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[P477]Play With Your Kids
by Colleen Langenfeld, Col
"Dad, play with me!!"

Sound familiar?

If you're a parent, these plaintive cries from your children can become daily shouts. As busy moms and dads, we're continuously torn by the demands on our time. Here are some simple ways to spend time with your kids while getting the jobs done that need to be done (including the toughest job of all, parenting). These Sneaky Fun ideas are also great ways to teach our children exactly how to successfully accomplish many routine tasks.

- Make a silly dinner together.
Think 'Green Eggs and Ham' or try a picnic on the living room floor. Bring your child along for the meal planning, shopping, prep time and clean-up. Involve them each step of the way.

- Turn on the music and clean, clean, clean.
Forget TELLING your kids to go clean; side-by-side, with some of their favorite music playing, move through the house dancing and cleaning. They'll love it (and so will you).

- Exercise together.
You know you need to do it. Your child is your perfect exercise partner. Make it a 'talk and play' time and you'll both get fit together.

- Share a hobby.
Love to fish, garden, sew, paint, sing? Share that love with your youngster. Try an interest that fascinates them. Learn a shared passion - together.

- Start a girls or boys night out.
You will make an incredible impression with this one. Take your daughter out for regular manicures and lunch. Stay close to your son with a favorite concert or sporting event. Teach your children about wholesome entertainment and the joy of healthy relationships. You can even team up with another parent and child for regular fun; just make sure that honest conversation is the true priority.

- Improve their skills.
Do you have a student struggling with homework? Quit nagging and ask them to teach YOU what they've learned. Be a patient listener. The fastest way to learn is often to teach.

- Wash the cars.
Need I say more? Water, the chance to soak mom or dad, and a sense of accomplishment when it's all done. Follow up with an ice cream cone for a job well done.

- Growing things.
Countless gardeners have discovered deep satisfaction in sharing their love of growing things with children and grandchildren. Gardening is a useful de-stressing tool and the most frustrated child tends to loosen up and share their heart while getting their hands dirty alongside a trusted adult.

- Plan, plan, plan.
If your household is anything like mine, it benefits greatly when I take the time to map out regular activities. Menu-planning, budgeting and vacationing come to mind, for starters. Show your child (of the appropriate age) how to use their time and money wisely by including them in the planning of everyday family activities. As they mature, they can easily be put in charge of some of these planning sessions, teaching them to younger siblings. Your trust and belief in your kids can ease the stress on them as they grow, too.

- Organize.
Almost all families struggle with organization in some area. Truth be told, we're simply busy people and have often outgrown the simplistic organizing methods that once worked just fine. Give your kids the opportunity to be the creative organizer in your family. Whether its making sense of the family photos or tackling the hall closet, do it with them to get the job done and make a memory that's shared.

- Schedule the fun.
Sometimes the best defense is a good offense. Try scheduling a set time of fun in exchange for a set time of work. For example, Monday can be family board game night while Saturday morning sees the family hard at work in the yard. Sometimes it's easier for kids to see the point when it's a straight trade off of time and energy.

The idea here is simple and clear. Use everyday activities to build relationships and teach responsibility. After all, everybody wins when 'fun' becomes a part of daily life!


It was another afternoon with Kyle, six, and Neil, two. I was sitting in the playroom folding the family laundry.

Just as I had almost finished, and was stacking some of the folded laundry into the basket, Kyle ran over and knocked the basket over, spilling the newly folded laundry on to the floor.

I felt a flash of anger and tensely asked him to pick it up. He refused and ran out of the room with a grin. I continued to fold the last of the laundry but left the basked toppled and waited for him to return.

I considered my options... "This could easily escalate and become a huge power struggle," I thought, envisioning that scenario unfolding (pun intended).

I knew I didn't want to pick up the laundry myself, but I also couldn't force him to do it.

Suddenly, Kyle entered the room wearing his dress-up armor, carrying a sword and a shield.

He pointed the sword at me.

I asked again if he would pick up the basket. He said, "I didn't knock over the basket."

We all knew he was lying-we'd seen him knock the laundry over.

But I had an idea. I decided to play along with his game and see if I could spin this so that he'd actually WANT to pick up the basket.

"Oh Great Knight!" I exclaimed, "I'm so glad you've come! A laundry monster has knocked over my basket of laundry! Please, Great Knight, will you help me?!"

Kyle flashed me a smile and ran over to the basket.

After he picked everything up he pointed the sword at me again.

I glanced over and pointed at a stuffed dragon on the floor nearby "There it is Great Knight! The Laundry Monster! Slay it!" Kyle quickly directed his sword at the stuffed dragon-and away from me.

I felt triumphant. Not only had I averted a potential power struggle, we had actually remained connected, and had fun together in the midst of a potential disaster.

I got my laundry fixed, and he got to play and save face. In fact, as soon as I was able to take his lead and really play with him, he was able to cooperate.

In this instance, not only was I able to remain grounded in my own needs for safety and peace, but also I was able to make a clear request, to which Kyle could agree without feeling overpowered, forced, or coerced.

So, the next time it seems like he's just out to get you, see what you can do to turn the tables to avoid the power struggle.

I feel so grateful that this time, I chose the path of ease, fun, and connection. I hope by sharing this story, I can offer you more options for avoiding a power struggle and staying connected with your child.

Warmest hugs, Shelly Birger
Article Source : Parenting In Blended Families

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