Likediscussing sex and its education with children, parents also need to talk totheir gay son about their sexual orientation. To talk does not mean todiscourage him from his gay orientation, but also allow him to come out of theshell. Communication is the key to bringing the gay son out of his closet andgiving him a chance to ?come out? with his nagging problem. At school or withfriends your gay son must have faced some verbal or physical abuse for notbeing as boyish as the other kids. He could not explain his problem or come outwith his viewpoint in front of anybody.

As a parent, itis your responsibility to get him on board before it is too late. Usuallyparents with a gay son realize much later that they had failed in notcommunicating with him earlier.  You haveto choose a proper setting or an opportune moment to get to talk with him overwhat he thinks he cannot explain. Before getting to communicate with him, youalso need to educate yourself a bit about the real problems faced by gays. Ifyou do, you will realize that every parent as well as their gay son has a storyto tell. It is a story of abuse, neglect and misunderstanding at every step forthe gay child. Those who were lucky enough had parents who communicated withthem early. It saved them a lot of miseries and depression after they grew up.

If you choosethe living room or the dining table, chances are that your gay son may not beso forthcoming when you break the ice. You have to choose a particular settingwere he cannot sort of evade and leave the discussion mid way. A long drivewith your gay son can be a good setting to communicate with him. And it wouldbe wise not to rush into it or lose your patience, because a great level ofunderstanding is all that he would need.

You couldbegin with something like asking about his future plans and how he sees himselfin the next couple of years or more. And what are his plans when he steps intoadulthood. As communicating effectively with a gay son is the key to goodparenting, you should have all the patience in the world to hear him out. Hemay say things that you may not agree with as there are many things about thegay world that you might not know.