1.Be a good listener. Listening is the basis of all communication. It creates the channel by which true exchange can take place. It is a gift. " Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward, and we want to sit in their radius, When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. " Karl Menninger One of the best ways to persuade other is with your ears- by listening to them. This ability to listen is so rare that if you have it, you will be welcome and appreciated everywhere
2.Be present. Give the person your total attention. Be present. Richards Atlas, on speaking of his grandson, says, " When I'm with him I'm totally with him. I'm not where I've been or where I'm going. When I was a father, although I was with my kids, I was usually somewhere else."
3.Have something good to say. See a need and fill it. Have an active interest in the other person and what's going around. " Words of comfort, skillfully administered, are the oldest therapy known to man" Louis Nizer.
4.Convey your message well. It is not just what you say, but how you say it. Your body language can speak louder than words. The head never hears until the heart has listened. Speak with passion, project warmth empathy and caring. People are more likely to be won over by what you do than what you say.
5.Take responsibility. Check the accuracy of what you have heard. This reassures the other person that you have been listening. For example, you may want to feed back what you have heard back to the speaker. If you are unsure, ask for clarification. Make sure the other has grasped your exact meaning. Make sure you fully understand what is said when you listen.
6.Be aware of existing barriers. There may be psychological barriers, for example. We have a tendency to hear only what we want and filter out what we find unacceptable. The emotions is another barrier. People who are feel insecure, anxious , suspicious or resentful are likely to distort what they hear.
7.Focus on the content. Even you find the language or ideas distasteful or offensive, keep listening. The other party won't open up to you if they think you are being prudish or judgmental.
8. Learn to read body language. listen both with your ears and your eyes. You may read more than you hear.
9. Learn to cope with silence. The speaker's mind is still active and often moments of profound insights take place. Resist the temptation to jump in. You may lose an important train of thought.
10.Build rapport. Listen. Understand. You may want to relate similar experiences and agree with the other person as much as possible. It builds a common understanding and connection between the individuals concerned. There will be a climate of trust which smoothes the interaction.
In mastering theses skills of effective communication we are building bridges that oils the wheels of human relations and touches lives. If used effectively, we can move the world.
Interpersonal communication has a lot to do with non-verbal cues as well as what you say. People unconsciously detect a lot of meaning - and sometimes misinterpret it - from body language. Making sure that you are using the right kind of body language can help to prevent an awful lot of problems with interpersonal communication.
1. Position Believe it or not, where you stand or sit in relation to the person you are attempting to communicate with can make a big difference to the conversation. Standing face to face with someone can be intimidating and feel confrontational.
Instead, try sitting side by side. Better still, walk and talk together. That seems to bring people in synch'.
2. Read between the lines If an argument has continued for more than ten minutes, the chances are that you are not addressing the real issue. Now may not be the time to do that if feelings are running high, but the choice is to take a break or address the real issue; any further arguing is just counter-productive.
3. Trust your instincts Your instincts are a major part of interpersonal communication; they will help you to detect if someone is lying - for instance, if someone fakes a look of innocence, it is often subconsciously rather than any other way that you will detect dishonesty.
Of course, as well as the above non-verbal aspects of communication, what you say is important in interpersonal conversation.
4. Don't be afraid to be graphic A graphic, specific detail can be really effective in interpersonal communication. It can be really memorable.
When you want to memorable, give your interpersonal communication some memorable features such as a vivid detail, story or a detail. Be controversial if you want to and can handle the consequences.
5. Try to empathize It will help your interpersonal communication immensely if you can try to see things from the other person's point of view. You will be surprised at how quickly simply acknowledging that the other person has a valid point of view will defuse many heated arguments. Part of this empathy is also about allowing pauses and silences so that you can both think. Try not to shoot words back and forth like balls in a tennis volley; pause and review the situation; think how you can progress a conversation productively.
6. Be clear If you have a point of view to communicate, say it. Say it with an understanding that others have a right to disagree with you, but say it with conviction. People will listen to you and you will provoke further thought. In contrast, if people aren't sure what you are trying to say, they will become frustrated and they will also begin to distrust you as you don't seen to have the courage of your convictions.
7. Use appropriate vocabulary It's no good talking in a way in which your audience don't understand; they won't learn a thing and your conversation will get nowhere. Use simple, everyday language and if you need to use technical terms, explain them. Remember to not belittle your audience, though; that will stop them listening to you openly if they feel you do not respect them.
These guidelines are all quite simple, as interpersonal communication needn't be a difficult thing. It should be about a meeting of minds; a meeting on the same level. The message to be communicated should be the most important thing and you should be focusing upon how you can enable your audience to understand your message if you are the one to have something to communicate; if you are the one receiving the message, you should do your best to listen and give the other person chance to talk. Those simple things should really help you in your interpersonal communication.
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