See, the problem is that "nice" guys put themselves on some sort of pedestal. Nice guys like to think they are superior to other men, that they are better at relationships, and that by virtue of their "niceness" are more deserving of a woman's romantic attentions.
From experience I can tell you that "nice" guys are not as nice as they like to think. Most "nice guys" are whiney, close-minded, judgmental, spineless, controlling, and weak. Women do not like weak, whiney, judgmental men. Ergo, women do not like "nice" guys.
Women want MEN - decisive, action oriented, determined, aggressive. Sadly, sometimes that comes bundled with a liar and a cheat which is what the "nice" guys point to and the reason they say women are crazy.
But who said that every woman SHOULD want a "nice" guy? Who made that a law? Why do "nice" guys condemn women for choosing thrill seeking, impulsive men with a bad boy edge? In other words, choices that exclude "nice" guys?
Being a "nice guy" does not win you any brownie points in the dating game! Never has, never will. You win at dating when you give the opposite sex what they want. Even if a woman is your wife, you still have to have a spine, still stand strong and remain in control of yourself as a man should.
The bottom line that you "nice" guys need to understand is this: when women are young they are not interested in settling down and being serious. Why would a girl want some clingy, overly solicitous codependent around? Young women want to HAVE FUN. And the best men to have fun with are impulsive, thrill seekers that have an edge... males that exude testosterone and inspire passion and desire with their games and lies.
Which is why "nice" guys that project neediness, that go out of their way to please women with the expectation of getting something in return get passed over. "I was so nice to her, why doesn't she love me? I deserve to have someone love me more than those players do!" the nice guys say.
No you don't. But if you want to get the girls you need to be the type of guy that never allows a woman to tell him what to do or to control him in any way. Certainly, in a marital partnership there is established trust and decisions are made with input of both parties for the betterment of the family.
But we are talking about dating here, not marriage.
Just remember, once you allow a woman to have the upper hand in the relationship, she loses respect for you. And when a woman loses respect for a man, she loses her sexual attraction for him as well. She sees you as a brother, and normal people do not feel sexually attracted to their siblings. You are subsequently put in The Friend Zone and you are never coming out. If the two were dating, she will ultimately declare that "he's too nice" and dump him out of boredom.
There is hope for you guys though.
Bad boy types stay exciting for a few years, then most women move on. Once the play is out of their system (just like in guys), people change their perspectives on life. Their choices in lifestyle, dress, and romantic partners change as well.
As a woman heads into her 30s she transitions and begins to look for a husband and father for her children. She will look for slightly different qualities in her mate and put more emphasis and higher value on personal qualities like honesty, work ethic, family values, responsibility, and similar lifestyle than she does on excitement and sex appeal.
However, even if a woman is 50 years old, she does NOT want a weak, whiney, judgmental, superior acting dude! Every woman on this planet wants a guy that she sees as attractive, exciting and sexy - she just wants him to be committed and devoted to her and the kids at the same time.
Finding the right woman for you is simply a matter of you matching whatever it is that a woman is looking for. If you fit her needs, you're in. If you aren't chosen Mr. "Nice" Guy, that simply means you don't fit her needs. No matter how "nice" a guy you might perceive yourself to be, you aren't the RIGHT guy for her.
By far one of the most important of our beauty assets is our smile. Who can resist an enigmatic sparkling white smile?
You also can’t hide yellow teeth like you can most other physical defects. So you should always be sure your smile is at it’s best.
Perfectly straight teeth aren’t always necessary either, so if you couldn't afford braces or retainers as a teen don’t worry too much.
Some of the most beautiful women I know (and even myself), have never worn braces in their life. And have small imperfections in the straightness of their teeth.
Even some famous actresses have teeth that have obviously never worn braces (think Amber Tamblyn, Kirsten Dunst, Kristin Kreuk).
And yet they still manage to be amazingly beautiful because their teeth are well cared for, and shine like pearls.
