But even though the worst of my life experiences were behind me, frustration mounted. I just wasn't getting things on track quick enough for my liking.
The agony of not succeeding pushed me to breaking point. And that's when something perfect happened.
Walking back from taking my son to school one morning, my emotions began to get the better of me.
But just then a driver got out of his car and began to berate a lorry driver who was turning his forty tonne vehicle around in a busy village during rush hour. HE was in a rush.
At that moment I realized my life wasn't that bad. I wasn't uptight about work, in traffic getting angry over nothing in particular.
I was also blessed enough in life to be working for myself. and doing something I loved. I just needed to get things moving.
So as the beefy lorry driver rolled his window down and engaged in explanative, I walked on, smiling inwardly.
That's when I noted I'd dropped all the tension. Suddenly I realized how much better I felt. I liked this feeling and as the months went by I began to make 'Dropping the tension' a daily practice.
This is where it gets good...
Back then I didn't know how I was changing my future when I dropped the tension. I just knew I felt better - more at peace.
During this time I was learning something.
What I began to understand was that you can't beat the world into the shape you want it to be. Logically, the world is too big for that.
So here is what happened...
I began to see that I was at my best when I didn't feel tense. I began to enjoy the feeling of peace that flowed through me and I began to like myself better when I felt this way. I wanted more of that feeling.
So my life went on: feel tense, let go; find peace and love, be at my best, like myself better; feel tense and so on.
Then I began to pause at set times of the day to check in with how I felt. I'd find myself in the middle of something and say "breathe", or "relax" and suddenly I'd find that feeling I was looking for.
My practice taught me that you can't rush nature. But it also taught me something else - something more profound!
As I became more peaceful I became more in love with life. When this happened the things I'd been struggling to make happen, began to unfold.
What did this tell me?
It told me that and the quickest way to gain what I wanted is to become calmer, more peaceful, more loving.
Eventually I started to see that in every moment we can create the potential for two things:
1. Action
2. Non-action
When you plant seeds you put them in the right kind of soil. You water them, make sure they get the right kind of light, tend the weeds. In between that you you sit back and relax or do something else.
This is action and non-action.
It would be madness to pace around the soil, dig it up, put it back, pace, dig it up, put it back and so on. Intelligently we know we plant the seed in fertile soil, do what's needed and get on with the rest of life.
Creation takes a little time. It works better with a little peace. And you can't rush it.
A while back I had desire. I wanted people to become prosperous as a result of us having a conversation.
1. Action - I considered how this would happen and chose the most efficient way I saw this happening.
2. Non-Action - I waited for the opportunities to serve the people I could help.
Today, when I've finished writing this newsletter to you, I will spend the rest of the day making interesting conversations with people about them becoming more prosperous. It's an incredible way to spend a day!
Is it about time you treated yourself to a conversation like this?
With love and good wishes
Neil
Network marketing provides the greatest chance for an average person to reach whatever level of success they want. If you plant your seeds right, the fruits of your labour and patience will provide a bountiful reward. The key concept in this business is DUPLICATION. If you project a winning attitude, teach your downlines or prospects how the system works and most importantly, show them the RIGHT way to do it, they will be more inclined to follow your pattern of success and replicate this to their downlines.
Here are a few Do's and Don't's to remember when teaching your downlines:
Do's
?Do teach them to let their friends and family know what they are doing. While people do make a decision based on emotion, you are better off referring the business based on a solid informed decision versus a hyped one. ?Do teach them not to let their friends and family discourage them. This is probably the most important thing to teach a new person. People can be sceptical if they are misinformed or lack information about the business. Let your downlines know that if ANYONE has succeeded at ANYTHING, they can too! ?Do teach them how the compensation plan works. They need to know how to get paid and they need to be able to explain it to others. Do provide support for them and teach them to provide support for their downlines.
Don't's
?Don't try to reinvent the wheel. This is a tough one for most people. But it is in your and your downlines? best interest to use the proven things that got you and your upline to where you are. ?Don't have your prospects sign-up and then eventually abandon them. Provide your downlines with the business-building education and tools they need so they will eventually be self-supportive and teach their downlines to do the same thing. ?Don't try to build anyone's business or tell them you will. This will only create a group of people who expect you to do their work for them. By all means help them, answer questions and be a good Sponsor or upline but DON'T spoon-feed otherwise your downlines will not move at all.
Remember, duplication starts with YOURSELF. Lead from the front and be the person you want your people to be, and later on it will be hard to put a stop to the kind of growth this duplication can bring you.
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