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[T425]The Effect Of Divorce

by James Wallis, Jam

?Children of today are citizens of tomorrow.? How can one stay in a society peopled by citizens who are unhappy, academically weak and hence economically regressive?

This is not an exaggeration, but a near-term possibility if the current trend of high divorce rates continues.

A Society with Unhappy People

Children of divorced parents are prone to turn victims of abuse. Neglect and abuse turn these unfortunate children to seek recourse in drugs (Children of fatherless families are 10 times more prone to substance abuse.).

Society is deeply impacted by emotionally unhappy children who might turn drug addicts or even commit suicide.

This negative impact does not last for just a generation. Children of divorce lose trust in family and relationship. They themselves turn abusive spouses and would divorce soon. Negativity is thus sustained.

The very structure of society is greatly affected if a major part of its citizens are psychologically affected and unhappy. 85% of the youth in jail belong to single parent families.

A Society with Academically Backward People

Children of divorced parents perform poorly in the 3 Rs of learning. That is reading, writing and arithmetic. Poor academic performers reduce economic progress and development of the society.

Economic Backwardness Impacts Society

Families who were not poor fell into economic hardships after the disunion. Most of the financial sufferers are families with a solitary mother and her children. A divorced family experiences a fall in income by about 50%. With this reduction, the family slips into previously unknown levels of poverty.

The family is forced to shift to a different neighbourhood. An economically poor neighbourhood and the lack of adequate finances at home hamper the personality development of these children.

Lack of Religion erodes Positive Values

Divorce reduces faith. Religion no longer plays a positive role in such families. Lack of faith, in other words, means a lack of positive optimism. Faith promotes optimism which leads to a fulfilling and healthy life.

Increasing divorce rates are damaging the social fabric. The introduction of the no fault divorce has increased divorce rates by 30%. A reversal in this trend cannot be brought by making the divorce laws more stringent. The very attitude of the people towards divorce has to be changed.

Divorce and Changes in the Attitude of the People

People of the UK have a very liberal attitude towards divorce. The term ?divorce? no longer has a social stigma attached to it.

Such attitudinal shift towards marriage and divorce occurs during times of economic prosperity. Economic progress and divorce rates share a direct relationship. Financial hardship reduces the rates of divorce. This indicates that couples find it easier to separate and get remarried when they are economically prosperous.

People also marry early during the days of economic progress. 50% of the teen marriages that took place during periods of economic prosperity end in subsequent divorce.

Many couples have increased emotional and economic expectations from a marital union. When these expectations are not met, they seek fulfilment elsewhere. They feel that their spouse is not capable enough to rise up to their expectations. In such a situation, they fail to appreciate the consistency offered by marital stability. High expectations lead to high divorce rates.

The current high rates of divorce are due to the changes in attitude of the people. Making the divorce laws more severe would only amount to a symptomatic cure of the disease rather than its elimination.

The very thought process of the people towards marriage and expectations from the spouse should be reoriented. Otherwise this creates a cyclic effect. Divorce perpetuates divorce. And in this process the structure of society gets damaged. A point worth mentioning here is that, marital disunion or the disunion of cohabitating couples, both have the same negative impact on children.

It is a fact that parents are the important resources for children. They provide emotional support to them and give advice to them in problems. Parents are the role models for their children. The children are shocked when they hear the news of divorce of their parents. Each child will react differently when they hear the news about the divorce of their parents. Initially, they express anger or fear. Some of the children feel shame and they hide the news from their friends.

Children of divorced parents suffered .They did less well at school and were emotionally disturbed. Suffered children were negatively affected by the loss of their parents. Some of the children who involve great affection with their parent are faced depression. Teenagers have the danger to becoming more aggressive and perverse or diminishing. Some older children may feel deep sadness. Their schoolwork may suffer and behavior problems are common.

The study on divorce cases showed that the children of divorced parents have higher rates of academic problems along with psychological problems and behavioral problems as compare to the kids whose parents remained married. For example, the kides whose parents would later divorce performed less in academic than those kids whose parents would stay together. They also showed more behavior problems in school than those students whose parents would stay together.

It is also seen that children of divorced parents were usually not having a good relationship with their parents as compare to the children whose parents would stay together. The children whose parents would divorce have not performed well in academic, the reason behind this is their parents would attend fewer school events, and were less likely to do things or discuss school-related issues with their children.

It is seen that divorce affects boys more than girls. The boys face behavioral problems in school during the early period and through the initial few years after the divorce. Their academic performance is decreased. They often involve with drugs and alcohol. In case of girls they show depression over the divorce and changes taking place in their lives. Their academic performance is also decreased. Teenager more likely to involved with older crowd and established sexual relationships much earlier than those whose parents would stay together.

It is the responsibility of the parents that they prevent their child from this situation. They have to prevent themselves from the effect of divorce. Today the most of the children's are facing depression problem. When children feel depressed they may withdraw from their parents or loved ones. They may forget their homework and keep themselves busy in discontinue activities that once brought them pleasure. Their eating habits may change dramatically. To help your children encourage them to share their sadness as well as their anger with you or another responsible member of the family with whom they feel safe. Assure them that these feelings will decrease with the passes of time and help them till they seem to be feeling better.

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