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by Peter Crump, Pet

Credit problems bedevil a large number of people. If you have a credit problem I'm sure you know what I mean. Suddenly everything financial becomes much more difficult and it seems that everyone is out to get you. But a poor credit report is not a permanent situation. There are some things that you can do to fix it. Many things in fact. Here are 10 of the most important. Learn these things and everything else will fall into place, in time.

1. Take Responsibility.

Only you can repair your credit, and only you can take responsibiliy for doing so. Don't expect anyone else to do it for you. A good credit report will only result from responsible money management.

2. Learn About Money, and Debt.

The ability to handle money, and debt, is a learned skill. If you don't have the skill now you can learn it. However it takes time and effort. If you are not prepared to invest the time and effort to learn the skills then they won't find you.

3. Don't Expect Immediate Results.

Credit repair doesn't happen overnight, despite what the credit repair companies may like to tell you. It is a slow process and can take years. Credit repair is a process which is ultimately designed to convince institutions to trust you with their money, and they take some convincing. Don't expect a little effort to produce an immediate result.

4. Be Prepared For Some Pain.

Remember the old adage, you can't keep doing what you are doing now and expect different results? This applies to your financial habits as much as anything else. Your past financial habits have got you to where you are now and if you keep handling your money as you have been nothing will change. You must change your money habits, and this will hurt. You must be prepared to embrace the fact that now you will do things differently, and accept the painful consquences. The pain comes before the result.

5. Live Within Your Means.

One of the most common causes of poor credit is living beyond your means. Learn that you can only have what you can afford, and that it is more important to live within your means than to try and have what you cannot afford. Don't try and keep up with your friends. If they have a new car and you can't afford it you can't have it. Period. Learn this.

6. Check Your Credit Report.

You are entitled by law to check your credit report each year for free. Take advantage of this. It is not unheard of for incorrect information to appear on your report, but if you don't check it then you don't know it's there. Once you know you can do something about it.

7. Learn About Credit And Credit Repair.

There are many well known steps to credit repair. There are no "secrets" that others know and you can't. There is a well worn path that usually involves most of the above, as well as a whole series of other things that you can do that are too numerous to mention here. If you know what to do you can do it, if you don't you can't. You need to educate yourself about the individual things you can and must do to fix your credit report.

8. Pay Your Bills On Time.

This is one of the most important habits you can learn. Many people assume that there really isn't much harm to paying late. There is. Learn that a bill is important. It needs to be paid in time. If you can't learn to pay your bills on time then companies who are approached for a loan can reasonably expect that you won't pay them on time either, or at all.

9. Address Specific Lifestyle Issues.

Most people who have credit problems will, if they are honest enough with themselves to admit it, have specific lifestyle issues that aggravate the problem. Are you a smoker for example? Smoking is an extremely expensive habit, and many people cannot afford it. Take the hard decisions and give up, it will give you so much more disposable income each week to apply to the more important things, and make you healthier at the same time. Have a look at yourself and find out which are your lifestyle issues that contribute, and what you can do about it.

10. Don't Expect A Credit Repair Company To Do It For You

Credit repair companies cannot do anything you cannot do yourself. Don't expect a credit repair company to wave a magic wand and fix the problem. Getting a credit repair company to work on it for you may take the immediate responsibility away from you but this is illusory.

If you do not fix some of those things listed above there is no point in trying to fix your credit report because even if you manage to do so it won't be long before the same problems reappear. You cannot have a good credit report if you are not credit worthy.

I'm sorry if you have read some things here that you would rather not read. Credit repair isn't easy, or fast, and there are no simple fixes. Credit repair is all about proving to potential creditors that you are worthy of being offered credit. If you aren't worthy of credit you probably won't get it.

So learn about what to do to make yourself credit worthy and prove to them, and yourself, that you are now responsible with money and credit. And if you do that your credit problems should reverse.

WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?

The answer isn't easy to come by. There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old; fat, skinny; talkative, quiet; beautiful…not so beautiful. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. It's enough to drive a man crazy! We want to know so badly what it is women desire that Hollywood addressed the age-old question with the movie "What Women Want" (which, I'm embarrassed to say, I enjoyed).

So, surely…there must be something ALL women want?

That's the good news: There are certain qualities every woman can appreciate. And as men, that's what we need to focus on most. Not on what we THINK they want, but on what we can KNOW they want. Maybe we think being 6′5", wealthy, and jacked like a football player is what every woman wants, but (thankfully) it's not. Only certain women want that, and the groupies who only want a millionaire athlete on steroids usually aren't even worth your time.

It's better to focus on the girls YOU really want: the girls who make you feel good, and make you a better man. Empower yourself with a sense of choice, so that you don't waste your time (and theirs) hitting on girls who don't fit with your personality and purpose. The great news is, if you can provide the basic qualities that all women REALLY desire, then getting the girl of your dreams will be easy!

So let's look at some things we can safely say women want in a man–regardless of his size, regardless of his looks, regardless of his wealth.

