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[S1035]Stop Whining And Get A Life
by Terence Young, Ter
The secret to a happier life is not about trying to do more, or buying more high tech gadgets to help you with juggling your endless list of daily tasks. When you start to lose control of your competing demands with home, work and family then it's time to slow down and simplify your life.

Yes, that's right slow down; on the surface it seems totally contradictory. Most people's response is to push harder, work harder, do more but when does it stop. If you want to release yourself from the shackles of the clock and live a happier life then here are some thoughts to consider:

1. Make a shift from a sense of lack to a sense of fullness.

"Perfection is achieved not when you have nothing more to add, but when you have nothing left to take away... And now here is my secret, a very simple secret; it is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye." - Antoine De Saint-Exupery

If you're fretting about your latest credit card bill, maybe you're stressed over trying to stretch your budget this week or maybe your wondering how you're going to make your mortgage payment then spare a thought for the other half of the world. The other half, nearly three billion people live on less than two dollars a day.

Some 1.3 billion people have no access to clean water which we in the western world take for granted every day of our lives. Over 3 billion have no access to sanitation, so imagine having the threat of disease that could kill you instead of just being a inconvenience.

Two billion people have no access to electricity. Are you starting to get the picture? The very fact that you are reading this article in front of your computer with Internet connection already puts you into the privileged minority.

A sense of fullness begins with you, today. Instead of wallowing in what you want or don't have. Instead of comparing yourself to someone you don't even know, why not start being grateful for what you do have in your life. You can't experience lack and fullness simultaneously, they can't co-exist at the same time, so wouldn't you rather pick the one that makes you feel better.

2. Happiness is found in the moments and not in the stuff.

"Money never made a man happy yet, nor will it. The more a man has, the more he wants. Instead of filling a vacuum, it makes one." - Benjamin Franklin

When was the last time you were grateful for your health, your friends and family, your spouse or your children. If you just spend a few minutes each morning living with a greater sense of appreciation for all the opportunities and blessings in your life then you won't be so focused on the insignificant things that have come to define your life.

Have you ever noticed that the happiest people surround themselves with family and friends instead of trying to validate their life with expensive toys? The value of wealth isn't the things you can acquire with it, it is the experiences and memories shared.

Being present with your loved ones and sharing quality time together is the essence of life. As more and more families become fragmented with busy schedules we are losing the very fabric of what it is to be part of a community, a family.

Commit this week to spending quality moments with the people that are important in your life, after all you never know how long they are going to be here. Switch of your mobile phone, clear up your work schedule and truly be present to share a quality moment together that will strengthen the relationship. This moment is what life is made of.

3. Simplify your life.

"Simplifying is not necessarily about getting rid of everything we've worked so hard for... It's about deciding what's important to us, and gracefully letting go of the things that aren't." - Elaine St. James

"The simple person lives the way he breathes, with no more effort or glory, with no more affectation and without shame... Simplicity is freedom, buoyancy, transparency. As simple as the air, as free as the air... The simple person does not take himself too seriously or too tragically...He has nothing to prove, since he has no appearances to keep up, and nothing to seek, since everything is before him. What is more simple than simplicity? What lighter? It is the virtue of wise men and the wisdom of saints." - Andre Comte-Sponville

There is a growing cultural shift as the population ages towards a slower pace and a simpler life. While some can argue that old age tends to slow one down, it could also be that age has brought about a clearer perspective on what is important in life. Instead of subscribing to the frantic pace of society, some people have consciously chosen to work on a slower rhythm and pace.

For instance many Mediterranean nations observe the siesta due to the fact that the climate is so hot they close shop during the hottest period of the day usually from 2:30 to 5 p.m. The Siesta has existed for thousands of years and was previously regarded as a physical necessity rather than a luxury. In Spain the siesta traditionally involves a slow paced lunch with friends or family before retiring to a nap. Greeks who have a strong family culture will spend their weeknights enjoying dinners and music with friends and family because they can sleep in.

Certainly I'm not suggesting that to simplify your life you just introduce a siesta during the middle of the day. But it is clear that societies that subscribe to the slower pace of life tend to value different priorities and have greater balance between work and their personal life.

So maybe you're tired of this frantic pace we call the rat race, maybe you're tired of the long hours or working at a job that you don't enjoy. Maybe you hate your boss or tired of commuting. Then this is the time to think about how you can shape the life that you want.

