[R163]Relationship Advice When To Break Up

When you find your relationship is in jeopardy and indeed even when your relationship is strong and stable, many people are quick to offer their "esteemed" opinion and "cherished" advice on your relationship. Now mind you, much of this advice is in reality wonderful advice that may contribute to the strength of your relationship's foundations, and truly worth considering.

In reality however, far too often some of this advice may be completely and utterly irrelevant to your relationship and far worse some of this bad advice may even lead to more serious complications in your relationship if you act on it. As most advice and tips are offered with all good intentions it is very hard for you to know what relationship tips you should act upon and what advice you are much better politely disregarding.

We have put together for your convenience a list of the top 5 tips and tricks that we have found to have proven invaluable when trying to figure out relationship help and counseling.

# Keeping an eye on time. Did you know that relationships suffer from not enough contact as well as too much contact between partners? The key of creating a healthy relationship is in finding the balance of time spent together. A relationship with too much couple focus is bound to leave either partner with little to no interests or room to grow outside the relationship and it suffocates. This can breed a relationship dependency, where either partner may rely to heavily on the other for more than mutual companionship. When either partner holds a focus in a world of emotional energy, any relationship can buckle under its strain.

Alternatively, a relationship can suffer when there is not enough couple contact. In this case, all the energy and interest is provided by outside sources, resulting in drained attempts or a feeling of compulsory obligation in place of real intimacy. Therefore, even though it is healthy to grow as individuals it is also necessary for both parties to focus energy on the relationship for it to become a healthy emotional unit for them both.

# Enjoy each other accept the things that make your partner different Interestingly we generally subconsciously seek out a partner whose personality traits are different enough to our own to add depth and compliment our own character. It is not so usual that a partner should exactly match our personality in every way.

Regrettably, many individuals have a habit of thinking that their partner is to become as they are. Keep in mind that the differences that may have first attracted us to each other may later become a focus of conflict. Learn to accept your partner and their uniqueness for who they really are, and not impose your idea of what they should be for you.

# Treat and respect your partner with the same respect as you would any of your friends It's said when you think about it, but we generally treat our friends and family with more respect that we do are lovers/partners. Certainly this is not intended, and usually occurs without any knowledge of wrong doing what so ever. We would never dream of calling our girlfriends upset that she hasn't called you, or neglected to pay you attention. We would not ever mention to the guys that we were not happy with something they may have said or done.

Its very sad that most of us forget that your when your in a relationship, your partner is your most dearest and trusted friend. It's funny how when your at a party, and friend has too much to drink and does something a little embarrassing, how at that moment we enjoy the sight of what they are doing, and at the same time we can't wait for later, so we can tease them about what they did the night before. It's a totally different story though when its your partner. We unfortunately tend to get embarrassed and angry with our partner, which is truly not very fair. This of course is just a example, but I hope it shows us that expect different things from our friends than we do are partners.

# Fair and controlled arguments should always be in practice. Naturally, arguments are a part of any relationship. Keeping our arguments fair and in perspective is vital to our relationships. It is best not to indulge in accusations and calling each other names, as we may find it in ourselves to sincerely apologize for words uttered in anger, however we are unable to unsay or un-hear such words that cut us to the very core of our being by someone we love.

Another important tip to note to keep the argument on topic. You will definitely not resolve anything if you get off track. And try to remember that not all arguments have a winner and a loser. Sometimes its better to agree to not agree, and just leave it alone. To continue to argue to for arguments sake is pointless, and you should refrain from doing so.

Effective and fair arguing is something that can be learned, and an excellent skill to learn when dealing with a relationship crisis.

# Relationship counseling. Learn when to seek out their services If your relationship is in trouble, do not be afraid to seek the advice of a relationship counselor. First and for most you want to establish that your making a true and honest commitment to the relationship, and that one act increases the chances that the relationship will continue. It's no secret that sometimes the best advice you can ever act upon to to seek out the help of a trained professional. You must remember that a counselor does not tell you what to do, but rather provides suggestions on how to do it, leaving you to chose your own path in your relationship. There is a lot more to be learned than can be discussed in the paragraphs above, however a trained relationship counselor can help you to apply the right relationship advice that custom tailored just for you.