Have you ever asked yourself that question? Of course it's in a way obvious why anyone wants to lose weight, but deep down and on the surface - if we take a closer look - might lay something that lets us understand the whole problem much better.
I actually think it's a fair and a good question to ask; if you feel you must lose weight, there is a reason for it, and the reason is not only that you feel or are overweighed. It can be much more!
Something has brought you to this point. Somehow you have lived your life and made your choices and now you find yourself in a position where you should lose weight. At this point your system might already be on autopilot. You might have developed some desires that are very hard to change. Your system has its own natural way of living and going about things - coping with all the stress and negativity from other people and in this world etc. By now your ship has a steady course and it could be hard to change - you might feel it's impossible - you might feel you need help from outside.
I'm not here to convict you; I'm here to help you see more clearly. But the above could easily make you feel like I'm just stating some obvious facts about weight loss. This is not the case. What I want to do is provide you with a map, a map that helps you see where you have come from and where your destination is, and also what you need for this journey.
What you need above all is a clear mind, strong motivation and willpower.
Remember the ship analog? If you are a ship, your willpower is the rudder. Your ship might have a steady course but your motivation is going to change that course, and then one day you are sailing on completely different waters. Beautiful waters! Good waters - so good the previous experiences seem like distant dreams or nightmares.
But right now you have a conflict.
Because you see clearly that your ship is heading the wrong way and you feel it's so hard to turn the rudder - you might feel you want to let go, why fight, I will lose the weight loss battle anyway - like always before?
If you feel like this, it's probably because you are trying to turn the rudder too fast and too suddenly.
It doesn't work that way. The habits we have, are developed during many years, the emotional side is very deep and complicated, and we can't just change that in one moment, no matter how strong our will is.
We need to go gently and lovingly. It's very important to love ourselves - our system - and understand that it takes time to change, because it took time to get here in the first place - weight gain takes time, weight loss takes time. It's ok to make mistakes. From mistakes we learn, but it's not ok to be too hard and demanding on yourself. You will just make things worse.
The ship analog is good in a sense that if you imagine a big ship and it must turn around - it takes lots of space first of all to maneuver - and that space might just not be available at the moment, we have to wait and sail for deeper waters to do it - also it's very easy to understand that it has to turn slowly - the ship is big, you can't just change the course using the rudder in few seconds - something would break and it's also physically impossible.
Losing weight is possible. Losing weight is going to happen, but we have to understand what we are dealing with and go one step at the time. We have to have determination and above all patience. It's a matter of changing our habits and think along new lines, we are the creators of these new lines, so let's make them as good as possible. Let's not force ourselves, let us be loving and kind to ourselves, because if we do, we are going to feel good and we have lesser excuses for overeating and over reacting - we will stay balanced and our ship will turn.
I welcome you to visit my blog for more tips on this subject, diets and frequently updated content, and I hope you are sailing towards better waters.
I may be blunt. Okay, I will be. But honest. Possibly... politically incorrect. Okay, probably. Will possibly say what you don't want to hear. Feel free to look away... now.
Hmm.. still here huh? Thrill-seeker. Crazy kid.
Even though I've spoken way too much for way too many years about getting in shape (in the course of my work)... and I'm kinda over it, recent events (stuff in the media here in Australia and several random conversations) have compelled me to write this post. It seems we're still missing the point when it comes to losing weight (effectively and permanently).
If you, or someone you know, needs to lose weight, pay attention and/or pass this post along.
Conventional thinking tells us that losing weight is essentially a physiological process; lift this, run there, stretch that, get your heart rate up, decrease your calorie intake, no carbs after three (crapola) and increase your energy expenditure. Mostly good advice.
And traditional approaches (by the medical profession and the fitness industry) tell us that weight loss is essentially about three key variables; exercise, food and lifestyle. Oh yeh, and more education. And to a point, they are right. But only to a point.
I'm here to tell you that while exercise, food, lifestyle and education are indeed important variables in the process, without doubt, the biggest determinant of weight loss (or gain) is what's going on in that nine pound (four kilo) thing sitting on the top of our shoulders.
Yet the psychology of weight loss is rarely discussed (in any depth) by the 'experts'. And in my humble opinion, that's because many of them don't get it. It.. being the head stuff that goes with the body stuff.
