Why is texting one of the greatest tools for flirting and building attraction?
Well, first let's talk about attraction triggers. Attraction triggers are all the parts of you that you have to account for when interacting with someone. How you handle those areas and parts of you will either build or destroy attraction. Those parts (or attraction triggers) are your hair, eyes, smell, confidence, flirtyness, words, timing, clothes, witty remarks, and the list keeps going. The greatest challenge with real world attraction is you have to account for many of these attraction triggers and if you goof up on a few important ones, your success with a woman goes down the drain. This is why texting is the greatest tool! Texting makes it so all you have to account for are words and timing. You text the right words at the right time and you can expect to triple or double your success in dating. I have seen it happen hundreds of times.
Flirting is the key to getting the ball rolling in the right direction. It's the unnecessary, but crucial part in building attraction. One of your main purposes when texting is to flirt. I'm going to share with you the 3 most important laws that you must follow whenever you are flirting in your flirty text messages.
Law #1 - Building Suspense - the 10-minute rule
Suspense creates the roller coaster effect in your flirty text messages. The best way to start applying this is to apply the ten minute rule. That is, when she sends a vulnerable message, wait ten minutes before replying. A vulnerable text messages is something like, "are you free tonight to meet up?" or "do you want to hang out?" This delayed gratification builds suspense and starts creating this uneasy feeling inside which is making her want you more and more. Then, after ten minutes you let her know that everything is cool and all that tension inside of her is released and she's so much happier and almost privileged that she gets to hang out with you.
Sending an instant text messages when a deal is being closed is basically saying, "yes, yes, yes please hang out with me!" If you place a pause before closing the deal, then you are just giving a signal that you are important or you had to weigh your options before choosing. Whatever the interpretation is, there is going to be a stronger sexual connection between you two.
Law #2 - Keep it light, fun and un-needy
I imagine everyone reading this article has stressed about sending the right flirty text message. I'm sure many of us have also sent flirty text messages that we wish we could take back and re-write. Both of these scenarios are unnecessary and they only hurt your success with women. In the end she is going to figure out that you are way too involved and needy and it's most likely going to destroy the attraction. The key is to relax. Understand that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Send light flirty text messages and then move on and never second guess yourself.
Law #3 - Send Flirty Text Messages NOT Friendship Text Messages
Words influence everyone's life. Words determine where all our relationships go and how strong they are. Now I can't just give you a bunch of flirty text messages because it takes a lot more to explain the big picture. However, if you want a ton of proven flirty text messages that work, it would be in your best interest to get the eBook "The Ultimate Texting Guide." It goes into great detail with what flirty text messages women respond to.
I can give you some flirting tips to get you moving in the right direction and help you construct better flirty text messages. Start by always keeping in mind: send messages that build attraction not friendship. This is the area where most men fail. It comes from a history of sending a ton of text messages to friends and few to the women they want. This basically puts a man in friendship auto pilot and the women you want end up getting your classic messages that make her into a friend instead of something more. Here's the best way to start breaking out of this auto pilot system: be aware of the feeling in your message. Meaning, women respond to how you make them feel. You create the feeling. Is it flirty or is it friendship? You must be able to discern between the two.
Key point for men: you need to send messages that make women feel something. For example, let's change those last messages to something more flirty: "Hey honey" "I was just in class and the teacher there reminded me of you, except she was cuter." "Hey, we're heading to a party, you should come?" You don't get on a roller coaster because it's boring, you get on it because you know you're going to feel something - she will text you and desire you if you can create that same feeling.