When I was a younger person I thought that I knew everything about life!. Like most of us I had no idea about life or love or the journey. It used to mystify me when people would talk about finding love and how they couldn't find it. I was always in love and never had a problem. It wasn't until I got older that I realized what I had found was nothing to do with love.
As we get older and we become more and more cynical we often find that it is actually a very difficult thing to find love, well what is actual love anyway? . Many of us mistake lust and love anyway and often end up finding that we have found lust and not found love at all.
With the advent of the Internet and so many different ways to find things its not surprising that the Internet is being used by more and more people to find love. Its convenient and it gives you a chance to actually check out who you think meet certain criteria that we have, without actually having to go to all the expense of going out to eternally search.
I have always been of the belief that if you really want something you actually have to do something about it. Are you just sitting at home? Do you think that the person of your dreams is just about to ring the doorbell? Well all I can say is stop kidding yourself because that is no way to find your true love in this modern era.
In the past 5 years I used to try and find love by aimlessly going to bars and clubs trying to meet people. It just wasn't worth it the venues were always noisy and there was so many distractions that it was almost impossible to actually meet people so I gave up.
I have been on more dates in the last year than I had on the previous 4 years simply because I changed my focus and decided that if I was going to find love I could do it a lot more easily from looking on the internet than I could by going to crowded bars and clubs trying to get phone numbers etc. It is so much simpler than all the rubbish you get when you go to the clubbing scene.
I have met some of the most wonderful people recently by just trying on the Internet. It wasn't that hard, simply because you get to search for people you want to meet and decide who you make contact with. Then you can open channels of conversation and hopefully meet and see how things go. If you are shy it's a great place to start.
My advice to anyone is that if what you are doing at the moment isn't helping you to find love then you obviously need to change what you are doing. I hope that you get to find that person, as it's the most rewarding thing that anyone can find in life.
Life is completely about Love, the only real meaning to Life would be to be loved and to Love. Don't believe me, look into this for yourself. Ultimately we all need love and practically all of what we so eagerly pursue, has on some level or remote level, to do with seeking love...
How can I make such a statement? "Seek and ye shall find..." For the next week or two analyze the reasons for doing that big thing you are always keen to do.... That Friday night out with the girls that you would not miss, that fancy sports car you need to have.... The new shoes you can not do without. Is all of this not really an indication that we want to be out there, we want to look good while we out there and if we are looking good we might just find Love? Let's look a bit at some of our beliefs about love.
How many of us believe we have to give up certain parts of who we are, in order to find or hold onto Love?
The opposite is however the real truth about Love. The highest expression of Love is finding yourself in a place where you can find more of you!
A place where you're deeper Self can be expressed.... Your silly playfulness, your job, what you believe in and mostly who you are... We say this daily but do we really understand it? Do we truly hunt the relationships where we can be ourselves? Are you seeking experiences where you can learn more and be more of who you are? I know so many people rather seeking to get to learn more of who their partners are. What their partners believe and how their day jobs affect them. The wise old man on the street corner once said: Love yourself first.... You would be surprised at the level of accuracy that old fool spoke with. You can not find love from the outside if you are not love on the inside. While we like almost every other person learn about love and relationships through trail and error, we write thick books of rules who not to love, who to love and in which ways to love them. Rather then this I would advice writing thick novels about your self! Establish what is right for you and who you are. Relationships need you to come into them with a strong sense of self and a knowing of whom you are and the ones that really succeed would be those where both parties, brought to it a pretty full cup.
Online Dating is pretty much the same. It's easy to say online dating does not work or it's bad and we warn others not to attempt it. Does online dating not work or is it your choices that work against you? Bear in mind that I maintain, your search for dates or partners online, is another way to actually search for love. Many would say, no we just looking for "physical" partners online. Yet again we seek to find love within the physical as well. For many of us the physical is a subconscious trigger that we are being loved. Strange old energy this thing called love, is it not?
Exactly like seeking any other relationship or seeking love, love online would be a daunting experience if you bring a daunting self to its door. As many of us would advice about the ways to go about finding love, give advice and seminars on relationships, the same applies to relationships and love on the world wide web. Many of us might think well finding love in the physical world does not work for me and I will therefore try finding love in the cyber world..... hello ! It's the same world! Going online as an empty shell is the same as going to a pub as an empty shell.
Apply all the deep truths you know and been taught by the gurus right here online as well. Online dating is as real as it gets. The very same real experiences we seek or choose to get into would happen from this online dating world that some of us believe to be separate from reality. Therefore apply your real Self to this very real experience as well.
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