person for life. No sparks at all? Too nervous to open any topic? Is he or she being rude? Here are some things that you can do.
How to deal with a bad date
1. If you are feeling too nervous, opt for a date over coffee. You will have less time fidgeting due too overnervousness since after finishing your
coffee you can easily bid your date a quick "ta-ta".
2. There is no excuse for a date who is obnoxious and rude. Walk away Renee.
3. You and your date are not on the same wavelength? Endure the date, maintain your composure and leave politely. If your date asks for an
extension, say an after meal drink, you can always politely (again) say no.
4. If you unintentionally insult your date, simply apologize then move on. If your insult is not that severe, your date might just forgive and forget.
5. Never provide entertainment at your own expense. Humor is cool, putting yourself down is not. It is not worth it to make your self feel
uncomfortable trying to impress your date.
How to move on?
1. Don't punish yourself for a date that went horrible, commend yourself for getting through it. Shrug it off, learn from it and then put it out of your
mind.
2. Share the details with a friend. This way you can treat it as more of a joke than something that will haunt you for life.
3. Get occupied with other activities so you can forgive yourself and forget about the bad date. Exercising, eating something sweet or watching a
movie will make the bad vibes go away sooner than you expect.
4. Honesty and kindness are a good combination when it comes to turning down a bad date who would like a second round. Say something a bit
blunt but peppered with some praise -- is that an oxymoron?
5. Now, if you think that the person still deserves a second chance, by all means, give him or her the second try. You can always laugh the bad
date incident away when you are more comfortable with each other.
So your date reminds you of your 48-year old third grade teacher. So you have your face covered in spit and you are dying from the fumes that are coming out of his mouth. So he does nothing but talk about his mother. You have to be polite and sit through the whole thing until you have spent enough time to justifiably say: check!. Or do you? Some people think that since dates are usually and generally consensual, you owe your date common courtesy at best. However, this is not an absolute rule. There are ways to get yourself out of a bad date.
Extricate yourself in the most polite and reasonable manner
If you see that the date is going nowhere, do not wait for the evening to be over before you can say to him that you need to go. Make excuses if you must: I need to feed my dog, my mother is sick, my roommate got locked out, I have an early meeting tomorrow and so on. If your date is not that dense, he or she will understand that the date is over.
Always have a rescue team in place
This could be your brother, sister, most trusted friend. Make a long-standing agreement that in case you need to be rescued from a bad date, he or she will always be ready to help you. Excuse yourself to make a phone call and have that person come in person or call you on your cell phone to make up a perfectly reasonable excuse why you need to go with him or her right away. However, do it nicely. Ask you date that you have to cut the evening short and ask him or her to accompany you outside where you can part ways. Try not to leave your date all alone on the table.
Honesty can be a good policy
It may not be the best but in situations like these it can help you a good deal. Talk to your date in a friendly manner saying that you think you are incompatible as a couple and that the date will not produce the desired results on either side. Explain to him or her that it would be better for both of you to end the date early on than have to struggle through awkward conversation the whole night. If you are the female, you can even soften the blow by offering to pay half of the bill. Be amicable about it and you might even part as good friends.
Learn from your mistakes
Early on, try to get a feeling of the person and the possible course of the date. Mistakes from your past dates will come in handy as well as a little background on human psychology. It is a little risky to go for a dinner on the first date because there is no real time frame for dinners. That is why it is best to plan for an hour-long lunch instead and get a vibe for each other. You can always leave after an hour if you feel it a bad date. Better yet, ask your date to meet for drinks. If you do not like the person, you can safely say goodbye after the first drink. If you think the date has got potential, you can immediately move on to dinner and onto a successful first date.