So how can you make your smile enviable without spending a fortune at a dentists or on teeth whitening products?
Beauty Secret 4
Whiten and brighten your smile.
For this little beauty secret you use two household items that are rock bottom cheap to buy; Baking Soda, and Peroxide.
Yep, thats how simple it is.
You take the baking soda and peroxide and you make a thick paste out of them. You shouldn’t need more than a tablespoon of the paste.
Apply the paste to teeth, and leave on for 5 to 10 minutes every morning and night.
The most effective way to do this, and brighten your smile, is by brushing your teeth with the paste. But remember that it will only work if you use it every morning and night, without fail.
Baking soda and peroxide will not only whiten your teeth but clean them too, if you use them in place of toothpaste.
Then just sit back and watch the results!
Your smile will become visibly whiter, and to boot you’ll save a bundle on toothpaste, and teeth whiteners.
Don’t you always hate it when summer rolls around, and your body is hardly swimsuit or shorts ready?
Or even the rest of the year when it seems impossible to disguise those figure flaws!
Beauty Secret 5
Hide figure flaws and defects.
If you are pear shaped:
Wear tighter tops to show off your trim upper body, and skirts that taper towards the hemline to disguise your pear shape.
Buy jeans that are a snug fit and are low rise (the low rise will emphasize your small waist and the tightness has a surprisingly slimming effect on legs and butt).
Dresses that end just a little above the knee work nicely for pear figures as they hide bulky upper legs.
The best swimsuits for pear figures tend to be bikini’s that have low cut bottoms with a flounce skirt. This draws eyes away from the legs, and minimizes them at the same time.
If you are spoon shaped:
Wear shirts that tend to fall straight down and don't cling, to hide a bulky stomach.
Or wear a snug t-shirt with a button up shirt or sweater over it, leaving the buttons unfastened on the shirt or sweater.
Wear shorts and skirts that are short to emphasize your good feature (your legs).
The best swimsuit for women who are big on top and little on bottom is a full piece that is high cut in the hips.
This hides the stomach, and shows of slender legs and buttocks.
If you are an extremely skinny woman all over:
Wear skirts that flounce out and shirts that ruffle to give you a more rounded appearance.
Wear semi loose dresses that are cinched only in the right spots.
For instance emphasize a small waist with a dress that is cinched in the middle but flounces out from the hips to give a curvy appearance.
Wear snug jeans, or loose slacks with a pull over sweater, these will both work well for your figure type.
The best swimsuits for skinny women are of course bikinis. Full pieces give slender women a “little girl” appearance, and are not very attractive.
The bikini’s are best if they’re high cut in the hips and butt. This flatters a thin woman best by showing off her waist and legs.
Low cut bikini’s will also work well with a skinny woman though, if you want to emphasize slender hips.
If you’re a large woman all over:
You should go for just slightly loose fitting clothes. Too loose and you’ll only make yourself appear bigger.
Wear panty hose to make your legs look slim. Avoid overly tight clothes at all costs, this will make your skin roll, and you’ll look bigger than ever.
Choose mainly capri’s and knee length skirts or dress for summer. Avoid shorts, mini skirts, or short dresses until you slim down.
The best swimsuit for a full figure is (you guessed it) a full piece, cut low in the hips, and with a skirted bottom.
If you’re a curvy woman (also known as an hour glass figure):
You can wear almost anything you choose to and look good; loose slacks, snug jeans, loose shirts, snug shirts, loose skirts, snug skirts, dresses, bikini’s, full pieces, etc...
So be proud of your figure and choose your clothes with some taste to best show off your unique shape.
Now that you’re armed with these beauty secrets, go out and put them to use. You’ll definitely start to turn heads, and command a respect in people wherever you go.
Because, remember it’s not the shape of your body, or face, or the size of your nose or lips or eyes, that denotes beauty.
It’s the proud way you carry yourself, and the neatness, and good taste with which you pick your clothes and accessories.
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