Print Article for : On Line Dating Site

Your Online Guide » Dating Guide » Flirting Tips

[O94]On Line Dating Site

by David Wygant, Dav

This is an open letter to all of you who are paranoid as hell to post your profile on an online dating site:

Wake up! The number one excuse that people give for not putting themselves on a dating site is that they are so afraid that someone is going to find out.

Let me tell you something: if somebody finds out, then they are on that dating site too!

Let's say that you are in the office and that hot girl you were attracted to but afraid to talk to walks over to you and says, "hey Jim, I saw your profile on match.com."

What are you going to do in that situation? You're going to look at her and say, "really? I didn't know you were on match.com too?"

She's only going to come over and tell you that she saw your profile if she's somewhat interested. She's not going to come over and say, "I saw your profile on match.com, what are you doing on there?" The same thing that you're doing on there – trying to meet somebody! You don't need to defend yourself, because she's on there too!

Everyone is so afraid that somebody is going to see their profile online – but if somebody recognizes you from match.com and approaches you in public, it means that they are attracted to you and want to talk to you! Otherwise, they wouldn't say anything, they would just run and hide.

I've seen people walking around whose profiles on match.com I've seen when I've been doing profile work for clients. I've seen their pictures and their profiles, and I'll look at them and I'll hide – because I don't want to talk to them! I don't feel like walking over to them and saying, "hey, the other day I was looking at your profile on match.com, and I didn't know that you liked to run naked through the rain."

The great thing about posting your profile on online dating sites is that it is now socially accepted. Put your picture online – who cares? It doesn't matter. You want people to know that you're single.

It's so funny that people complain all of the time about being single, but then they try to hide the fact that they are single. They go to a party and someone asks, "so, you're single?" And they respond, "yeah, I'm single" in a depressed voice, rather than saying, "yeah, I'm single. Do you know any great people to introduce me to?"

People are so afraid to put it out there. Being on the internet is now socially acceptable. Get yourself on a dating site. Yes, I'm sure I'll get a ton of comments and emails about how there are crazy people online – but there are crazy people everywhere!

I see crazy people online all the time. The other night we were doing an internet product - which I will release soon, it's fantastic! It's a two-hour audio with what is right now about a 75-page book accompanying it about how to date online. It's my first full online dating product besides Girls Tell All: Secrets of Online Dating.

And it was great – it happened at the end of a bootcamp, we recorded the whole session with a bunch of guys, and I just walked them through how to date online.

So during this evening, I was on jdate.com – yeah I am a New York Jew, whatever! I have my profile up on a couple of dating sites because it's fun and I learn a lot. I can write things. Most of it is research, but I have gone out on a few internet dates.

So I'm on this site, and a woman IMs me. We're basically just chatting away, and she's saying, "yeah, I just don't really meet anybody online, I don't know what it is," while she's chatting with me. You don't meet anybody online because you have a bad attitude!

You have to realize that people are on there, and you can shop. It's so great. It's like midnight right now, and we can just shop for people online.

Patrick, what are you in the mood for right now? Would you like a brunette?

Patrick: I like blondes, personally.

David: Alright, a blonde. So why don't we get on yahoo.com right now and go find some blondes. It's like a convenience store for people, 24 hours a day!

You can even click and see who is online right now and find people. It's instantaneous and fun.

For those of you who have never tried online dating, you really need to listen to this audio series that I will release soon. In two hours of audio, I'm going to tell you all the ins and outs of online dating, and you'll have a blast online.

Online dating is like going to 7-11 – for people!

After you have successfully created a profile on a dating site, you hope that other members on the site would be interested in you. You hope that other members would initiate contact with you. There are members who do not like to initiate contact with other members because they believe this will make them appear to be desperate.

If you are not getting flooded with emails from other members on a daily basis. You should think about initiating contact with other members who are compatible with you. Initiating contact with other members will not make you appear to be desperate.

There are many people who are paranoid about appearing desperate on a dating site, they will often spend less time and effort into creating their profile. In many cases they will list very little information about themselves or what type of person they are looking for.

This can have a negative effect on the responses they get or the lack of responses because other members do not know enough about them. Think about it rationally, how will other members know specifically what you want if you do not ask for it?

Your profile is important because recent studies have shown that many of the people who have been successful at finding partners on a dating site had created great profiles to sell themselves. Being successful on a dating site is all about selling yourself.

Selling yourself entails: creating a great profile, adding a nice picture to your profile. Sending emails to other members, every email should be unique and should be directly related to the person you are emailing. When you have received emails from other members your response should be a well thought out response.

Lets focus on what initially attracts people to your profile. Your picture, your picture plays a big role in attracting people to your profile, because physical attraction is very important to most people. Too many people overlook the importance of having a picture in their profile.

There are many people who believe that personality is much more important than looks. They will spend quite a bit of time and effort into creating an excellent profile. The will explain in detail who they are and what type of person they are looking for. However, they will not add their picture to their profile. This is a huge mistake because no profile is complete without a great picture.

Getting many responses to your profile on a dating site is determined by the way you present yourself. You must remember that personality and looks go hand in hand, and one cannot compensate for the other. You probably will not get your desired results by creating an incomplete profile.

You must be direct when describing who you are and what you are looking for and you must add a good picture to your profile. Follow these steps and you will be on your way to finding your ideal match.

Article Source : Pg. 16

About Author

Both David Wygant & Wayne James are contributors for EditorialToday. The above articles have been edited for relevancy and timeliness. All write-ups, reviews, tips and guides published by EditorialToday.com and its partners or affiliates are for informational purposes only. They should not be used for any legal or any other type of advice. We do not endorse any author, contributor, writer or article posted by our team.

David Wygant has sinced written about articles on various topics from Dating and Romance, Attracting Mate and Dating and Romance. . David Wygant's top article generates over 49500 views. to your Favourites.

Wayne James has sinced written about articles on various topics from Online Dating, Attracting Mate and Online Dating. To learn more about please visit free for athletic. Wayne James's top article generates over 22200 views. to your Favourites.