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We've all heard it said, nice guys finish last and bad boys get all the girls. That's because women are attracted to men who aren't afraid to disagree with people. How, then, do nice guys adapt to become more like bad boys? They do it by understanding exactly what the 'bad boy' type is and how to use it to their advantage.
First of all, bad boys are independent. They have a set of beliefs that they're comfortable with and willing to stand up for. They also appear to not care who they upset while they're standing up for themselves. People take them as they are or not at all. This differs from the 'nice guy' type because nice guys appear to agree with everything somebody says, even if they don't actually agree but want to continue the conversation.
Second, bad boys are spontaneous. They do what they want, when they want. They have fun with the moment. Nice guys, on the other hand, are comfortable in habit. They become boring and predictable to a woman who wants a little excitement in her life.
Changing your way of thinking from complacent nice guy to independent bad boy can be difficult for a man who's naturally more quiet and sensitive, but he can start the process by employing disconnectors in his conversations with women. Disconnectors are statements which intentionally disagree with the flow of conversation. They serve as a means to express other opinions, and they are a powerful attraction builder.
Here's why.
Let's say that you and your lady are discussing books. She's really impressed by what Author A has to say, but you're more persuaded by what Author B has to say. After you've expressed your opinion and she's expressed hers, disconnect by asking what she thinks of Author C. Now she has to quit thinking about Author A and consider what she thinks about Author C.
By doing this, you've established yourself as being in control of the conversation. You're guiding the questions to reveal what you want to know about her. You also demonstrate that you're comfortable with a bit of friendly disagreement and aren't likely to agree with everything she says just because she's attractive to you. Women like this sort of self-assuredness in a man. It shows them that he knows when to stand up for his opinions and when to move on to a new subject.
If it seems too difficult for you to become a bad boy, you can reprogram your behavioural patterns with subliminal software, like Subliminal Flash. You can download it from many sites, just search Google. I used Subliminal Flash by myself, and some of my students used it too, and it generally takes about 3-4 dys to develop an irresistible “Bad boy charisma” with the help of this program.
Remember not to argue with a woman at every turn. If she starts to think that her opinion is worthless to you and that she'll be shot down every time she expresses one, she'll dump you because you're a controlling jerk. Instead, save more heated discussions for topics about which you have a particularly strong opinion. Dating isn't about bending someone to your will, after all. It's about compatibility.
As you master this technique, you will become more and more attractive to women in the first five minutes of talking with her.