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[T691]The Questions We Ask At Night
by Frank Lucaz, Fra

People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That's not only wise but vital. So what's a nice guy to do? You aren't a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient. Don't press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don't try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn't just see your head.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You've told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

OK. You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile. You've uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact. What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don't have any potential at all? You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy's girl”….but they don't so it's up to you to find these things out and you can't just ask direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady if you decide you want to do that.

After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to her answers. She's going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general.

Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?” Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong.

Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?” If she puts all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn't right for either of them, you've heard the right answer. Move forward but always with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you more confident when you meet the lady for the first time.


It is difficult enough to hire an attorney when you are familiar with the legal issue and the lawyers you deal with. When an individual has been injured and needs a workers' compensation or personal injury attorney for the first time, it is almost impossible to know if you are selecting the right attorney. Ironically, in most cases, whether you have selected a good attorney will only be determined when the case is over. The five questions below will not insure that your attorney is competent or the best lawyer for your case. It will give you some insight into the type of attorney you are hiring.

1. How many years of experience do you have? This seems to be an obvious question but it is amazing how infrequently it gets asked. Experience is the key to the practice of law. The old adage is that, with a lawyer, you pay for the grey hair. The more experience an attorney has, the more likely that he or she has had a case similar to yours. However, every professional must start somewhere. If your case is assigned to a young associate, make sure that someone with experience supervises the case.

2. What percentage of your practice is in this area of the law? The practice of law is becoming more and more specialized. It stands to reason that an attorney who chooses to concentrate his or her practice in a single area know that area better than one who tries to do a little of everything. It is very difficult in this day and time to be a "jack of all trades." Also, relationships between opposing attorneys does play a part in the successful resolution of a case. The more specialized an attorney is, the more likely he or she is to know the opponent if the case goes to litigation.

3. Do you have malpractice insurance? This question is almost never asked but should be. However, if you have work done on your house, one of the first questions you would probably ask is "Do you have insurance?" If the worst happens and your attorney commits malpractice, you do not want to try to collect from an uninsured individual. Also, if he or she has no insurance, there may be a reason such as previous successful malpractice claims.

4. When I call your office, will I talk to your or one of your staff? While paralegals and secretaries are important to any successful practice, they are not lawyers and are not a fair substitute for speaking directly with your attorney regarding important issues in your case. This is not to say that you should always expect to talk to your lawyer when you call. However, some firms rely solely on paralegals after the case begins. The client sees the lawyer when the firm is retained and maybe when the case settles. You entrusted the attorney with your case, not his or her staff.

5. Will you try my case yourself? Often, high volume lawyers never see the inside of a courtroom. If the case needs to be tried, they will either withdraw from your case or refer it to someone else. In a "volume" practice, it takes too much time to try a case as opposed to settling it. What they sacrifice as far as the recovery on a single case, they make up in sheer numbers. These practices are referred to as "mills", grinding out settlement after settlement. However, when your opponent knows that your lawyer is not willing to take your case to court, the chances of you receiving maximum value for your case is far less.

The decision that you make in hiring an attorney will have more to do with the eventual result than any other decision you make on the claim. Most people make this decision on the type of ad someone has in the phone book or what commercial they see or hear on television or radio. Just because an attorney appears in these mediums is no reason to either hire or reject them. Hire someone you feel comfortable with and confident in. Hopefully, the above suggestions will be helpful.
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