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Think about it. Would you? This is a very important point. Unless you become the type of person who you're looking for, you won't attract the type of person you seek and that person won't find you. In order to really get out there and meet someone new, you have to be comfortable with who you are.
Have you ever known men or women who aren't necessarily the most handsome or pretty individuals, but they never lack dates? What makes them so attractive? You guessed it: self confidence, and it's contagious. It also screams sex appeal. These folks are glowing with a bright,
friendly, fun attitude, and they have a genuine interest in others. They're happy with who they are and appreciate what they have to offer.
This positive energy attracts an abundance of people who want to meet them. Self-confidence produces the most amazing results. Here's why:
• It's sexy!
• It allows you to relax and have fun.
• It means you take rejection lightly and not personally.
• It makes it clear that you are not desperate.
• It means you're content with yourself, your looks and your life — which only makes you more attractive.
In order to gain self-confidence, you must first learn how to love yourself. It's important that you recognize and appreciate what's great about you — and accept what's not so great. If you don't love and accept who you are, how do you expect someone else to?
DO the Following for Yourself
Try these six boosters to improve your self-confidence and sex appeal.
• Stop measuring yourself against others, especially celebrities or fashion models. Recognize that you are a hot ticket with a unique set of qualities and attributes. If you believe you are special, you will attract a partner who appreciates what you have to offer. Tell yourself, “I'm great just the way I am” or “I'm exciting” or “I'm loveable.” You are! This kind of pep talk helps imprint positive messages into your brain and eventually will change your outlook.
Remember, the very characteristic or behavior that turns one person off may turn another person
on. Don't waste your time with people who don't recognize what you have to offer. Learn to love yourself for everything you are and everything you're not. When you like who you are, people will naturally be drawn to you.
• Surround yourself with people who treat you with the love and respect that you deserve. If you have people in your life who are overly critical or negative, weed them out.
• If you're not happy with the way you look, treat yourself to a new look. Join a gym and get in shape. You'll feel like a million bucks. Dress and act your best at all times, because you never know when you might run into your dream date. When you look good, you feel good too.
• Step outside your own boundaries. Join Toastmasters, take a dance class or a stand-up comedy class, go horseback riding or parachuting. Push through your fears, and you'll find yourself alive with confidence.
• Finally, date more. As you handle all the different situations you come across, it will reinforce positive feelings about yourself and boost your confidence in your dating ability.
At the end of the day, everybody could use a little improvement. But nobody's perfect and no one ever will be, so you have to balance your desire to be all that you can be with your willingness to accept who you are.