?Today? financial editor Jean Chatzky offers tips on how to live more simply, so you have extra money ? and time ? for other pursuits.
Think you can't kick your shopping addiction? You haven't met Mary Carlomagno, who says that until just a few years ago, shopping was her single biggest vice. Today? It isn't even on the list.
Carlomagno was 35 and stuck in a major rut. She had lived in the same apartment for 10 years ? and hated it since the day she moved in ? worked at the same job for eight years and in the same industry for 14 years. She wanted to shake things up, but didn't know how. And though the thought of moving to the woods to find herself had crossed her mind, she was too scared to do anything that major.
Instead, she settled on subtle changes. For a year, she decided to give up something different each month: alcohol, shopping, newspapers, cell phones, dining out, television, taxis, coffee, chocolate and ? for good measure ? cursing, elevators and multi-tasking.
She soon realized that as a result of all these small changes she was able to live better on less money, and saved thousands of dollars in the process.
?I cut my spending so much that my financial adviser called to ask what I was doing differently,? says Carlomagno, who describes her year in her new (and charming) book ?Give It Up: My Year of Learning to Live Better With Less.? Carlomagno's response: ?I quit buying shoes.?
At the end of each month of abstinence, Carlomagno went back to most of her old habits. Today, she takes taxis, eats chocolate and drinks caffeine (though not as voraciously as she did before.) The one category that did permanently change was shopping.
After many garage sales and donations, she pared down from three double closets and an armoire to one single closet. Shopping no longer consumes all her free time. Friendships do not revolve around it. She even started a company, Order, to help others simplify their lives, manage clutter control, and get over shopping addictions.
If you're suffering with the same, you may be able to benefit from her advice.
?Treat your closet like a store. If you truly love clothing and shopping, you should do the things retailers do, such as:
?Take inventory. That means, first off, knowing what you already own. Take mental notes, paying particular attention to what you have put on your body over the past few weeks. Those are the bones of your working wardrobe. Use the rest of what you have to accessorize.
?Display items with care. Retailers display their favorite products ? you should, too. If you love hats, put them on a rack where you can see them. Keep in mind that stores do not give good real estate to unimpressive items. If you come across items that aren't nice enough to display, chances are they're not nice enough to be worn. Get rid of them. The upshot of this process: You'll know what you have in your current wardrobe and can begin to think of filling in any holes you find.
?Hit the stores with a list of exactly what you need.
?Adhere to the two-week rule. In her closet, Carlomagno dug up over $1,000 worth of clothes with their tags still hanging. So she created what she calls the two-week rule. "If you purchased an item and haven't worn it in two weeks, return it," she says. Two weeks is a long enough period to know that you either don't a) really love it or b) need it.
?Do not be sucked in by ?good deals.? Everyone buckles every so often on a sale item. The problem is, sales aren't as few and far between as they used to be. ?Now you can get everything cheap,? Carlomagno says. Note, however, that there is a difference between falling for a markdown on an item that you buy on impulse and earmarking an item at retail, then waiting for it to go on sale. The latter represents smart shopping behavior. Cultivate a relationship with a salesperson at your favorite store and make her your ally in this process.
?Seek support. If you're actively trying to curb your shopping, get your family and friends on your team. This can be tricky because, Carlomagno notes, you may have particular people in your circle who instigate shopping sprees. In their minds it may be a harmless pastime. But if you are racking up a lot of debt or spending every penny of your disposable income on clothes, it's harmful to you. You'll need to explain this ? and to offer other, cheaper, ways to pass the hours.
?There are a lot of things you can do to appreciate fashion and clothing without shopping,? says Carlomagno. Visit a fashion or photography museum. Or simply grab a cup of coffee and perform your own impromptu Fashion Police. You just may find you can have an even better conversation over a cappuccino than over the Bloomingdale's rack.
About Christian Credit One, Inc.
Christian One, Inc. is a national, non-profit Christian organization dedicated to helping consumers achieve financial wellness through Christian . Established in 1994, has helped over two million individuals achieve financial security. Christian One is one of the top members of the American Association of Organizations (AADMO), Christian One manages clients across the country. Personalized and confidential consultations are available in person, by phone or online. Visit Christian One or call 888-767-9155.

Greg McTaggart, Certified with 22 years experience, licensed by AFCPE, Director of Christian One and is an expert in budget and Christian . Having the combined experience as a licensed Real-estate salesman, Mortgage Broker, Real-estate Broker, Notary, Ace Member of the Cincinnati Executives, Mortgage Assistance and Spokesperson of the radio talk show The Money Mentor, Greg McTaggart is a qualified Christian to help you.
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