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[O70]Ok I Love You Bye Bye

by Stacey T, Sta

Love comes from within, the very core of who we are, from what we wantand what we desire.

We all havequestioned at one time or another in our lives the real meaning of love andwhat it represents in the world around us. We look towards others to try and find answers that define truth of lovethrough giving and taking, sacrifice and all the things people consider love toentail. There are even times when wethink we are considering another in love which instead leads to displaying theopposite to what the person is wanting, only making evident the real fact thatwe do not truly know love and what it really means to understand it at the coreof what it is.

We dream upscenarios of love making with people we want to get close to, we define that itis the feeling that makes us want to bust inside of our chest with laughter andhappiness. Love then could be defined onall the moments that we feel happy and satisfied in our lives with the peoplewe have around us and the things that we are doing. Love then is defined on moments of ?self?happiness, and this is the truth of the real core of what love is, startingwithin ourselves.

Love isdefined on the inside of each individual in a separate way. It can hold to many forms of understandingthat the person personally wishes and desires towards. It could be the small kisses that a persongives and the feeling one gets in knowing that that person has only eyes forthem alone. It could be the knowing thata person is helping another and the satisfaction they receive within themselvesfor what they have done. They might seethis as love, the level of compassion that is derived on giving and notwanting.

The thingthat is never ventured into much is the real core of love, where it comes andhow it truly develops. When we seek loveoutside of ourselves we try to understand it on the terms of other people andwhat they seek themselves to satisfy their own needs and desires. Where true love presides is deep in the coreof our own very nature. When we seek todefine ourselves outside of these parameters all sorts of issues can arise suchas, jealousy, discontent and resentment, defined on our expectation that wehave on others and what they should be giving to us in return. The question always then comes to a balancingpoint, asking where does true love come from, and whether it is ok to loveourselves. To love ones self then wouldbe seen as inconsiderate and unjustifiable, only leading to wondering whetherthis is why a person is not loved by others because of their own selfishness.

Someone inour society defined on such logic as loving themselves is seen as egotistic andunrealistic, only ever focusing on the foundation of what they can themselves getin life and singularly achieve. What ifthis egotism and self satisfaction were to be seen in a totally different wayand was instead defined on the truth of love rather than on a justification oflove seen from righteousness. Showingthat it is ok to love ones self for the very nature of what they want, givingtrue value to who they are and what they have to offer as a whole.

Imaginethis scenario, that you are viewing a moment when you are giving love outsideof yourself, leading to the event that you sacrifice even your last dollar togive it to a friend that only turns to you and says that what you give is not enough. What if you were to redefine this scenarioinstead to give love from the core of yourself, deciding that the only timethat you are to give is when you know that you will not yourself suffer fromthe cause of the events taking place? How would this then redefine the situation?

If you showto your friend that you cannot give this money because it is your last dollar,if she truly valued your friendship, on a deeper level she wouldunderstand. When you take love back tobase you show your friend that you define yourself also on love andconsideration, which also allows your friend to do the same for her ownreasoning. When a person can definethemselves on love from within they then know that what they give is really outof what they truly feel and desire to do.

How can wedefine love for another if we cannot even define the meaning within ourselves,showing others what real love is and how it can be achieved. If a person were to show their life on valueof themselves most often they would not proceed to give to another without thefull awareness of the circumstances of what theyhave the ability to offer, this then does not pressure the other person to feelguilt, shame, resentment or fears.

Love shouldnot be focused on in guilt or shame, or defined by pressures of expectation. Instead it should be defined within eachindividual separately based on the ability to love ones self. When we show that we can truly love ourselvesfor who we are and what we can give without feeling guilt, then we show othersthe definition of how to find satisfaction in life, and the personal awareness that love comes from within fromthe strength that we have individually to define ourselves.

If youcannot love yourself it will be harder for another to see this love also withinyou, they will look to all the things that you find as faults within yourselfand wonder at whether you also see this within their body, personality, lifestyleor choices. They will question yourability to truly love from the core and understand what it is to loveunconditionally without the need to have reasoning within giving and taking, orguilt based psychological events taking place.

