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Unless you and your fianc? are childhood sweethearts who have never had another relationship, you will rack up exes on both your sides. This can be a contentious issue as you decide on the mailing list for the wedding invitations, which can make or break the wedding plans. Fortunately, you can work it out.
When You Don't Agree
If you have second thoughts about giving wedding invitations to his ex-girlfriends who arouse less-than-friendly feelings (read: jealousy, unease, anxiety) in you, then by all means don't mail them out. The bottom line is that when inviting exes over for the big day will cause undue anxiety and undeserved distraction for either the two of you, then it is best to lay off on the idea.
However, this is easier said than done when your future husband becomes adamant about inviting his ex-girlfriends over. You have to take matters into your hands! Of course, this does not mean that you have to kill them with your bare hands, fianc? included, only that you need to take preemptive action before mailing those wedding invitations.
You have to talk with your fiance? as soon as possible. You must take up and settle important issues like:
The reasons why he wants to invite his exes over to your wedding day
The reasons why you do not want his exes to cast their shadows on the big day
The compromises you can agree on including the terms of the agreement, if any
You might need to talk to your therapist, clergyman, priest, family and any other support system you have to help you iron things out. The important thing is that you must never ignore the problem lest it blows up in your face big-time on the big day itself.
If you are still unresolved about your feelings for his let's-give-my-exes-wedding-invitations proposal by the time the invitations have to be sent out, then put your foot down and don't invite them! In the end, it is your wedding with no place for pesky exes.
When You Do Agree
Ah, now this one is easier. You can send out those wedding invitations with an open heart and welcome his ex with open arms. You might even be gaining new friends, in the process.
However, you might still want to talk to your man especially when you are still strangers with the exes he wants to send wedding invitations to. You can even ask your fianc? to introduce you to them albeit in an informal manner. This way, you will not be surprised to see your groom being familiar and friendly with the blonde bombshell you do not know.
The benefits: You will be perceived as a mature woman who is secure in her man's love. You will gain a new appreciation of your groom and his past. You will have new friends. Or if you want to be bitchy about it, you will know your enemy.
Whatever your decision about inviting his exes to your wedding day, you just have to remember that your wedding day is one that should be memorable for the right reasons.
Wedding Invitations are very personal and intimate. No one publishes a public invitation card for a wedding. One creates a guest list and personally invites the guests to the wedding by means of a wedding invitation. A lot of thought and care is given to carve that list so as not to miss anybody important in our lives to attend our memorable event.
The wedding invitations reflect the tone of the wedding event. The invitation cards can be very expensive or very simple. It all depends on what kind of budget one has and how creative one is. A Wedding invitation unlike other invitations may have several pieces inside one main container for instance it could contain an invitation for a wedding, an invitation for a reception, a response card, details of the ceremony, venues, location maps and sometimes even a dress code.
The most modern form of Wedding Invitation is an Email invitation which is gaining popularity every day, but the basic concept of the invitation, content and design element remain the same. Similar effort is put into email invitations as is put into printed invitations, the electronic version of invitations can be more entertaining, attractive and interactive at the same time. Some innovative minds invite their guests by launching private websites which are only for their guests to see by invitation through email with a password for the private website. The reasoning behind this electronic medium usage is that it has a distinct advantage of a wider reach, in time response online, multiple invites and reminders to the guests which is all very attractive as the guests are not likely to forget even if they want to.
Traditional Wedding Invitations are generally in cotton or linen paper in white engraved in black or pastel ink colors. Many people prefer to have their invitations customized in non standard sizes and variety of materials with elaborate or simple classic tasteful designs. The response cards or RSVP cards are usually enclosed inside the wedding invitations to let the host know if the person will be attending the event or not which makes it easier for the host to manage the ceremony seating and reception menu etc and how best to take care of all attendees at the wedding.
As indicated the Wedding invitations are very personal and the wording plays a major role in the invitation. While the supplier or the publisher of the wedding invitation cards offer literally thousands of designs and a variety of standard content, it is always better to have a customized content that reflects your own personal style although the information presented in all the wedding invitations is pretty standard, it is the manner and the style of the presentation that reflects your personality and style.
Even though the Wedding invitations are printed separately by the bride and the groom in different styles and designs, the content and meaning reflected must be the same. The bride and the groom may choose a theme for their wedding which is indicated in the invitation cards to the guests so that they can participate in accordance with the theme.
Both Bride and the grooms full names are printed on the wedding invitations. Certain rules are followed for instance if you want to send some wedding gifts or wedding favors with the invitations to the prospective guests, it is perfectly acceptable but it is not acceptable but it is not acceptable to indicate your gifts or wedding registry details on the invitations.
Some interesting celebrity wedding invitations included Britney Spears wedding invitations which was reported to be delivered in a bag with a special note to the guests and one of the wedding invitation later appeared on Ebay Auction and reportedly sold for $2150.
Another interesting Wedding invitation was that of an Indian Businessman's daughter in U.K attended by many celebrities from various fields with a 20 page gold edged wedding invitations with hand printed images and details of various functions and venues and the invitation itself was accompanied by an intricately carved silver container weighing almost 5KG.
Wedding invitation is after all a matter of personal taste.