If you have been, or are currently, overweight, then you absolutely know that losing weight is first and foremost a psychological and emotional process. I was a fatty (200lbs, 90kgs at fourteen)... and when I got my head in the right place, my body followed. I thought different, chose different(ly) and created different.
Q. What really determines weight loss (or gain)? A. Attitude, thinking, self-control, mind-set and ultimately, decisions.
We know what to do. But we don't do what we know. We've never been more educated. Yet we've never been fatter. We've never had more resources. And we've never made more excuses (heard them all). We've never had more reasons to lose weight. And we've never wasted more time.
But people don't wanna hear this message because it's too fundamental and obvious. And it requires real effort, sacrifice, work and self-control. No, we'd rather talk about weight-loss theory number ten million or the latest 'breakthrough' pill, powder, potion, product, gizmo or gadget. Or that amazing new weight-loss book. 'Cause we need another one of those.
We want quick, easy, convenient and painless. We are soft. We are precious, lazy and lack self-control. We are the quick-fix society. And the instant-gratification generation. And the fat generation.
We want an answer that doesn't require effort or sacrifice on our part. And it is this mentality which keeps us (us, the society) fat.
If the answer to Global obesity was in fact, more education, information or resources, then we would all be getting leaner by the day because we've never been more educated, informed or equipped when it comes to diet, exercise, lifestyle and all that 'obesity-related stuff'.
Here's some random food for thought (nice book title)... on obesity. (You can still look away at any time).
1. External change needs to be accompanied (or preceded) by, internal change (for it to be lasting).
2. Most people who lose weight regain it (over 95%) because they haven't really changed their attitude or thinking. They change their behaviours for a while but deep (deep, deep) down they haven't really changed their core thinking, beliefs, attitudes or standards. On a subconscious level many people are waiting for it (the diet, the fitness kick) to be over.. so they can go back to being 'normal'. And when they do eat less and exercise more they (often) slide into a deprivation mentality... constantly telling themselves that they're 'missing out'.
3. If we tell ourselves that it will be a painful, horrible process... it will be (for everyone). Attitude = outcome.
4. The sooner we stop looking for easy and start looking for effective... the sooner we'll start to see real (forever) change.
5. Weight-loss martyrs are a pain in the ass... "I've been so good... I've been so good."
6. While food, exercise and lifestyle are important ingredients in the weight-loss process... it is our head which determines how we eat, exercise and live. Which in turn determines our physiological state.
7. The fat person with all the knowledge, education and resources... and a crap attitude.. will stay fat.
8. The fat person with limited knowledge, resources and genetic potential.. and a great attitude... will produce much better results every time.
9. The sooner we stop getting in shape for 'events' (weddings, birthdays, reunions, parties) and start getting in shape for life... the sooner we'll start to see forever results.
10. The fitness industry and medical profession have a one-dimensional approach to weight-loss; physical. This is ignorant, naive and ineffective. Losing weight (effectively) is a complex, multi-dimensional process (physical, emotional and psychological).
11. Losing weight is not about finding the right program, diet, supplement or drug; it's about finding the right attitude.
12. Many (okay, most) fat people make excuses and tell lies. A lot. Just ask the ex fat kid. Yes, I know this sounds offensive but if you had experienced the thousands of conversations with as many fat people as I have... you'd know that I'm telling the truth. You can get offended... or educated; it's a choice.
13. By the way, 'fat ' is not an insult (in this discussion)... it's a physiological state.
14. The sooner we call fat what it is (as opposed to deluding ourselves by calling each other full-figured, big-boned and heavy-set) the sooner we will get serious about addressing obesity in a real, practical, no bullshit way. Perhaps we should worry less about political correctness and more about heart disease, diabetes, bowel cancer and the plethora of other obesity-related conditions. "Whatever you do.. don't mention the 'F' word.. you might hurt her feelings; she's not fat, she's... voluptuous!".
15. We love to play the blame game. We wanna blame someone or something for our obesity. It's a time thing. It's a genetics thing.
As long as it's not a 'me' thing.
Otherwise I might have to get off my ass and take responsibility for my fat self.
If you're still talking to me, let me know your thoughts and where you're from.
PS. If you want to explore this subject in greater detail, there's a book called FATTITUDE which ain't too shabby. Not sure about the author.. but apparently the book's okay.
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