The first thing you want to look for is a site with paid memberships. Now, I know that some of you reading this are thinking that free membership sites are the best options for the simple reason that they're free. The big disadvantage of free sex dating sites is that they are overrun with people with fake profiles trying to sell porn site memberships, scam artists trying to extract money from you in one way or another, and a large number of worthless profiles from women who just joined the site on a whim, because, "what the heck, it's free". The odds of actually meeting women on free sites are so stacked against you that you will be doing well if you ever meet ANY real women, let alone actually meet anyone for sex.

Adult dating sites with paid memberships have a lot of advantages. To begin with, if you see an ad from a woman with a paid membership, chances are good that it's a real person who is actually seeking out casual sex. It is simply far too expensive for the porn site marketers and scam artists to buy memberships for thier fake profiles. Besides that, the chances are good that if a woman paid for her membership, she's truly serious about meeting people for casual sex - she didn't simply sign up on a whim, or got a membership on a dare - she actually wants to meet people and hookup. The women on adult dating sites with paid memberships are FAR better prospects than what you will find among the members on free sites or even among the women with free memberships on sites that offer paid memberships.

Paid memberships on adult dating sites are also beneficial because of the competetive advantage over those guys who are under the delusion that they really don't need to pay for a membership to meet women. While it is certainly possible to hookup with a free membership, paid members typically have major competetive advantages over the free members. For example, some paid membership sites offer paid members a limited time exclusive on contacting new members. For example, Adult Friend Finder gives their "Gold" members a three-day exclusive on contacting new members (in other words, only "Gold" members can contact new members in the first three days of the new membership). Given the fact that the ratio of men seeking women compared to women seeking men is officially 10 to 1 on most adult dating sites, and in reality is more like 50 to 1 when you count all the fake ads from the porn site marketers and scammers, and the relatively large number of inactive female member profiles, any competetive advantage you can get is a big help.

In addition to looking for an adult dating site with a paid membership system, what else should you be looking for? Well, you want to make sure they have a reasonably good number of female members in your area - unless you don't mind travelling long distances for your dates. I prefer having my sex buddies nearby, so I recommend checking to see how many women meet your search criteria in your area before you invest in a membership. In the majority of cases, you can at least get a decent idea of the number of women seeking men in your area when you have a free membership, or even by just running a search as a "guest" on the site. As a general rule, I recommend against buying a membership on any adult dating site with fewer than one hundred women seeking men profiles in your area who meet your age, race, and other search criteria. The more female members the better, but at less than 100 members, your odds of meeting someone to hook up with are pretty low.

I also recommend that you look for additional features that you like when checking into sex dating sites. For example, if you enjoy chat rooms, look for a site with a chat room. Some sites even have video chat, and if you have a webcam you have the possibility of getting some live interaction which could lead to some online nakedness or even a spur of the moment masturbation show if you're lucky. Other features that are offered by some sites include contests, blogs, advice, links to sex toy and video vendors, streaming video personals, even various contests for prizes, etc.. Just look for the features you would actually use.

If your primary reason for getting a membership on an adult dating site to begin with is to get laid, the main things you need to look for are paid members in sufficient numbers in your area where you'll a decent chance of hooking up. You'll invest a little money to buy a membership on such a site, but if you're really looking to get laid, with no strings attached, adult dating sites provide one of your best opportunities for doing just that.