We have good communication which can go something like this: "Mike, what is this doing here?" "This" could really be anything. From milk in the cupboard to shoes in the middle of the floor (don't ask!).
The funny thing about this form of communication is that I ACTUALLY believe that by asking him these sorts of questions, it will somehow flip some sort of mental switch in his brain and he will stop leaving crap all over the place!
The other day I left my shoes out in the middle of the living room floor. Mike smugly asked: "What are these doing here?" Well, I must say that I am very quick on my toes...so, I responded: "They are taking a rest before they walk themselves into the closet!" Hee hee, I am soooooooo hilarious! Luckily, he just rolled his eyes and walked out of the room. I picked up the shoes and put them in the closet. While I was doing that, I realized that I was feeling sorta annoyed. Because in truth (and I am so about the truth!), I didn't like him pointing out that my shoes where on the floor. I was sorta pissed off that he even said something.
Because I NEVER do that kind of thing!
Ya know?
To take this a step further ... because sometimes I just gotta....I started mentally listing all of the times he has left stuff out or put stuff in weird ass places that make no sense at all!!!! Let me tell ya...the list was way long. Especially compared to me...who only left my shoes out on the floor...ONCE!!!! I was about to open my fabulous mouth...when I realized what the hell I was doing. I was STARTIN' something! Me and my "great" communication...was wanting to start something!
Yay me for noticing this ... because, if I had launched into some sort of tyraid...I would have created all sorts of havoc! So, once I shut my internal list maker off-who needs to "prove how right I am"- I realized what the secret key to our great relationship is!
I mean...yes, it's about respect. And yes, it's about playfulness, and kindness and love and all that good stuff.
drum roll please...
Here is it is: The secret key to our great relationship is RESTRAINT!!!!!!
Really! It is!
I restrain myself all the time. So does Mike!
Sometimes, it is about communicating and sometimes it's about shutting the hell up! Not speaking "the truth." Because much of the time "speaking the truth" is about "I am right and you are wrong and here is my proof!"
I am going to bravely assert here that the secret key to ANY good relationship is restraint!
Whaddya think? Does that hold some grain of truth for you when you think about your quality, long term relationships? The ability to know when to speak and the ability to know when to shut the hell up!
Think about your own thoughts and funny stories. Do you know when to speak and when to shut the hell up?
What is a Niche? I'm glad you asked! Your niche is how you are different from everyone else. It is the one aspect that you are great at, not good at, but great at.
It is the one thing that will get you on a team, or get you cut off of a team. This should be common sense for all ballers, and yet it will be your secret weapon. Because most of your competition will forever ignore the fundamentals of defining a niche, or screw it up (since they've never bothered to pay attention to the lessons).
It's relatively easy to perform a play or move that gets a coach to say "Hey, that ballers pretty good." But that doesn't mean they will pick you to be on their team or pursue you to play for them.
No. You want your prospect Coach to say (after experiencing watching you play) "Wow! That's exactly what I need on my team. How do I get them to consider playing for me?"
But getting a coach to be jaw dropped and begging you to play for them is a much more complex process. You don't have to understand the biology or chemistry that goes on. But you do have to realize that dominating the hardwood requires a lot of knowledge and a little skill.
It's not difficult. But it's not something most people naturally learn to do. There are a few key secrets to identifying a niche that (once you master them) will guarantee that every time you step on the court every coach and player will be astonished and you will start leaving your dominating trail of legacy along the way.
That's how "the greats" are formed. First by identifying their niche and then by working to master their niche. Most ballers play from their heels, meaning they blow it when it comes to discovering what aspect of the game they are dominate at. They stumble along the way guessing how to develop their game and normally find them selves in a dark hole with no way to get out.
The baller graveyard is crammed with great talented ballers that failed to identify and work on their niche. However, when you master the basics of developing a niche and continually working to master your niche, you will start to see and feel the benefits that come with being a "unique" Hot-Ticket ball player. Whatever results you're getting will instantly be multiplied many times, as soon as you apply the secrets of niche discovering.
If you look at any of the dominating forces in the pros you will find that it is easy to identify their niche:
Reggie Miller- Shooting Bruce Bowen- Defense Steven Nash- passing and play making Tracy Mcgrady- Scoring Shaq- Post Dominating Ben Wallace- Rebounding
And the list goes on and on. They discovered their niche and developed a plan to master it, not just to be good at it but to be great at it.
So how do you figure out what's your gold key niche? Easy, ask yourself what do you think you are the best at, what important aspect of basketball do you always do well, or tend to be better then others at. It would also be a great idea if you asked your coach, parents, teammates and other players that do not personally know you but have seen you play before. It is also very important to receive honest opinions, and you should not ask someone you believe who falsely tell you something just to, please you, get the truth.
If you have a identified niche you will be that much more dominate and coaches would much rather recruit a player that performs a certain task very well like passing then trying to recruit a player that they will have to develop those certain skill they are looking for. Now once you have identified your niche, you have found a pot of gold, an you will be 100 steps ahead of your competition.
If you do not have a niche, and really do not understand what kind of a player you are or what you do very well, you will just confuse all the coaches and recruits that are interested in you. The most common mistake that I have seen with lack of niche identification normally happens with guards. You know what I am talking about, that guard that you see but you really do not know if he is a point guard or a shooting guard, it's like he is stuck in the middle. And if you are stuck in the middle, you are not going any where. Allen Iverson is a perfect example, he was having problems figuring out what kind of player he was, and his game struggled, but once he committed to being a two guard, his game flourished and he become an NBA ALL-STAR.
So determine your niche and commit to mastering it, whatever it is, it might be scoring, shooting, rebounding, defense, passing, play making or even teammate support. If you do not have a niche, get one or you will never get to the next level. Find out for yourself why so many top Pro ballers give me credit and hide me away as their secret weapon for their wealth and fame.
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