Presently, about half (40-50%) of the first time marriages end up breaking up, leaving children in the middle of it all. Children should receive the utmost emotional and psychological care both parents can give, not just one parent.
One of the first things parents must acknowledge is that their children are far more aware of marital problems than they may give them credit for. Many times arguments are accidentally overheard, and a lack of harmony between mom and dad is all too easy to spot. Lack of physical affection, strained conversations, and the absence of a parent are things that only a young baby is likely to miss. Parents need to communicate with their children once they decide to separate, and let them know that it's okay to ask questions.
Once the divorce is granted then both parents must work together to make sure that the kids are given lot of unconditional love by both the parents. Many kids tend to think and act as if they are the cause for the divorce. This is a very damaging attitude for their emotional well being and should be avoided by giving more love. Hugs and Kisses and simple activities done together like dinner or sports can be very reassuring.
Children take the example of their parents. So both the parents should behave with dignity and show real concern to set example for their children. After effects of excessive drinking or casual affairs if seen by children of divorce may force the child to think about things that they are not mature enough to understand.
Both parents must also remember that no matter what, they are connected for life through their children. Negative comments made about one parent by the other parent are uncalled for, and can erode the sense of trust between the parent doing the bad-mouthing and his or her children. Words have power, and can either be used to cause damage or bolster trust and confidence.
Both parents should keep observing how the child react to their day to day activities. Also they should keep watch of the kids activities in school as in the crisis time at home the child may be experiencing difficulties with home work and learning. So it is the responsibility of both parents to give a helping hand to the child to overcome his difficulties in school activities. Also parents should attend any extra curricular activities in the school to show your affection.
It is a difficult task, but when parents decide to separate they should also make efforts to make this change easier for their children also. Make them learn that it is not the end of everything and they can be confident and safe with the love of both mom and dad even when they live separated.