Now you might laugh at this, but one morning I awoke to what I thought was road works going on just outside the bedroom window. I should have been so lucky! It was my new wife, snoring like a darn jack hammer. Honestly, I had never heard anything like it in my life. In fact it was so infuriating, I had to wake her up to shut her up. This went on for some weeks after that first bout, and it was literally doing my head in. If anyone ever needed a cure for snoring it was her, or should that be me, as it didn't seem to worry her all that much! For the sake of our marriage, this had to stop and stop soon.
The funny thing is that her snoring just started from nowhere and for no apparent reason. She denied she snored of course, like so many of these midnight snorters do, so I had to record the retched noise for proof. She still thought I was having her on, so I borrowed my brother's digital camcorder, and this time there was no denying the fact. Even she was horrified by the playback and was more than happy seek a cure for snoring as soon as possible.
The first thing we discovered was that snoring is in actual fact a medical condition. Apparently, boozers are more likely to snore because the alcohol relaxes the muscles at the back of their throats. Some sleep medications can have the same effect too, which kind of made sense in our case as my wife had recently gone onto sleeping pills after a major falling out with her sister.
We also discovered that large tonsils or a stuffed up nose are responsible for bedtime snarling and snorting noises. With the latter, the snorer is likely to be louder in the summer months as there are many irritating airborne particles which means that hay fever sufferers are particularly vulnerable.
But get this! Did you know that overweight and idle people are more likely to snore than slender active beings? It's true, well according to the Doc anyway. He said he has cured many snoring problems by getting fat people to slim down and take regular exercise. Also, by dropping off to sleep on you side as opposed to your back is said to work with some folks. It was explained to us that this can be achieved by simply propping a pillow behind you before you nod off as it will help stop you from rolling over onto your side.
So excited was I at the thought of getting a good nights sleep after weeks of sleepless hell, that I got this article out as soon as I arrived home while the cures and preventions for snoring were still fresh in my mind. Anything to help fellow sufferers. That's sufferers, not snorers, as they are often quite oblivious as to the restless havoc they cause after dark.
Here are some methods to save and salvage a marriage after an affair:
a) Seek therapy. Saving a marriage after affair entails a lot of communication, a lot of delving into past situations and relational patterns that resulted in the affair to begin with. To save a marriage an after affair can mean months or even years of regular therapy with a professional marriage counselor, and it should be undertaken by both you and your spouse, together.
b) Make a committment to each other. Consider your commitment to the work and to each other. Saving a marriage after affair means that both spouses will need to make a permanent, serious decision that they want to stay together, and that they are willing to do the work it takes. To save a marriage after affair is not easy, and can try even the strongest persons' sense of self and emotions. If one or both of your are not totally willing to do the work it takes to stay together, you will likely not succeed in saving a marriage after affair.
c) Rebuild the relationship. After an affair, the relationship is probably pretty much destroyed and possibly hanging on only by a thread. When saving a marriage after affair, it is important to make big changes right now to forge a path toward each other again. Apologies can help, but when it comes to really saving a marriage after an affair, they won't repair the damage that has been done. But seeing some remorse on the part of the cheating spouse can be a first step to real healing down the road.
d) Avoid blame and disrespect. If your spouse has cheated, it is natural to feel anger and sadness, and there will be times when your sense of blame is on High. In the end, though, to genuinely save a marriage after an affair requires the willingness of both spouses to take a step back from blame, retribution, revenge, and guilt trips. The first priority in saving a marriage after your spouse has cheated or had any affair should be to build a path back to each other, where mutual respect and love can be found again. No one said this part is easy, but if saving a marriage after an affair is your aim, it's a necessary part of the journey.
e) Spend time with each other. To save a marriage after affair isn't a process that can be quickly taken care of in a couple weeks. It will take a lot of time and effort, and hours and hours of talking and listening to each other. There will be rough spots through the process, but if saving a marriage after affair is truly your desire, you can and will find success towards that goal.
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