1. A demonstrative value. That is, women want to know that their man is someone other women would want. They want a certain "gotta have" quality about their man. This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested. It's annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!

Naturally, that doesn't mean that you should be hitting on girls when you have a girlfriend. No way! But when you are single, it's important to know how to show value. I've got a great lesson on this in my e-book that will show you everything you need to know: how to make her laugh, how to show a talent, and how to make sure she never leaves you.

There's so much to learn, but in short, you want to be a guy girls love to be around, and that other girls want to have! If you don't feel like you're there right now, do your best to be a fun-loving guy who people enjoy being around. Be quick with a smile, and quick with a joke. Even a guy who smiles a lot can be someone girls want. Who doesn't enjoy being around someone who's happy, who lifts the mood of the room?

2. A man who needs her…but not too much. This can greatly value from girl to girl, but basically women DO want to feel appreciated. They just don't want to be obsessed over. Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted…but don't slave over her and make her feel like you can't live without her. That's just pathetic, and drives women away.

I wrote a blog on how women want to feel needed. Check it out now if you want to find out how to show your woman the right amount of love.

3. A feeling of security. Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everything's gonna be all right. This doesn't mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.

It also means coming to her protection, when she needs it. If someone is being a jerk to her, stand up for her. If she's being threatened, fight for her. Let her know that you will fight for her, and nothing will get in your way.

One of the best ways to make her feel confident that you will protect her, of course, is to be…

4. A guy who's in shape. Okay, I said that you don't have to be a professional rugby player to attract women, but that doesn't mean you should let your body slide! Part of a woman's evolutionary mechanism says that a man who is strong will protect her and the children, as well as produce strong children. Likewise, a man who is weak will produce weak children, and not be able to protect the family as well (if at all) It may occur subconsciously, but it's there.

So show her your value by being a guy who's well-built, healthy, and athletic. Join a gym, not just to get women but to improve your health and the way you see yourself. Join a martial arts class–who doesn't like a guy who can kick some ass? You'll feel better about yourself, making it easier to pick up girls, and her mating drive will only naturally attract her to you. It's a win-win situation!

5. Someone who's not boring. Doesn't matter how good looking you are…if you bore a woman to tears, she's not gonna stick around–or even give you a chance, for that matter. Be someone who smiles. Someone who's quick with a laugh. Someone who doesn't take life too seriously, who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than a guy who's stiff and serious–even if he is good looking or wealthy. Believe me, there are lots of guys who have money, who have good looks–but are single, because they're dull and not fun to be around.

6. Someone who's good with her friends. You've seen it at bars: girls always look to their friends for their approval. Get their friends' approval, and you get the girl's approval.

Oftentimes it's actually best to concentrate on getting to know the girl's group of friends before you spend time talking to her. If you can make her friends laugh and enjoy your company, getting the girl you want will be a piece of cake!

I really like this piece of advice from Joseph Matthews, aka Thundercat, author of The Art of the Approach, in his free e-newsletter: "Meeting women when they are with their friends is WAY easier than waiting for when they are alone! This is because women with friends feel safe and relaxed, so their defenses aren't up."

Furthermore, he warns that you're not doing your chances any favors by waiting til she's alone: "If you wait until she's by herself to meet her, you're walking into a situation where she's going to be WAY more defensive than usual." So learn to be sociable, and just have fun with her friends! If you can make them enjoy your company, getting your "target's" approval will be a piece of cake.

This is also where it's good to go with girls in the same social network as you…you already have the approval of mutual friends. The book, Sex in America, says that 60% of married couples meet through friends, work, or mutual activities. For more information on using networking to your benefit, click here.

Finally, the trait all women REALLY want: 7. A man with a purpose. Believe me, women don't expect every guy they meet to be worth hundreds of millions of dollars, have more power than the mayor, and be more handsome than Brad Pitt. They don't expect you to be wildly successful. But they DO want you to be headed towards success. They DO want you to have direction. They DO want you to be living up to your potential. And those aren't bad expectations to have! Remember, "Behind every great man is a great woman." You may not be at the top just yet, but as long as you're heading there, with goals in life, you're bound to attract women. And more importantly, reach your own personal success.

I highly suggest you read "The Way of the Superior Man," by David Deida. It details the importance of having a life purpose, both for you and for your girlfriend or wife. The book also explains the very important idea that if someone doesn't fit into your purpose, or detracts you from it, then she isn't worth your time. As I said above, don't just go for any old girl: go for the ones who fit YOU, and who make YOU a better person. That's what we men should really want!

I hope all of this advice helps you out as you seek to improve yourself and attract the women who matter to you. Remember that it isn't important to know what the bimbo who wants to spend all your money wants: it's important to know what women who want to be with you want. Empower yourself by being choosy, and you'll be sure to attract the woman who's right for you.

Finally, for more information on attracting the specific women you really want, check out my e-book and audio series. Thanks for reading!

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