Love comesfrom the core of ourselves and is felt from within, when we are happy, when weare satisfied and most importantly, when we are confident in all that we achieveand desire. The true love can only befelt within individually, and defines what love really means to us in value. It is ok to love ourselves, and in turn showothers how it is to feel love for what it really signifies. The truth is that when we give to ourselveswe also give to others, taking the pressure off them of expectation, allowingthem to define their own space of love and creativity. We then no longer need barriers ofexpectation but instead what is given is truly what we desire and want inreturn.

It is ok tolove ones self, and in turn show others what love really is and how we wish togive and receive it.

By Stacey T Pollock

Maybe you've noticed screwcaps on more of the higher priced wines lately. The trend is continuing to grow and so is the debate of whether a screwcap or cork is better for wine. The industry has basically "agreed to disagree" as to whether wine bottled with a screwcap or a cork tastes better, ages better and has less of a tendency to spoil.

As more wineries consider using screwcaps instead of the traditional cork, one has to wonder how the public at large will accept the change in tradition. When the occasional wine drinker sees a $20 bottle of wine with a screwcap, will he move to the next bottle on the shelf because he conjuring thoughts in his mind of his college years and Boones Farm Apple Wine?

Corks hold tradition and romance for a bottle of wine. It's hard to imagine dining at a fine eating establishment and ordering a bottle of wine without expecting the waiter pull out his corkscrew. Watching him carefully cut the foil, masterfully twist the screw into the cork, and giving it a pull with a final, ever so slight, pop, is part of what we pay for when we order a bottle of wine. It's shear romance; it's a moment we hold in our memory of a nice dining experience.

Why would a winery want to change an age-old tradition that holds so much charm? Well, apparently the occurrence of wines being spoiled because of the cork is a fairly large problem. One report from the International Wine Challenge, the world's largest wine competition, states that nearly one in 20 bottles, or 4.9% of the 11,033 bottles opened at that competition had spoiled or the flavor had been flattened because of the cork.

How is the cork responsible for the ruin of so much wine? Cork is a tree bark and when wine corks are manufactured, chlorine bleach is used for cleaning and brightening the color. When the bleach comes in contact with the natural molds that are present in the cork, a reaction occurs and a chemical called trichloroanisole (TCA) is produced. If this chemical comes in contact with the wine, it will cause it to taste like damp cardboard. When this happens the wine is then referred to as being "corked", and it is undrinkable.

Screwcaps have proven themselves to be a better alternative to cork. First developed in Australia, the brand name for screwcaps used for wine is Stelvin, so you will often hear them referred to as such. These caps are not the same as those used for food and drink; these caps are specially designed to protect fine wines from tainting for a period of time and to allow for aging. Basically the part of the cap that actually contacts the wine is made from a thin coating of Teflon film over pure tin, this gives the cap the capability to stay stable and flavor-neutral for a very long time.

There are some screwcap critics that say the Stelvin caps don't allow for proper "breathing" so the wine can age, however, this is a myth. If a cork is perfect and works the way it is supposed to work, it will not allow air into the bottle. Actually, oxygen is potentially harmful to the wine and very unnecessary for the aging process. To quote a leading Bordeaux authority Professor Pascal Rib?reau-Gayon in the ?Handbook of Enology?,

?reactions that take place in bottled wine do not require oxygen?.

And one more authority, Professor Emile Peynaud of Bordeaux says,

?it is the opposite of oxidation, a process of reduction, or asphyxia by which wine develops in the bottle?

So, as we watch a trend develop of vintners moving toward using screwcaps we, the wine-drinking public, are just going to have to come to terms with the fact that screwcaps have proven themselves. Because of the Stelvin, we consumers will be able to enjoy better preserved and better tasting wine in the years to come. Actually, instead of thinking about moving to the next bottle on the shelf because of the screwcap, we should be seeking out the wine that delights your palate regardless of whether it uses a screwcap or not.

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