Often, I hear my female friends complain that their partners are lazy and/or bored. However, it is not that their partners are lazy or bored; rather they have become complacent. When men become complacent with their partners and in their relationships, it takes minimal effort to keep them around. They think their presence is enough. And most of the time, they manage to keep you around even after you have complained for weeks that they don't put any effort into the relationship. Why? Because you are allowing them to treat you like that. In many cases, it's too late to change the situation because he is already well adjusted. If this is your case, then it just might be time to reassess the relationship and move on to prevent losing anymore precious moments of your life.
Why does this happen? After the chase is over, men realize you are there, appear content with the way things are and the chase is over.
This is partially your fault. You need to keep your partner interested. Don't let him make assumptions that you two are doing something during the weekend. Take one night and go out with your friends. He has to change his expectations after the two of you have become a couple. If you continually pick him up from the bar after a night out with the boys, do his laundry, have dinner made for him every night at 7 pm, how could you expect him not to get comfortable?
To prevent him from becoming too comfortable, follow these tips:
?Keep him out of the comfort zone by making rules
?Make sure he realizes how desirable you are to others
?Never become lazy yourself; always take care of yourself
?Don't be at his beck and call
?Have your own friends and family life
?Be independent
?Keep your finances separate
?Socialize without him occasionally
?Change your mind occasionally
?Ensure you keep male friends you had before you started dating
?Do not run around after him
?Go on vacation with your family and friends
A relationship needs to be equal. If you allow him to get the upper hand and become too comfortable, he will eventually take advantage of the situation.