In order to attract beautiful women it is necessary to "step out of yourself" and your male mindset for awhile and enter the intricate and sometimes complicated female psyche. Although at first they may seem like a daunting task it is possible to learn how to attract women, even extremely beautiful ones, when you begin to understand some simple truths.
The truth is you can have the best guides for picking up women that exist but if you fail to understand why they work your success rate will be greatly diminished. When you don't understand why you are doing something it becomes much more likely that you will make small, subtle mistakes that have huge, negative effects.
The following points will give you some idea of how best to approach a woman. When you understand these points you will be able to use any seduction system with 100% success and even be able to devise some techniques of your own.
1. Men and women think differently! Once you grasp this concept it becomes easy to understand why so many men fail at the dating game. The usual approach, of the average guy, when it comes to picking up a woman is to use techniques, methods, approaches and pick-up lines that he thinks will work. Unfortunately, the average guy is using these approaches based on male psychology and not that of females!
2. Men act on their decision-making capabilities. Men are ruled by their analytical right-brain functions. Women are not! When you make any attempts at picking up women you are probably using an analytical approach. This will never work on the female mind.
3. Women act on their emotions. In the vast majority of cases a man will act only after having analysed a situation. He will think it through and then make a decision. For example, when a man goes shopping for new clothes he almost always knows exactly what he wants and probably the best shop to get it in. When a woman goes shopping she will visit many different shops, try on different outfits and different styles until she "feels" she has found the perfect one!
4. When a man approaches a woman he has already analysed the situation, "weighed up" his chances of success and thought about a strategy to use. Albeit, these things usually happen in either a few seconds or a few minutes - hoever, be assured, that all these things happen in your mind.
5. A woman can analyse a man but she will always follow her feelings first!
6. The key to picking up women then is not in your approach, your use of language or even body language, how wealthy you are, whether or not you are famous or even how good-looking you are. The key to picking up women lies in your ability to evoke the appropriate positive feelings in your potential partner!
This is easier to do than you may think. As a human being your brain has been wired to respond in certain ways at certain times. All humans are hot-wired in this way. If you hear a large bang you may feel your ears prick up (like a dog's) and jump as the fight or flight reaction kicks in. This is a result of our ancestor's need to be aware of their surroundings in order to stay safe.
In the same way men and women respond to romantic stimulus in a hot-wired fashion. However, they respond in different ways.
Men are attracted to beautiful women and look for the most appropriate mate who can bare the best offspring. That is why they are so influenced by physical appearance.
Women are attracted to men who are strong and can protect them. They judge a man's strength not on his physical appearance but on other subtle factors. A lot of research shows that only 20% of a woman's attraction to a man is based on physical appearance.
When you understand that a woman is hot-wired differently than you and you learn how to push her emotional buttons you can almost guarantee a positive response.
To summarize:
1. Women and men think differently.
2. Men act on their decisions.
3. Women act on their emotions.
4. Women seek men who can protect them and make them feel safe.
5. Picking up women is easy when you can evoke the correct feelings in her.
There's goes another one: another missed opportunity for what could be a beautiful relationship.
If picking up women is a mystery to you, don't be too hard on yourself. It's that way for many men.
That's why we've come up with the following 4 critical steps for successfully picking up women.
1. Practice - Practice really does make perfect. Practice talking to women in general throughout your day - whether you find them attractive or not. You're not picking up these women, you're just practicing talking to them. In fact, you might find it easiest to start by practicing talking to women you don't want to go out with. Talk to the waitress or cashier. Talk to the women in line with you. Talk to the women waiting for the bus with you, or sitting next to you on the bus. Just practice. You'll be surprised at how much more comfortable you'll become talking to the women you want to be picking up when you've had ample practice talking to women who you don't.
Practice as well when by yourself, if possible in front of a mirror. Listen to how your voice sounds when you say "Hi" and introduce yourself. Watch you facial expressions and other body language.
2. Relax - Get into the habit of doing something to calm your nerves every time you see a beautiful woman. Notice if any of your limbs are shaking nervously, or if you're fidgeting, and make it stop. Breathe deeply several times, into the belly. You can even close your eyes for several seconds and do some peaceful, relaxing visualizations (if circumstances allow). Give yourself some calming affirmations to run through your mind when you see an attractive woman.
No doubt, a certain degree of nerves is to be expected, and the right women find it cute. But too much anxiety reeks of insecurity and is a bigger obstacle to picking up women than anything you could possibly say wrong.
3. Open Your Mouth - At some point you're just going to have to bite the bullet and actually do it. Go up to a woman you find attractive and say something. Hopefully by now you've practiced enough to feel somewhat comfortable with what you might say and hopefully you've relaxed enough that you'll be able to let your natural attractiveness shine through. But you can't sit on the bench forever, because that's how life - including a romantic life - passes you right by.
Remember, picking up women successfully requires that you at least try.
4. Be Good to Yourself - Part of picking up women successfully is how you handle yourself after you approach a woman and don't get the response you'd hoped for. If not getting the desired response is enough to keep you from ever trying again, you may as well give up attempting to pick up women now and save yourself the heartache and grief.
Because the simple truth is, you're not always going to get the response you want. Oh well. Chalk it up to more practice. It doesn't say anything about you as a person that a woman you were attracted to was not attracted to you.
That's about her. The only time it says something about you is if you let it get you down so much that you'd rather not try picking up women at all rather than forging ahead and continuing to give it your best. Then there's no advice that can help you.
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