Since men are still the ones who normally initiate dates, tips for men over 40 are particularly relevant. First off, if a woman is confident to ask you, feel flattered, and then accept the date. This way, you know she is interested, and you didn't have to ask her out and get turned down.

All men feel some awkwardness when asking a woman out, but it can be especially frightening if you haven't done so for quite a number of years. Just keep in mind that women are nervous as well, and make sure you let her know that you are interested in getting to know her. This can be done by suggesting that you do something interesting together.

Meeting for coffee is an easy first date. That way, you are not pressured by being in some romantic setting that can add to pressure. Clubs are also a poor choice because it's difficult to have a good talk over the loud music. Additionally, the issue of alcohol should be avoided until you have discussed your date's position on that subject.

You should also be prepared for a negative reaction, but be sure you can differentiate between whether she is turning you down or whether she is just not interested in the activity you have chosen. She may not be into sports, or capable of playing golf or dancing. If you suggest alternative activities, different days, or various venues, you will discover whether it is the place or just that she is not interested in seeing you.

One of the most important things for men over 40 to remember, however, is that rejection will happen occasionally. Remember that it doesn't mean you're an awful date just because the two of you didn't hit it off. Just take it in stride and move on. Don't give up, and the right person will come along eventually.

Men over 40 who are dating again should also try and remember what they shouldn't do. A good rule of thumb is to steer clear of the subject of your ex or other women you have dated, unless you're telling a funny story. You should also avoid trying to fill her with empty platitudes. If you hand out compliments, make sure they are sincere because women can tell if you are not being honest with them.

You should also avoid talking incessantly about your family. Mentioning your children if fine, but don't end up showing tons of pictures or going on and on about them. You two barely know each other yet, so don't make it seem as if you are auditioning her for the role of stepmother already.

Something else to remember is that in the early stages of a relationship, you should be warm and friendly, but you should not send out overtly sexual signals. This makes it seem like you are only interested in having sex, not a real relationship. Let things come naturally and don't send the wrong message.

Most importantly, be yourself. If you're honest, you don't have to work hard remembering what stories you told. Pretending to be someone else cannot last for long, and you will most likely shoot down the chance of forming any kind of lasting relationship.