professional success, my children's success, being attractive to the opposite sex, making friends, disciplines, "spiritual" activities.
4. I am worthy of love and respect even when I am not perfect in what I do and even when I make mistakes.
5. My self-worth is totally independent of whether others agree with me or are satisfied with me.
6. My self-worth is totally independent of how people behave towards me.
7. My self-worth is totally independent of how much others work or how they work or what they believe about me.
8. My self-worth is a reflection of my divine nature and not my gender, religion, social class etc.
9. I am a good person, a worthy person.
C. Freedom and Love
1. I respect and love all persons (especially my parents and family) without feeling any need whatsoever to live my life according to their beliefs or values. I live my life in harmony with my inner values and beliefs.
2. I am in no way responsible for other people's reality but only for my own motives and behavior towards them.
3. No one else is responsible for my reality. I am totally responsible for what I attract, feel and experience in life.
4. I am responsible for the purity of my motives and quality of my efforts and not for the results of my efforts or how they effect others.
5. All beings deserve my love and respect, including myself
6. I understand that others act negatively out of fear.
7. I am free in each moment to be myself.
8. No one can limit my freedom unless I need something from them.
9. Real freedom is freedom from fears, needs and false limiting beliefs.
10. Real freedom is the ability to do what ever is in my best interest as a soul in the process of evolution.
11. Real freedom is the freedom to experience peace, love and happiness regardless of what happens or others? behavior.
Strengthening our Beliefs
You can strengthen these beliefs in some of the following ways:
1. Written Affirmations
One way of working these new concepts more deeply into the mind is to write them many times each day. As you write or repeat them twenty times a day, you will observe various reactions, positive and negative from your conscious and subconscious mind. You would do well to record these reactions. You can understand much about yourself, your blockages and how to transcend them. This technique is given in detail in the book ?The Psychology Of Happiness?.
2. Affirmations in Deep Relaxation
This is perhaps the most effective way to reprogram our minds with positive affirmations. In deep relaxation the messages can penetrate into our subconscious minds, and thus, changes are made in the roots of our being.
3. Affirmations in our Sleep We can also program cassettes to be played in the hour before we wake up so that the affirmation will go directly into our subconscious mind and not be filtered and rejected by the conscious mind.
4. Subliminal Messages on Cassettes One can also purchase or create ?subliminal? cassettes in which messages are recorded at a level very low on a cassette with peaceful music. Consciously you hear only the music and not the positive affirmations which are recorded at a subliminal level. According to the advocates of this method, these messages can then bypass the conscious mind and its rational filters which block out whatever we have been programmed not to believe.
5. Letter Writing Writing a letter in which we state our positive beliefs to a father, mother, uncle, aunt, spouse, child or any other loved one can seriously strengthen that belief within. This is important because our family is often the last place we experience new beliefs.
6. Cards And Signs Make cards with various positive phrases which you want to remember. Place them around your home, your car and your place of work or whenever your eyes will fall on them frequently. Make large signs which you can decorate nicely and place them in your home and office. Find other creative ways to remind yourselves of these spiritual truths.
7. Write Poems or Make Songs Write poems, make songs out of them and sign them. Repeat them as you are walking driving, cleaning, cooking or doing anything which doesn't require you full conscious attention.
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