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Juggling everything in our busylives now requires so much that often I have feltthat I am running a military camp. The fact is, if you want to achieve even thebasics when the kids are little; you almost have to run a military camp, toensure you fit in the have to do things like feeding, hygiene, bill paying etcand the want to do things like a walk to the park, allowing time to look at theflowers etc do the shopping and all this before little people are over tired.
With our big kids the ?mustdos? and ?want to dos? change, however time management remains critical andoften effects more people if you don't keep to a time schedule and be close topunctual! Between all the trainings forsport, part time jobs, parties, music lessons, etc each child needs to realizethat even though there is one of them and they want to have a busy life thereare other kids in the family too, along with each parents needs and just ingeneral what has to happen daily to run a family.
and team work runinterlinked together and as soon as the kids understand the more they help youwith the running of the home the more you can ensure they arrive where theywant to be on time. Allow consequences of tasks not completed run their coursenaturally ? which is hard but worth it in the long run. Going to school in adamp uniform that was not brought in off the clothes line the night before isgenerally enough to remember to bring in the washing the next night!
There are many systems you canuse ? a personal diary, a calendar in the kitchen or near the phone. We have aset family roster of jobs that are flexible in its time line expectations. Forexample the kids have a weekend list that is expected to be completed by Sundaynight and for the rest of the week if a task you are on presents itself andneeds to be attended to then you do it that day i.e. The washing needs hanging out or the binneeds emptying. Many people do and you could too have set days for set jobs.This type of system just didn't work for our family but I know it does workwell for others.
The calendar is where thefamily can see all that is going on and coming up. The kids keep their own school diaries andonly update the family calendar with times changes for sports, job, or socialitems. They update on a Saturday and then I go through and arrange my week on aSunday. My husband works a rotating roster system so often I have to arrangefor other parents to help out with the different sports runs.
At the start of each month Ilook at what is on the calendar and write up a monthly to do list and it willhave on it anything and everything i.e. birthdays to shop for, family events tocook for, clothes to buy or repair, a ?to phone list? all of which I then weaveinto my weekly list on a Sunday and break it down into daily tasks. This wayalthough it may sound a bit messy I can group tasks together and do them in oneday i.e. gift buying, sewing repairs, cooking, work tasks etc, I have a dailylist of tasks that I prioritize from 1-3 as the most pressing to do forbusiness, home or family, I then have my home chores and extra little bits thatneed doing anytime soon, which is often completed in the evenings.
If your is out of balance,maybe for the sanity of everyone you may need to back off on some commitmentsand learn to say no to some things. Have a look at what is overloading you andhow you can better manage it. This may mean saying no to some things the kidsdo, just until you get a good family culture happening. Kids although they doobject to jobs and accountability in the beginning; when they see how committedyou are to the ?family project? they settle down and actually like knowingexactly what is expected of them. Organization is a kind of security for us atwork, at school, in voluntary roles so there is no reason why we shouldn't havethe same feeling from our family life being managed with purpose. Also we needto be aware that home is where the heart is, it is where everyone has the rightto relax.