Let's first look at "attachment"? By definitions terms, attachment simply means a tie or a bond. However, at it applies to life and being, attachment to something often times has it's emotional roots in scarcity, and those roots can run deep.
This is a fear based attachment.
Fear based attachment can feel like you are "holding onto" (for dear life sometimes!), and this in essence is the vibration of scarcity and lack. You might find yourself feeling "if I don't hold on tight it (what I want) will get away from me, leave me, or not come into my life" So you may be holding on tightly to your dreams, your relationships, your money. Can you feel the sense of resistance here?
Resistance, no matter which way you look at it, will not help you to increase abundance and well being in your life. In fact just the opposite is true.
Let us be reminded about what the Law of Attraction says - what you radiate outward in your thoughts, feelings, and words you attract into your life. So, if you are attached to something because you are afraid you will loose it, you want to control it, or can't stand to live without it, then you have much less of a chance of creating that in your life. You will however create more scarcity, and less of what you want. Like attracts like.
So let's talk a bit about "detaching". It is the conscious choice to let go of fear based attachments in your life. It is the conscious choice to come from love, acceptance, and appreciation... letting go of control and fear based expectations.
For some, the word detachment in itself holds a vibration of disconnection, aloofness, and disinterest. So this may not be the "word" you are seeking...but the tone I am speaking of - the state of beingness, is the same.
You may want to call it - The Law of Positive Expectation and Belief, or The Law of Faith.
What is important to remember is that you come from love, you are love, you choose to radiate love. This is who you are, and a conscious choice at the same time.
Let's talk more about how to choose this space of detachment...of unconditional love, positive expectation, and faith.
1. Remember that being in resistance creates resistance, and stepping into ease creates ease. If you want to create a life a life of ease, then ease up a bit! Stop clutching, forcing, and trying so hard - relax, your good will come.
2. Have a little faith! Trust in divine timing, trust in divine order. Affirm that "all is well" and "things come to me easily", and "I trust everything will happen in perfect order".
3. Practice holding dear vs. holding tight - this applies to your relationships, your career, your money...anything that you desire. This is a very powerful shift, it's love based vs. fear based. And it is your focused love that molds your life....all of life.
4. "Let go" - but don't let go of your focus. Visualize, imagine, create, intend from a space of love and positive expectation and belief - the law of attraction won't let you down, you can count on it like you can count on gravity.
5. Focus on feeling good, and turn your attention to something you have ease about. Perhaps it's butterflies, or chocolate, or your grandchildren. Let go of focusing on life's limitations - and turn instead to joy and excitement, or peace and serenity, and the knowing that life will unfold for you, especially when you let it.
Can you imagine a flower unfolding into it's perfect beauty if you had your fist around it? Same principle applies to your life.
So, here is my challenge to you...do a quick inventory of your life. What do you have fear based attachments to? Make a choice to shift your perspective and your feelings toward a loving sense of detachment - and life will unfold perfectly!
Detaching from the outcome of what we desire is, in my opinion, the trickiest and most difficult manifesting step to master. Here's the dilemma that I'm sure you've run into, first, you identify what you want. Okay, I want "a beautiful garden" for example. Then, you imagine what it would feel like when you have this beautiful garden. You imagine how relaxed you'll feel kicking back and enjoying the beautiful view; you imagine how wonderfully fresh and inviting the aroma of jasmine, honeysuckle and gardenias will be as they take turns blooming throughout the year; you imagine how the sound of birds playing, hummingbirds spinning and squirrels chasing each other around your garden oasis lifts your spirits and instantly makes you feel inspired and in awe of life.
You imagine sipping your favorite beverage while breathing in the fresh air and relaxing deliciously into your achievement.
Now, you're flying high even though you haven't begun to break dirt. You plan to go to the store to purchase some flowers tomorrow and thereby begin the physical part of your manifestation. You wake up feeling inspired only to discover that a late snowstorm is headed your way and spring will be postponed for another two weeks or longer.
You wait two weeks; only to discover that this is going to be the wettest spring in history and you can't get into the garden to start digging without being swept away with the rain. You continue to wait it out; only to get to the nursery and everything is so outrageously priced you can only justify affording one small, rose bush that you feel probably won't make it a week!
Okay, the power of imagining your ideal garden is not completely wasted but the disappointment, however slight, resulting from what we judge as one set back after another is certainly an indication that our attachment to what we want is preventing us from having it.
On the other hand, if we choose to refuse to judge anything as wrong, but instead choose to assume the best, then we will be maintaining our vibration while remaining detached. For example, assume the snowstorm is the Universe ensuring you will plant in perfect timing to be able to enjoy your garden for the longest, desired time possible.
Assume the rain is there to wash the bad soil away, leaving beautifully irrigated, nutrient rich soil ready for your artistry. Assume a plant sale is about to be held somewhere and you're not meant to buy anything overpriced today because then you'll miss out on what you really, really want.
One technique that I use with great success for detaching is to completely surrender to the worst-case scenario.
For example, when the snowstorm shows up I would say:
"Okay, if it's meant to be that the worst case scenario happens here and I don't get to plant in time for my favorite flowers to bloom, then so be it. It'll be okay. I know that there's a divine plan in store for my desires and I relax into this plan. I surrender to the snow never clearing up. I surrender to my worst fears coming true. And, so what?!? I'll still survive and it'll all be okay!" And, then I'd say, "And, what I want is to feel, wonderfully relaxed in my beautiful garden. And, I enjoy so much imagining my garden that it doesn't matter if I ever get it or not. However, what I want is to feel the flowers and the dirt in my hands. What I want is to invite friends and family over to enjoy it with me. I see this happening now, in perfect timing and I relax!"
To surrender does not mean to resign. Surrendering is nothing like resignation. You are simply realigning yourself with the knowledge that the Divine Order of life is at hand and you are at peace with it now.
You will know you are detached when you feel "at peace" no matter what the manifestation and you feel faithful and content that in perfect timing all that you desire already is and will be yours.
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