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For a man, it's easy to tell the lies that himself believes, but definitely harder to have the power and ability to assert the truth, which points out why just 16% of men recognize their affairs to their partner.
Provided that human beings forecast a possible danger, they prepare themselves to face it properly, and usually unfaithful men oversee two alternatives: wether to lie and in the same time confuse their partner by defusing her grief, or confess the painful truth which involves heavier consequences.
Still, having in mind the victim's well being, she should let things go their own way, be patient and listen what the partner has to confess, without interposing in his avowal. There are also disadvantages when confessing the truth: the victim is obviously harmed by infidelity, but too much information might harm her and drive her mind crazy and full of agony. Often, the impact is so deep that some victims suffer memory traumas.
Adding lies
It is fair that when betrayal is involved, the healing process must begin by a sincere and honest confession made by the cheating person towards its spouse. Some people consider that it is much better to admit their sins, rather than being caught glaring. Still, it is advisable to make a righteous confession and from the bottom of the heart, because a selfish confession is quickly detected. Due to the fact that a confession implies emotional weight and the relationship's future depends on it, it must be frank and thoroughly explained.
As strange as it might seem, in order to avoid a future possible deception there are heavy reasons to spare the cheated victim of disloyalty, especially if the deeds were committed for a long period of time. This situation is understandable, because as human beings we have our own emotional and physical limits that cannot be lengthen endlessly.
Of course, a fair appraisal and honest discussion regarding the relationship must be held, but if after it the victim is still uninformed , then it seems that there is no point to continue and the victim must not be puzzled for this kind of discussion. The relationship needs a healthy airing that might be fulfilled without this.
But, when the unfaithful partner is prepared and willing to open up and discuss about his deeds, this decision might straighten out their problems and create a new direction for the couple to fallow.
Forgiveness
Surprisingly, around 16% of women think that they would forgive their partner for a one night relationship. This fact is a clear evidence that it is much better to confess when cheating as soon as possible, without allowing it to strike roots or by keeping it secret to affect the loved ones even harder. Finally, people have the power and ability to discuss, listen and forgive one another, and truly embrace each other's drawbacks. Obviously, when cheating, the husband must clearly be honest and avoid any more lies, because in this moment holding something back will make the spouse even more vulnerable.
It takes efforts and courage when being involved in a relationship, but when put in a situation as infidelity, the real involvement is proved by the choice made: either to confess it immediately, either to keep it secret from your partner and transform it into a possible relationship breaker.
There are many poems that reveal the feelings of a broken hearted victim and the most eloquent story is of Narcissus from the Greek Mythology
Narcissus rejected the affection of those who loved him and one of his victims prayed for him to fall in love and never receive back love, as a way of retribution. What interesting is that the tale emphasizes on his insensitivity towards other people, and his unaware self lenience irregardless of others' feelings.
As a reply the prayer, when looking into a swamp of water, he suddenly falls in love with his reflection. Longing to embrace it, the reflection soon fades away as a flower.
For the rejected victim, his kind an end would be a reassuring one, and in this moment exist three people who would like to see someone suffer, and their joy would be complete if someone would fade away, maybe into a kind of foliage or eaten alive.
The male peacock stirs up his feathers so that he courts his possible mate, and surprisingly the female replies in the same way. Generally, this rule is also valid in the case of men infidelity: if his clothes, personal hygiene and accuracy seem to alter. When observing the absence of the wedding ring or lipstick marks on his collar, you must be aware because this are also signs of cheating.
When infidelity exists, it is noticeable if the husband looks for a new haircut, renewing its wardrobe in order to create a new attitude suited for a new affair.
When asking "Is my husband cheating?", some problems gave occurred and it is required a special sense, a sixth sense that allows women to intuit her husband deeds and this feeling is valid. A closer look will soon disclose changes in style, manner and behavior and possible nervousness, that will confirm or call off doubts.
He might be Faithful
It is true,a drastic change in appearance may be determined by infidelity, but there are also other reasons besides betrayal.
Someone's look might change due to vanity, but also envy which nowadays it is directly related with the each person's physical aspect, youth, beauty and strength.
Modern democracy encourages the belief that everyone is capable to fallow and accomplish own dreams through personal transformation and rebirth of ourselves. Since a long time ago it has been shown that physical appearance is directly linked and influences moral worth, both internally and externally, as in the fairy tales of Cinderella or the Ugly Duckling.
Finally, in the 20th century the Viennesse psychologist Alfred Adler has brought precious evidence regarding the connection between physical appearance and mental health, a harmony that must be maintained so that our self esteem and ego to be at a normal level.
If your man is possesses this attitude and behavior, it does not mean that he is positively cheating, but suffering from a condition that most people do, and you must try to help him retrieve his personal identity and recover his place in this world .