While it's impossible for anyone who hasn't gone through it to understand the deep anguish experienced after a miscarriage, it's important for the couple to reach out and talk about their feelings. There are many outlets available to support those who have gone through a miscarriage, and seeking out help can encourage the couple to heal.

1. Sharing With Friends : While many times couples who have experienced a miscarriage choose not to talk about it because it hurts too much, it is often much better to get thoughts and feelings out into the air. Family and friends will be more than willing to help you during this time of loss, even just by lending an ear to listen. There are also many options available for the grieving couple to seek solace and help the healing process.

2. Using Internet Forums : One great option for the couple suffering from a miscarriage are online forums devoted just to the subject. Many couples, women in particular, share stories, both happy and sad about their experience. Some find it brings their relationship with their partner much closer, while others speak of the devastating loss. These stories can often help to soothe and console and make a couple not feel so alone in the process.

3. Keeping A Journal : Keeping a journal is another great way to get feelings out onto paper and heal. Many people find writing very therapeutic and are even able to come to realizations about themselves through the process. There also may be support groups available in the area where those suffering from miscarriage can get together and share their pain. Oftentimes a counselor is present to guide attendees through the process.

4. Talking To A Counselor : If talking to friends and family doesn't feel right, talking to a professional counselor may be the right option for you and your spouse. Miscarriages are not only hard for mom and dad, but there are hard on husband and wife too. If the wrong path is taken, relationships can suffer; it's important in this painful time to seek solace in your partner and talk about your feelings instead of pushing them away.

If you're a family member looking to console a loved one about a miscarriage the best thing you give them is an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. While it may be an uncomfortable situation to approach, saying something like "You are hurt, I would love for you to share your feelings with me" or "I am sorry and I am here for you" can be the simplest and most effective words to say.