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I was surfing online and I ran into a really interesting story written by Jessica Langdon in the Wichita Times Record News titled “Cheated Love: Woman Feels She Was Victim of Nigerian ‘Sweetheart Scam'.”
Before I go too much further, I have one quick confession I would like to make. I really do feel for the people of Nigeria. It's a proud country with a storied history and rich cultural heritage. It is ranked as the 8th most populous nation in the world with over 140 million citizens. Yet when most internet users think of Nigeria, negative images immediately come to mind.
Think about your own email inbox and how many times you've come across a variation of the great Nigerian Scam. I know if I had $1 for each of them I've received, I would literally have thousands of $$$'s sitting in my back account.
Each variation of the scam involves the victim wiring funds from their bank account in exchange for the promise of bigger riches in the future. Sadly, these riches never materialize. This scam has morphed itself in many forms; in this instance it involves a budding long distance relationship and innocent requests for money.
I think this article is a must read for anyone getting started in online dating. It gives a real life example of what you need to be cautious of when getting to know people in the cyber world. The article goes into great detail about a woman named Carrie Thompson, who fortunately did not suffer financial hardship but she goes to great lengths to show how it would be possible to get taken for a ride.
Some of the best bits of advice to take from the article:
• Do not let the relationship move too quickly.
Although you may feel a real connection developing with another person, be cautious of someone who is inclined to say how much they “love” you or can't imagine being without you before an actual face-to-face encounter.
• If you meet through a dating site, be very cautious about moving all correspondence from the site's email/chat system over to a private system.
In this story, Ms. Thompson met her acquaintance at Match.com, but her friend quickly convinced her to move all of their correspondence over to a personal Yahoo account. Think about it, if a person has nothing to hide, why would they be inclined to move the discussion elsewhere?
• Be wary of a match who constantly brings up money.
Remember, dating online is not much different that meeting someone in a traditional method. Finances are not something that people readily share with one another. Money should never enter into a dating conversation until the relationship is very well established. If someone goes out of their way to mention how tight their finances are, use caution. Chances are they have an ulterior motive.
As with everything else with online dating, if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is. If your instincts are telling you that something doesn't seem quite right, the smart thing to do is to err on the side of caution and follow your gut.
According to this modern century, we have seen too many gay relationships and marriages in America, which is common. We all need relationships so do gay. The only difference is that gay like to have relationships with a man, not a woman. In other words, they like to have love and romance with men only. It is not too hard to tell if a man is a gay by looking at him. You can tell if he is a gay by the way he stands, sits, or walks. Basically, a gay man usually acts the a little same as feminine. You can tell by his eyes and his face if he is a gay. Their characteristics are also considered feminine. So, there are many ways you can tell if a boy is a gay. Gay men are people and human being which refers to homosexuality. They refer to the same-sex relationships and they have needs and desires as all of us.
Sometimes, gay are considered overlooking who are not as respectful as other people. In this modern society, especially in America or other countries, gays are valued equally as other people. Because of equally treated, they are freely to find each other in everywhere, including gay clubs, community, dating online services, personals services, and others. There are many gay dating and personals services online and are so popular these days to help them find each other on the Internet. Whenever you search for these keywords such as free gay personals, gay online dating services, you will get many gay dating sites appear on Google, Yahoo, MSN, and other search engines. There are free gay dating services and pay dating services so gay singles can have many chances to choose which services they want to join.
Gay have jealousy as other people, maybe they have more jealousy than others, in terms of love, romance, and relationships. When a gay man cheats on his partner for another boy, the be-cheated partner is jealous exactly as other people. Jealousy is not bad for gay because it is proved that they have strong feelings about their partners. Jealousy may benefit and improve their relationships. It is defined as a feeling that arises from a threat to the relationships. In other words, gays are jealous because they are afraid to loose their partners by someone else or the fear of loss from their partners. So, they are jealous as other people. When gay men find someone they really like, they are not afraid to enter into a relationship with the one they love. In other words, they do not hide their feelings with the ones they like. We have seen many gay relationships last for years or even a lifetime. Some gay couples get married with each other, adopt and raise children as their own ones. Gay guys date each other as other people, such as sending flowers, postcards, greeting cards, and others to their partners. So, their dates are the same as normal couples.