Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.
Then there's that common phrase, "He thinks with his... You know."
Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren't physically satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We make our actions to achieve things and influence the world in a positive way.
Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I've personally faced.
Dating can take a lot of time when you are single. Women will suck away at your time if you don't know what you're doing.
Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park... now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON'T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, and so do women.
In fact, it's the nature of a woman to take up the man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there's a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get of you making the most of your life, your time.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"
Now I'm willing to bet it wasn't "money," or "lots of my free time," or "control over my life."
It was probably something like "feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."
There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.
First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much money or time to a girl.
Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.
Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.
That's so untrue!
The best naturals out there see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for years.
Most men that I know have some kind of ?feeling? that it's wrong in some way to sleep with more than one woman at a time. (I'm not even referring to a M'nage ? Trois, either. I'm talking about plain old run-of-the-mill dating a couple of women at a time here.)
But most women that I know have more than just a ?feeling? about this idea. Most women are outspoken and very forward about the idea that it's WRONG for most men to date and sleep with more than one woman. You can see it in their faces and hear it in their voices when they talk about this topic.
If you know what I'm talking about, give me a silent nod here. What I've discovered by doing my homework is that the moral idea of monogamy (having only one partner at a time) has been formalized, passed down, and force-fed to us culturally by rulers, religions, and women for thousands of years.
I don't mean to get too far out here, but I feel that understanding from where these beliefs came and how they are promoted will liberate many readers Onward.
Anywhere from hundreds to thousands of years ago, rulers of lands kept large harems of women. These harems were guarded carefully to prevent any males except the rulers from having access to these women. The penalty for sleeping with one of the ruler's women could be, in an extreme case, your own death and the deaths of everyone in your family and village. (Back then there were bigger risks involved!)
These rulers kept so many women not just for the sexual variety that it provided them, but also for the reproductive power that it gave them. These rulers often had detailed records kept so they could copulate with only the most fertile women and maximize the woman's chances of pregnancy and passing on their own genes. So what do you think these rulers did to protect their harems?
Right! They passed laws (from which they were exempt) to promote monogamy. In these times there was a great shortage of women, so these laws would discourage married men (those lucky enough to find a woman) from seeking sex outside of their marriage and therefore further protect the ruler's harem. Next, we have the church.
Many religions prohibit sex, make sex ?wrong?, give it some name with a negative connotation like ?fornication?, or in one way or another discourage it.
I once heard a wise man say, ?Religions take everything that your DNA naturally wants to do to survive and procreate and makes it wrong.? Why? Well, if you're busy fighting your internal drives, and you see God as the only way to cleanse yourself of these ?bad? thoughts, then you are a much better SHEEP.
If you want to get people to follow you, first confuse them, then convince them that you know the way to get them out of their confused state. Easy.
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