How many times have we heard cheesy pick up lines like:
"Nice shoes. Wanna bang?"
"Your name must be Gillet, because you're the best a man can get."
"Did you wash your pants with windex? Because I can see myself in them."
Using a line like these will get you nowhere with a woman fast, chances are she will not even speak to you.
Consequently, bad pick up lines get too much attention, therefore everyone thinks all pick up lines are lame.
And this just isn't true.
A good pick up line will actually do what it says - help you pick up a girl!
The true point in using pick up lines is to begin a conversation.
That is all.
After the woman begins talking with you, then you work your magic of getting her to date you, her telephone number and the emotional connection.
Remember, if you do not begin a conversation, you cannot do much more.
You want something more that just talking to a woman; you want to engage her in a good conversation. Drawing her into your conversation is the only means of continuing your relationship journey.
Good pick up lines help you do this.
It is natural to be nervous when going out to meet women, being unsure what to say; however, most often you miss your chance to meet a good woman, simply because it takes to long to think up something to say.
That is why it's important to know one or two good pick up lines that actually WORK. Because for those situations where you can't be original, you need something to help you take action!
Never, consider that you can slide by with a line such as:
"Don't I know you from somewhere?"
All women know this to be a lame pick up line. You might think you're being clever when you say this, but you're not.
Other bad pick up lines include, asking for directions, complimenting her on her clothing and telling her she looks like some big celebrity.
Why?
This is because these lines do not engage the woman into a conversation with you, once she answers your question, she may not show interest in conversing with you.
Bad pick up lines have yes and no answers. Good pick up lines get a woman to thinking about her response, while encouraging an emotional reaction from her, this causes her to want to continue talking with you.
How can you engage a woman in conversation with you?
The easiest way is to ask her opinion about something. Every woman has strong opinions, and they aren't afraid to share them! (Particuarly when they come to relationships!)
So to give you an example, you could say something like: "Hey, can I get your opinion on something real quick? Do you think it's wierd for a woman to try and get pregnant because she wants her baby to be born under a certain astrological sign? I really want to hear a woman's perspective on this."
Then you can follow up with a story about how you know a woman who wants to make sure her kid's zodiac signs are compatible with hers so they will be well behavied as they grow up.
These various types of subjects for conversation can be about:
1. Astrology 2. Children 3. Pregnancy 4. Marriage 5. Relationships
The numerous ideas for conversations are unlimited. Here you will find a few of my favorite follow-ups.
"Are you a believer in astrology?" (This can begin conversations about destiny and fate.)
"What is your zodiac sign?" (This can lead to talking about your sign compatibility - as a general rule, no matter what your sign is - you are compatible!)
"Are you fond of children? You seem very nurturing."
This could go on forever, surely, you get the idea.
A good pick up line design draws a woman into an interestingly deep conversation, while allowing you the opportunity of getting to know one another better and becoming familiar with one another.
This is how you engage a woman in conversation.
At this point, it's the easiest thing in the world to get a phone number from a girl, and possibly even set up a first date.
Yet, if you are determined to use pick up lines, it will be better to read this first:
1) Practice your pickup lines a lot - Press the "record" button on your tape recorder or just stand in front of a mirror and repeat your favorite pickup lines over and over again.
From time to time change the pitch and speed of your voice. Your goal is to utter your favorite pickup lines in a sexy confident manly way.
If you are not sure how to achieve this goal, watch some James Bond movies and look at how James Bond speaks to women. Try to match your tone of voice to his.
The best method is to videotape yourself practicing your pickup lines.
By doing so you can also SEE how good or bad you are making your approach.
Notice not only what you say and how you say it, but also your facial expressions while speaking.
2) Be Unique - Women hear pickup lines from guys all the time, so make your pickup lines unique.
The way to make your pickup lines unique is to create your pick up lines FRESH, meaning, ON THE SPOT.
For example, let's say that you are trying to pick up a woman in the bank. Look around you, and try to gather valuable information from your surrounding:
- You are standing for two hours in a very long line. - It is very hot in the bank because the air conditioning doesn't work.
- The woman has a very unique bag.
- You hear someone complains about money he didn't receive.
These observations will serve as the platform for your unique pickup lines.
You need to observe the information you gathered and extract one observation which you think can be turned into the best pickup line.
3) Convert your best observation into a best pickup line. After you've selected your best observation, you can now create the perfect pickup line from it.
If we are using the example of the bank, the right kind of pickup line may be something like this:
Your BEST observation: you are standing for two hours in a very long line.
Pickup Line (option 1): Do you know a good place to buy sleeping bags because I think we are going to spend the night here?
Pickup Line (option 2): What do you say that you and I rob the place?
If you will say these pickup lines in a confident yet playful manner, you will see the fruits of your efforts sooner than later.
4) Leave your ego at home - We said before that we need to create good pickup lines from on the spot observations. The other thing you need to do is make your pickup lines interesting TO THE GIRL you are trying to pick up (not only to yourself).
You may be a football fan and you may also have observed a kid throwing a football to his brother.
Yet, it will be better not to generate a pickup line which is directly related to football because most women are not usually interested in football.
Instead ask a question which can be of a mutual interest to you and the girl you want to pick up.
5) Radiate Dominance - Women love a confident vibe in a man and as we said before, you can generate a confident vibe by how you say your pickup lines but also by the actual words you use in your pick up line.
You need to choose words that don't radiate neediness to the woman but that actually show that you are doing her a favor by talking to her.
In the same way that a dish shows the personality of a chef, pickup lines show the personality of the suitor.
If you are able to develop the kind of personality which radiates dominance, confidence, lack of egotism and individualism, even the worse "pickup line" will be a gem when it comes out of your mouth.
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